Thrust and hold?

[muttley44]

I was reading an article on sexual techniques and came across the "Thrust and hold maneuver".

Simply put, the guy thrusts as deep as he can and holds it in there.

I know the name sounds like something you'd do in a dogfight, but has anyone heard of this and does it really work?

 

[M's girl]

.... but has anyone heard of this and does it really work?

Does it work? What is it supposed to do according to the technique? It sure feels good to me....

 

[muttley44]

Does it work? What is it supposed to do according to the technique? It sure feels good to me....

Here's the article:

http://www.catb.org/~esr/writings/sextips/bedplay.html

I guess the part that I'm asking is this:

"If your partner likes deep penetration this will drive her berserk, so you'll get a double benefit"

I realize that stopping the motion (for the guy) delays ejaculation, but from the female's perspective I thought this was a no-no.

 

[M's girl]

Okay, I did not read the whole thing so I may have missed something. Let me start by saying that I don't orgasm from penetration alone. But it sure feels good and depending on my mood I can crave different forms/manners of penetration though, like I said, they will not get me off. I like being on my stomach and M penetrating me while he sits behind me. Deep penetration and slow thrusting feels great then and sometimes he stays there for a bit, which feels lovely too.

The times when I have been close to an orgasm from penetration is when he had, indeed, picked up the right pace and kept is steady. I think a lot of women need that certain rhythm and breaking it puts their excitement level a few degrees down.

So in that respect it does not work; he will definately have to keep the steady pace once I'm aroused to the point where I could reach orgasm. Before that it's just playing around and all good.

 

[muttley44]

Excellent information.

Thanks!

 

[M's girl]

No thanks. Hey, you're good enough for an Av (over 100 posts)

 

[DrHappy]

I'm a guy, but from my experience I'm a little dubious about the claim that "If your partner likes deep penetration this will drive her berserk, so you'll get a double benefit." I have a hunch that this worked really well for at least one girl friend of the author. I skimmed through the rest of the article, it looked like it contained some pretty good general advice. If you give her enough foreplay and get her REALLY turned on, then almost anything that you do at the initial insertion will feel great. Slowly grinding against her clitoris while completely inserted is often effective.

 

[M's girl]

If there was one technique that worked for everyone there would not be this many people frustrated over sex, is my guess. What works for me doesn't do a thing for the next girl/woman and vice versa. The grinding against a woman's clit during intercourse, for example, sounds like solid advice, but does not work for me because mine lies too deep to be able to grind against, so there you go.

 

[Eilan]

It would probably hurt my cervix during the first half of my cycle. That's fine for ladies who get off on cervix-pounding pain. I might like a little pain with my pleasure, but not that kinda pain.

I'm sure there are ladies out there who'd be fine with this.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I think a lot of women need that certain rhythm and breaking it puts their excitement level a few degrees down.

Really? There is a technique in Tantric sex, of which I can only recall this one technique, in which the guy uses 5 very shallow thrusts followed by one thrust of full penetration. This supposedly delays ejaculation as it slowly builds the excitement in the male while not decreasing the pleasure of the woman.

So is it maybe that the difference isn't the depth of penetration that lowers you excitement level, but the losss of rhythm?

 

[M's girl]

It would probably hurt my cervix during the first half of my cycle. That's fine for ladies who get off on cervix-pounding pain. I might like a little pain with my pleasure, but not that kinda pain.

I'm sure there are ladies out there who'd be fine with this.

That would be more like doggy style for me. If he then thrusts (too) deep it can sometimes hurt. Not when I'm flat on my stomach though. Guess there's too much flesh keeping him from getting in too deep, while we still both get the feeling that he can't get any further/deeper. I'm sure that time of the month has something to do with it although I haven't had a periode in over two years due to my form of anti-conception. So I'm not quite sure when that time of the month is visiting me anymore (lost track). I'm also sure it's not because M is not too well shaped (this one's for you Eilan ) because at some times..... ouch

 

[M's girl]

Really? There is a technique in Tantric sex, of which I can only recall this one technique, in which the guy uses 5 very shallow thrusts followed by one thrust of full penetration. This supposedly delays ejaculation as it slowly builds the excitement in the male while not decreasing the pleasure of the woman.

So is it maybe that the difference isn't the depth of penetration that lowers you excitement level, but the losss of rhythm?

