Anyone been ina threesome and care to share their experience? I'm interested in 2M 1F and vice versa. What are the men's preferences, and what are the women's? Alos, do you think this is something you do with someone you love? Did this ruin a relationship, or make it better?
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It depends why...
...you want to do it.
My experience is MFF and because my partner, whom I love very much, is bi it's always a pleasurable experience for us both. Our regular partner is compatible and my partner finds her very, very attractive so...it works. She isn't a friend or anyone we see for anything except sex so there isn't any social awkwardness. It's purely casual.
If your partner isn't as interested as you then your relationship could be in jeopardy so tread carefully and ask yourself (or selves) who really wants it and why.
Good luck.
...you want to do it.
My experience is MFF and because my partner, whom I love very much, is bi it's always a pleasurable experience for us both. Our regular partner is compatible and my partner finds her very, very attractive so...it works. She isn't a friend or anyone we see for anything except sex so there isn't any social awkwardness. It's purely casual.
If your partner isn't as interested as you then your relationship could be in jeopardy so tread carefully and ask yourself (or selves) who really wants it and why.
Good luck.
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Its best for the center ...
... of attention. Usually that means the person in the middle, but not always. I would imagine you're thinking of a double penetration? A wonderful idea, but unless your guy is really willing to share, or is bi, you better start with how jealous he gets and how much you want to stay in the relationship.
On the other hand, if my wife mentioned something like that during foreplay, or sex talk, i would gradually find out what she wanted in the other guy, and why, and see if i could set it up for her. That way, i would feel more in control, and more likely to make it happen.
If it's a serious relationship, spend the time talking about it. Or go to the bar and find two attractive guys. Sometimes the simplest route is best.
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... of attention. Usually that means the person in the middle, but not always. I would imagine you're thinking of a double penetration? A wonderful idea, but unless your guy is really willing to share, or is bi, you better start with how jealous he gets and how much you want to stay in the relationship.
On the other hand, if my wife mentioned something like that during foreplay, or sex talk, i would gradually find out what she wanted in the other guy, and why, and see if i could set it up for her. That way, i would feel more in control, and more likely to make it happen.
If it's a serious relationship, spend the time talking about it. Or go to the bar and find two attractive guys. Sometimes the simplest route is best.
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I have been in...
...both mmf and ffm threesomes in the past, and though they were okay, they're not all they're cracked up to be. I personally think they're overrated. With the exception of my ex, I had never been in a threesome with someone I cared about. (It had been with a male friend of mine, etc., but not a boyfriend.) Let's face it, jealousy is human nature. It's bound to happen when a loving couple attempts to go down this road together. Good luck.
...both mmf and ffm threesomes in the past, and though they were okay, they're not all they're cracked up to be. I personally think they're overrated. With the exception of my ex, I had never been in a threesome with someone I cared about. (It had been with a male friend of mine, etc., but not a boyfriend.) Let's face it, jealousy is human nature. It's bound to happen when a loving couple attempts to go down this road together. Good luck.
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I think...
...Tiggs makes a pretty good point. For many couples it isn't what it's cracked up to be and jealousy becomes a real issue with long lasting impact. One response mentioned being "in control" but intimate, sensual experiences are not about being in control. Sex is that one time when it has to be out of control to be really earth shattering. There has to be openness, trust, and freedom for sex to become erotic.
In our case, after all these years, jealousy has not been an issue. I knew when I married CDable that she had what she called "powerful lesbian tendencies" so part of making our sensual life together so fulfilling has been to recognise this desire and satisfy it. What we settled on was a paid escort whom we both happen to like very much as a person and, dare I say it, friend (you can be friends with your business partners). Our "friend" is genuinely bi and all of our experiences together have been especially earth quaking for cd-able. I find my greatest pleasure is from seeing her in such ecstacy rather than having the opportunity to have sex with a different woman. CDable remains the most erotic and sensual lover I have ever known.
Like I said...it depends who wants it and why.
...Tiggs makes a pretty good point. For many couples it isn't what it's cracked up to be and jealousy becomes a real issue with long lasting impact. One response mentioned being "in control" but intimate, sensual experiences are not about being in control. Sex is that one time when it has to be out of control to be really earth shattering. There has to be openness, trust, and freedom for sex to become erotic.
