Throwing yourself at someone - a question

[Rubyfruit]

Does it work? I usually sit back and wait for the person to come to me. However, I find myself in the situation of throwing myself at a particular person now, and it's been a very frustrating experience.

What are your thoughts? Do you like it when somebody tells you how much you turn them on? Would you rather they sit demurely and wait for your approach?

Curiously,

Ruby

 

[april-wine]

Good Question Ruby.........

I have done a little of both.......But it was a serious turn on to have them tell me........It was incredible, a rush for the senses

We are still the best of friends to this day......

 

[Skibum]

I've only thrown myself at someone once, but it worked. Now we live together.

 

[Problem Child]

Slather your naked, aroused body with rubber cement and get a running start.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Slather your naked, aroused body with rubber cement and get a running start.

You really think that would work, PC? I'm not a girl who is used to chasing, so this is all new to me.

Ruby

 

[u2slow13]

have noticed that

 

[LukkyKnight]

What will be will be, Ruby

As I just mentioned over in the turning people down thread it's sure not a given. If the person's already interested, yes, if they are on the fence it may result in them jumping back startled...

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Depends ....

Depending on who is " throwing " themselves @ me.

I have had men tell me as to why they like me & why they want to go out with me and I find this so flattering ....

But ...

Then there have been those men who have " thrown" themselves @ me & told me how I " turn them on " .. and honestly it has been a total turn off ...mainly because they come off as so needy & some how I get a bad {{{{{vibe}}}}}}} from them.

 

[juicylips]

If I am interested, I usually am pretty blatant about it.

I guess I do throw myself hoping to be caught

You have to decide if it is worth the risk of rejection..hard decision sometimes...but when someone really intrigues you and takes up a lot of your thoughts..you just have to do something, right?

Cassidy

 

[Rubyfruit]

...but when someone really intrigues you and takes up a lot of your thoughts..you just have to do something, right?

Yes, that's what I thought. This person does intrigue me and takes up far too many of my thoughts. Frankly, I'm thinking of kicking him out of my brain, but I don't know how.

Ruby

 

[juicylips]

Yes, that's what I thought. This person does intrigue me and takes up far too many of my thoughts. Frankly, I'm thinking of kicking him out of my brain, but I don't know how.

Ruby

When you figure out how to do that, PLEASE let me know..

Most of the time I like those thoughts, but sometimes they are damn inconvenient, like moaning (softly) the wrong name while fucking your husband..ouch....

Cassidy

 

[LukkyKnight]

simple suggestion

When you figure out how to do that, PLEASE let me know..
Cassidy

Start referring to em as Yayati. Not only is it likely to have an aversive effect on your mood, but they are bound to ask if you call them Yayati to their face, and once you are done with that explanation there's no way you're gonna score.

 

[SoKrazy]

Ruby, who ever the lucky person is that you're chasing, they sure must be something special.... If they don't appreciate it, you can always chase me

--SK
Ruby's #1, #2 & #3 Fan

 

[Rubyfruit]

Ruby, who ever the lucky person is that you're chasing, they sure must be something special.... If they don't appreciate it, you can always chase me

--SK
Ruby's #1, #2 & #3 Fan

Krazy, you're so sweet. *kiss*

Ruby

 

[Calamity Jane]

There's a difference between throwing yourself at someone and making it clear that you're attracted to them. I generally let a guy know that I find him attractive, and back off to flirting. Sometimes obvious, bawdy flirting, but not making every conversation into a sexual encounter... make sense?

I've never had to do much more than make myself clear, and then be me. *shrug* I didn't always get the guy, but I could generally avoid being alone when I didn't want to be.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Does it work?

It depends on the degree and timing. I like a gentle ramp up. But when it clicks, it really clicks - and then I like to move right along and not hold back. As such I have scared off some people, even those who know me well; my ex-wife and I tried to get back together once about 10 years ago, and even though it was her idea not mine, she backed off when I started running through the planning stage.

Some men (I assume this is a man) are spooked by a female chasing after them. I am not if I think the woman attractive and compatible - if she doesn't come chargin out of the gate. I want to get to know her well first. But once I am fairly satisfied about the main issues - full speed ahead!

I usually sit back and wait for the person to come to me.

Please don't do that. I hate when people play those games. I take it as non-interest and move on. I have had a number of women who were interested in me play that game and I refused to even ante up. I am not interested in such games and life is just too short for them - especially as I get older.

However, I find myself in the situation of throwing myself at a particular person now, and it's been a very frustrating experience.

Take it easy and gentle, but show interest. If there is no progress, then maybe they are no interested.

Do you like it when somebody tells you how much you turn them on?

Yes. But I don't like having to tell someone that they don't turn me on, or that they do turn me on, but there is some major sticking point.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

<<<<<<<Do you like it when somebody tells you how much you turn them on?>>>>>>>

In 'real time' or 'online'.... most women like to be complimented if the person handing them out is truthful and not just jerking off himself..........

But then some women get kicks from men jerking off, lol.

Depending if in 'real time' or 'online', it may be a different response to the compliment.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Re: Re: Throwing yourself at someone - a question

It depends on the degree and timing. I like a gentle ramp up. ...

Thank you for your well-thought out reply, STG. Here's the thing, I don't think I'm really thowing myself at this person, sexually speaking. People here probably wouldn't believe it, but I'm rather shy. Honestly.

I am married, so there is only so far it could go anyway. But I enjoy getting to know people I find interesting. Unfortunately, I keep finding a road block in this instance.

Ruby

 

[RedJ]

In my life...

...there was one moment when I said to myself I must talk to this girl right this minute or I will regret not doing it for the rest of my life. I had a 'window of opportunity' for a split second and I jumped in and while speaking to her my voice cracked, I was so nervous. After that though we became closer, flirted, I obviously came on to her and she did the same with me. Sometimes me more than her, while at other times her more than me. It took almost 5 years for us to get together and numerous other relationships but now I feel really lucky and happy. So maybe you need to look at this guy like one possible option over a longer period of time.

RedJ

 

[T.H. Oughts]

<<<<<<I am married, so there is only so far it could go anyway. But I enjoy getting to know people I find interesting. Unfortunately, I keep finding a road block in this instance. >>>>>>>

There's your answer.. road block and married... maybe you muse is sending you warning lights.

Just think of the biggest jerk you knew at high school and each time you feel that nice person in your head, think of the jerk... soon your muse will have you calming down.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I threw myself at PC once, but he saw me coming and moved out of the way. It was on a concrete floor too. It really hurt. Next time I throw myself at someone, I fully intend to sneak up on him. I'm thinking of tossing myself at DCL next. Whattya think? Think he'll notice?

 

[Problem Child]

Liar!

I would never move!

 

[Rubyfruit]

I threw myself at PC once, but he saw me coming and moved out of the way. It was on a concrete floor too. It really hurt. Next time I throw myself at someone, I fully intend to sneak up on him. I'm thinking of tossing myself at DCL next. Whattya think? Think he'll notice?

Ouch, that must have really hurt, KM. You'd think a nice guy like PC wouldn't do that knowing a concrete floor was your ultimate destination.

I don't know about DCL. I PM'd him once and he didn't answer, so you'd better be careful.

Ruby

 

[Problem Child]

Dixon would move. He's like Lucy, pulling the football at the last second.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I threw myself at PC once, but he saw me coming and moved out of the way. It was on a concrete floor too. It really hurt. Next time I throw myself at someone, I fully intend to sneak up on him. I'm thinking of tossing myself at DCL next. Whattya think? Think he'll notice?

PC's like that, ya gotta watch out.

DCL will notice all right, and then he'll lock you in a box and saw you in half.