Tantric sex or not.... I know what works for me and it sure is the rhythm. But which depth works depends on my level of arousal too I think. Too much pounding away just like that isn't going to work, nor is the shallow quick pace. I need it nice and slow but forcefull and with passion. I think I confuse M a lot because I like that pace with the penetration while I like (and need) a much faster pace stimulating my clit (which I usually do myself at the same time). It's hard for him to not get confused, which I can understand. If he goes to fast or thrusts too hard he can effect my rubbing my clit which can result in oversensitivity, even if I do it myself. I know.... I'm difficult

Sometimes he will slow down or stop alltogether because otherwise he will orgasm too soon. This will, unfortunately, throw me back more than a few steps too, so the endresult is the same

I must confess I'm starting to see the benefits of Viagra here (maybe) although we have never tried it and probably never will. For one, I don't like artificial stuff (not too much into toys too) and second.... part of what makes his thrusting at a steady pace makes it so hot is knowing that he is very excited too and almost can't hold back.

It's a strange and confusing world...

 

[bobsgirl]

...The times when I have been close to an orgasm from penetration is when he had, indeed, picked up the right pace and kept is steady. I think a lot of women need that certain rhythm and breaking it puts their excitement level a few degrees down.

So in that respect it does not work; he will definately have to keep the steady pace once I'm aroused to the point where I could reach orgasm. Before that it's just playing around and all good.

Yes, I agree with you, MG.

Having said that, thrust deep and hold sounds pretty damn good to me. Especially if it's at an angle that hits the ol' G-spot.

 

[artsmom]

My husband does this type of manuver sometimes and I LOVE IT! However, with previous larger sized partners, it wasn't so great.

 

[rthnck]

My SO loves this. I have the feeling sometimes that if I had the self-control to hold for long enough she could have an orgasm from this. She loves the deep penetration and then the hold has her quivering and moaning. Then I just lightly twitch or move just the tiniest amount and it gets better for her. Of course eventually I find that I have to start moving again and on we go....

 

[wicked woman]

Really? There is a technique in Tantric sex, of which I can only recall this one technique, in which the guy uses 5 very shallow thrusts followed by one thrust of full penetration. This supposedly delays ejaculation as it slowly builds the excitement in the male while not decreasing the pleasure of the woman.

So is it maybe that the difference isn't the depth of penetration that lowers you excitement level, but the losss of rhythm?

This gets my vote as does the thrust deeply and hold...but then I love deep penetration, it doesn't hurt my cervix, and since I'm multi-orgasmic, slowing down won't stop me for long.

So the answer to your question...and all questions about what a woman likes is....it depends on the woman.

 

[eudaemonia]

"If your partner likes deep penetration this will drive her berserk, so you'll get a double benefit"

I realize that stopping the motion (for the guy) delays ejaculation, but from the female's perspective I thought this was a no-no.

It's definitely not a no-no AFAIC.

If he holds it there, it gives me a chance to flex my PC muscles a time or two. (Mmmmmm......) I suspect that's fine by him, too.

As WW said, it all depends on the woman.

 

[ChainedRebel]

Have to echo what M' Girl and wicked woman have said that it all depends on the woman. Each of us as individuals like what we like.

My wife loves to have me push in deep and hold myself there. I'm an average hung guy so no huge penetration issues. She likes it slow and rythmic in the beginning. I can alternate from quick shallow thrusts to slow deep penetrations while she stilulates her clit, either by toy or fingers. She also does not cum from penetration alone. At least not the first time, once she has the first one she can cum several times without touching her clit but she needs that first one to get her there.

But after that "prepatory" thrusting, she likes me to sink deep into her, as deep as I can, like moving flesh and grinding in deep, and just hold it there. I'll slip back a bit and back in but I have to watch her close because even that movement at the wrong time can throw off her "internal" rhythym. I can tell when I move at the wrong time it sets her back.

I can feel her mucsles clench and milk my shaft while I'm burried in her and after 19 years I can read her pussy like a book and know when she's there. When she's right there on the verge of explosion. And that's when it's time to thrust and pound. She wants to hold my cock deep as she works to that wonderful release and then when it is time she wants to be fucked and fucked hard. And if, and I do mean if as by then just watching her cum makes me so crazy, I can just keep on hammering she will just keep on cumming. To the point that when I'm really in control and just start hammering and can keep going she'll tell me to stop because she can't come any more, and then I go just a bit more until I expolode.

The moral of the story? For my woman it's a combination thing but she definately is one to enjoy a deep hard thrust and hold.