In our case, after all these years, jealousy has not been an issue. I knew when I married CDable that she had what she called "powerful lesbian tendencies" so part of making our sensual life together so fulfilling has been to recognise this desire and satisfy it. What we settled on was a paid escort whom we both happen to like very much as a person and, dare I say it, friend (you can be friends with your business partners). Our "friend" is genuinely bi and all of our experiences together have been especially earth quaking for cd-able. I find my greatest pleasure is from seeing her in such ecstacy rather than having the opportunity to have sex with a different woman. CDable remains the most erotic and sensual lover I have ever known.
Like I said...it depends who wants it and why.
This is no exact science!
I have been involved in both MFM and FMF threesomes. My first MFM threesome was with my spouse and a man who I wouldn't necessarily call a friend. Even though the experience was exciting at the time (for me), my husband, being in this situation for the first time after 14 years in a monogomous relationship felt a tremdous pouring of jealous feelings even though this is something we both wanted and discussed having a threesome many times before. After the fact I found myself feeling cheep and used which is something I had not allowed myself to even think about. There is a fine line between acting like a slut and being treated like one if that makes any sense.
Now after almost a year we have found great pleasure in sharing with another couple whom even though we met on line, we have become inserperable friends with. Even though there are four of us, we find this a much more enjoyable experience with so many options for exploring. Amongst the four of us, there have times when one of the four was not able to be participate leaving the opportunity for a threesome. With a threesome, you do have more of a possibility of someone feeling left out because you are not always paired together like you are in a foursome, so be aware of your spouse at all times. You'd much rather the "third" feel left out than your mate. With our friends there have been many times too that we have had foursomes, including complete swaps between us. We find that this is much more enjoyable for us because we are sharing these experiences with two people whom we both care deeply for and it makes for a more equal playing field as far as jealousy is concerned. However, sharing with friends is not for everyone and I have heard of plenty of nightmare stories involving friends so you must choose carefully when you decide to play adult games with close friends. One difference in our friendship is that we went into this relationship looking for sex but in the process we found friends. There is an understanding amongst the four of us that is awesome. This is a very emotional game that we play and in the wrong relationship can be very devastating so again choose wisely and as others have said make certain you know who wants it and why. It is also a good idea to set the ground rules before you find yourself in a threesome. Remember you are in this together so you must keep your spouses desires in mind at all time as well as your own.
I have been involved in both MFM and FMF threesomes. My first MFM threesome was with my spouse and a man who I wouldn't necessarily call a friend. Even though the experience was exciting at the time (for me), my husband, being in this situation for the first time after 14 years in a monogomous relationship felt a tremdous pouring of jealous feelings even though this is something we both wanted and discussed having a threesome many times before. After the fact I found myself feeling cheep and used which is something I had not allowed myself to even think about. There is a fine line between acting like a slut and being treated like one if that makes any sense.
Now after almost a year we have found great pleasure in sharing with another couple whom even though we met on line, we have become inserperable friends with. Even though there are four of us, we find this a much more enjoyable experience with so many options for exploring. Amongst the four of us, there have times when one of the four was not able to be participate leaving the opportunity for a threesome. With a threesome, you do have more of a possibility of someone feeling left out because you are not always paired together like you are in a foursome, so be aware of your spouse at all times. You'd much rather the "third" feel left out than your mate. With our friends there have been many times too that we have had foursomes, including complete swaps between us. We find that this is much more enjoyable for us because we are sharing these experiences with two people whom we both care deeply for and it makes for a more equal playing field as far as jealousy is concerned. However, sharing with friends is not for everyone and I have heard of plenty of nightmare stories involving friends so you must choose carefully when you decide to play adult games with close friends. One difference in our friendship is that we went into this relationship looking for sex but in the process we found friends. There is an understanding amongst the four of us that is awesome. This is a very emotional game that we play and in the wrong relationship can be very devastating so again choose wisely and as others have said make certain you know who wants it and why. It is also a good idea to set the ground rules before you find yourself in a threesome. Remember you are in this together so you must keep your spouses desires in mind at all time as well as your own.
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I'd love to hear more about how you and your husband came to the discussion, and how the discussion came to the conclusion, that you wanted others in the bedroom. How did you then find this other couple, and how did you screen couples to know even whom to meet and whom not too? Reply or email is fine.
I'd love to hear more about how you and your husband came to the discussion, and how the discussion came to the conclusion, that you wanted others in the bedroom. How did you then find this other couple, and how did you screen couples to know even whom to meet and whom not too? Reply or email is fine.
Where do I begin???
