Tie each other up and then what?

[2domeright]

I need advice about what to do when we do this....

My bf is trying to convince me to let him tie me up. I'm not saying no - but I've never done this? It kinda freaks me out giving him so much control. Any thoughts would be helpful.

Also he wants me to tie him up - so what do I do with him when he's tied up? Nothing freaky, still learning about this. Again any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Yardley]

Starter play? I would suggest tie and tease.

What the tease might consist of is sort of individual taste, but I would say start with whatever you get good responses to now (blow job, likely), then pull back just before you finish, work in a tease for a bit... go back to it till he is close, then pull back. Repeat

I would not recommend either of you go with serious ties that the other couldn't get out of easily if they wished too. I have had good results with the other person simply wrapping a well secured cord around their wrists and letting them grip it tightly. If they let go, they are free.

As far as him tying you up, I assume you trust this guy thoroughly? Before he ties you up, be certain you are clear about what is acceptable and what is not. It sounds cheesy but have a safe word so that he knows that when you use it you mean stop now, stop no questions asked.

Me? I would work in some gruff sounding threatening dirty talk. If that sort of thing interests you, let him know.

 

[DesEsseintes]

When you're both tied up, use Siri to call a locksmith.

 

[seela]

If the thought of being tied up makes you too nervous, you can start very small. For example, grab the headboard of your bed and tell him you will not let go no matter what he does. Maybe that could be a happy middle ground for you. That way you can see where his mind goes to, but you're also able to "interfere" if you feel like it.

Another easy option is velcro cuffs that you can remove yourself. Tell him to position your hands so that you can use one hand to open the cuff on the other if need be.

Being tied up doesn't mean it has to be rough or tight.

Have a little talk about what both of you want to get out of this and where your limits are that shouldn't be pushed. Talk about what he wishes to experience when he is tied up, he can give you some ideas too. The same goes to you, let him know about your insecurities and make a rough plan of what's going to happen.

Generally doing things you both enjoy, only tied up, is a good starting point. You can venture in new areas once you get more comfortable with the whole bondage aspect of the situation.

 

[Malich]

Keep a sharp knife / rope cutter to hand as well.

If you need out quick it might be easier to just cut a knot that have someone fumble for minutes in a panic trying to unpick something that has become overly tight due to a struggle.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[MeekMe]

Perhaps you could tie him up first? Get a feel for things that way. If you're nervous, there's already some great answers above. Simply working with holding something first, like seela suggested (I like this way very much). Or, bind the wrists loosely and not attatched to anything. Something easy to undo yourself in case being tied is too overwhelming. Tie it with a bow that's easy to undo and looks less menacing. （＾_＾）You could also try using a flimsy material that could easily be broken (think paper streamers).

As for fun things to do once holding or being tied, I think the teasing idea Yardley suggested is a great place to start. Or, if blindfolds are on the table, sensation play. Light touching, using feathers or ice. Tasting? Chocolate, honey, surprise lemon juice? That last one might be kind of mean.

If looking to advance, Malich makes a good point. Safety is an issue and of course you should both be aware of some basics. Do you know what you'd like to use? Rope, cuffs, something else?

Here's the link to past discussions, you might find some ideas and maybe narrow down your questions for more specific answers. http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=295644

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[subwannabe]

I would suggest searching the stories section here and finding tied up stories that turn each other on and share them with each other.

 

[MasterBenWest]

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[hardestinches]

It is true that being tied up gives up control but you'll love it. When you are at his mercy, he will look at you differently than ever before. He can inspect your body and play with the parts of you he otherwise might feel self-conscious about. He will probably spank you or pinch your nipples to watch you squirm. He could tie you up in a way where he can have his way with you entirely.

After he ties you up, you may both decide to skip tying him up all together. Once you're used to physical restraints, you'll stay in whatever position he wants all by yourself. Have fun and take pictures.

 

[spellslave]

EMT shears are generally recommended over scissors, because they lack sharp points that may stab/cut into someone if they are struggling while you are trying to get them out. EMT shears are used in hospitals to remove clothing without cutting the flesh, and can be obtained either quite cheaply on their own or as part of a first aid kit.

You can buy 'starter' bondage kits from shops like Ann Summers or the equivalent for your location. While the materials are often quite cheap - I was able to break a set of handcuffs with a single good jerk while struggling in a session - they will provide a springboard of sorts for you to decide if you want to progress further or not. Handcuffs, gags and rope is quite simple. Spreader bars, complicated knots and ropes connecting the neck to the ankles are another thing entirely!