 

[muttley44]

Thrust and hold and pry and stretch

I saw this video a couple of months ago and provided the impetus to my research:

http://www.youporn.com/watch/3134

It's a regular porno clip until almost the end. She's lying, face down, and he's entering her pussy from behind. (As M's girl described)

Then they do something odd. He's holding himself inside for a second and starts prying her open by raising himself up. They both grimsace (and I assume she cums). She jiggles a bit to get what seems to be a more intense rub.

I guess the follow up to this question is, "Is the feeling of being split open (in a slow burning fashion) an intensely pleasurable feeling for you, or does it just fucking hurt?"

I realize in general this all depends on the woman, but I'm asking your personal thoughts on the matter.

 

[Guest]

fine points of anatomy

It's definitely not a no-no AFAIC.

If he holds it there, it gives me a chance to flex my PC muscles a time or two. (Mmmmmm......) I suspect that's fine by him, too.

As WW said, it all depends on the woman.

It can vary,even for the same woman.

Depends how far you go. When a woman is highly aroused (I mean not the usual friday night arousement - one can get a couple orgasms before this starts happening), her cervix rides up, and her vagina "tents", making a nice little spot to hold tight to those little swimmers.

In this area, there is a nerve rich are caused the anterior fornix (a-spot), which is very rich in nerve endings. The "tenting" exposes the area for stimulation. Along with that, high levels of arousal diminish the ability to feel pain, making the woman able to withstand harder thrusting.

In some women, the spot is not "awakened" until the higher level of arousal is reached.

With me, if I am not aroused enough, it is a no-no. If it is sufficient, I go along, but will feel pain a couple of hours afterwards. If I am truly gone, there is no pain, and sometimes I forget what happened too

Maharat

 

[Puman]

I'm a guy, but from my experience I'm a little dubious about the claim that "If your partner likes deep penetration this will drive her berserk, so you'll get a double benefit." I have a hunch that this worked really well for at least one girl friend of the author. I skimmed through the rest of the article, it looked like it contained some pretty good general advice. If you give her enough foreplay and get her REALLY turned on, then almost anything that you do at the initial insertion will feel great. Slowly grinding against her clitoris while completely inserted is often effective.

Here here! This is a must! works wonders.

 

[artsmom]

I'm a guy, but from my experience I'm a little dubious about the claim that "If your partner likes deep penetration this will drive her berserk, so you'll get a double benefit." I have a hunch that this worked really well for at least one girl friend of the author. I skimmed through the rest of the article, it looked like it contained some pretty good general advice. If you give her enough foreplay and get her REALLY turned on, then almost anything that you do at the initial insertion will feel great. Slowly grinding against her clitoris while completely inserted is often effective.

Now I know why you are called DrHappy...

 

[Apollonia_K]

Have to echo what M' Girl and wicked woman have said that it all depends on the woman. Each of us as individuals like what we like.

My wife loves to have me push in deep and hold myself there. I'm an average hung guy so no huge penetration issues. She likes it slow and rythmic in the beginning. I can alternate from quick shallow thrusts to slow deep penetrations while she stilulates her clit, either by toy or fingers. She also does not cum from penetration alone. At least not the first time, once she has the first one she can cum several times without touching her clit but she needs that first one to get her there.

But after that "prepatory" thrusting, she likes me to sink deep into her, as deep as I can, like moving flesh and grinding in deep, and just hold it there. I'll slip back a bit and back in but I have to watch her close because even that movement at the wrong time can throw off her "internal" rhythym. I can tell when I move at the wrong time it sets her back.

I can feel her mucsles clench and milk my shaft while I'm burried in her and after 19 years I can read her pussy like a book and know when she's there. When she's right there on the verge of explosion. And that's when it's time to thrust and pound. She wants to hold my cock deep as she works to that wonderful release and then when it is time she wants to be fucked and fucked hard. And if, and I do mean if as by then just watching her cum makes me so crazy, I can just keep on hammering she will just keep on cumming. To the point that when I'm really in control and just start hammering and can keep going she'll tell me to stop because she can't come any more, and then I go just a bit more until I expolode.

The moral of the story? For my woman it's a combination thing but she definately is one to enjoy a deep hard thrust and hold.

DAMN!!!!! If I were a smoker, I'd need a cigarette from just reading this post! I hope your wife realizes how lucky she is to have a man who wants to please her as much as you obviously do.

 

[Juggins]

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[eudaemonia]

In this area, there is a nerve rich are caused the anterior fornix (a-spot), which is very rich in nerve endings.

Yes, I've posted about this, here and here.