I guess the fantasy kind of began many years ago for my husband. I can't count the number of hours he would spend reading stories on Literotica. From time to time he would find a good one and he would have me read it with him looking on. Even during those times I'd find myself getting extremely turned on but I would NEVER had considered it in real life and I can't remember ever reading a story about a 3some or 4some. I guess I was stuck in the mold that good girls don't do that....Anyway...jump forward about 15 years. My husband is surfing and goes into the chat room here at Literotica (as Juliet believe it or not) then says come here and look at this. I am looking on reading the things guys are whispering him and before I know it I am telling him what to say...then before long I am at the keyboard....the next few months led to many nights of me cybering with guys while he did what ever they told him or did whatever they were doing to me in the cyber. Needless to say our sex life went through the roof. The fact remained though that both of us were scared to adimant about NOT taking things out of the chatroom. Then things began to change again. We began talking more and more about the idea of me being with someone else. There had been someone that the two of us had met in the chatroom so we began making plans to meet him on a trip we had planned. It was both an exciting and a frightening experience. We did go through with a 3some with the guy but up until the last moment before I kissed him for the first time, I was scared to death about how my husband would react. He said he would enjoy seeing me with another man...but how could he REALLY know until he actually did. And oddly enough kissing was what he felt would be the hardest part because that he said that is where the emotion is. I for one can't have sex without emotion. But that is one difference between men and women. All went well with the 3some until my husband had an orgasm. I had done all things that could be imagined with both of them for a couple of hours and the three of us were hotter than ever but once he came his whole mood changed. The look on his face was devasting and I thought that if the guy touched me again my husband would kill him! So we knew the time had come for this 3some to be overwith. Once the guy left he and I layed there for a couple of hours holding each other and talking about what had just taken place. Then we made love. Once my husband was reassured that I had shared my body but my heart belonged to him he was ok with the events before us. Several weeks later we spent the night with the same guy again. This time without jealousy but this was the last time the two of us made plans to be with him. ....Now jump forward a couple more months. I had continued chatting in another chatroom and began talking to a female about our previous experience. She and I just kind of clicked from the beginning as friends. (Neither of us are bi) Some nights I would chat with her husband and she would chat with mine. We made a step forward by having phone sex. Her husband and I were the ones on the phone. After about a month of chatting and a couple of times of phone sex and a few conversations with her on the phone we made plans to meet for dinner. We met for dinner then went to a swingers party. lol None of us had ever been to such a party so our eyes were wide open to say the least. There was no sexual activity between the four of us that night. Now eight months later we have had many experiences with them. We have experienced 3somes, 4somes and complete swaps with them but we have also done things such as camping, swimming, and shopping. We have gone to family events such as ballgames, dance recitals etc. My point in this part of it is that we came on here first to have fun, to explore our fantasies and looking for sex but in the process of all of it we found a couple of the best friends we could have ever imagined. It has not always been easy. Some days it's like an emotional roller coaster but this is an emotional game we play. But in the process we have learned a tremedous amount about each other and about ourselves. Let me know if you have any specific questions. The main advice I will give you is above all....communicate with your spouse!
I guess the fantasy kind of began many years ago for my husband. I can't count the number of hours he would spend reading stories on Literotica. From time to time he would find a good one and he would have me read it with him looking on. Even during those times I'd find myself getting extremely turned on but I would NEVER had considered it in real life and I can't remember ever reading a story about a 3some or 4some. I guess I was stuck in the mold that good girls don't do that....Anyway...jump forward about 15 years. My husband is surfing and goes into the chat room here at Literotica (as Juliet believe it or not) then says come here and look at this. I am looking on reading the things guys are whispering him and before I know it I am telling him what to say...then before long I am at the keyboard....the next few months led to many nights of me cybering with guys while he did what ever they told him or did whatever they were doing to me in the cyber. Needless to say our sex life went through the roof. The fact remained though that both of us were scared to adimant about NOT taking things out of the chatroom. Then things began to change again. We began talking more and more about the idea of me being with someone else. There had been someone that the two of us had met in the chatroom so we began making plans to meet him on a trip we had planned. It was both an exciting and a frightening experience. We did go through with a 3some with the guy but up until the last moment before I kissed him for the first time, I was scared to death about how my husband would react. He said he would enjoy seeing me with another man...but how could he REALLY know until he actually did. And oddly enough kissing was what he felt would be the hardest part because that he said that is where the emotion is. I for one can't have sex without emotion. But that is one difference between men and women. All went well with the 3some until my husband had an orgasm. I had done all things that could be imagined with both of them for a couple of hours and the three of us were hotter than ever but once he came his whole mood changed. The look on his face was devasting and I thought that if the guy touched me again my husband would kill him! So we knew the time had come for this 3some to be overwith. Once the guy left he and I layed there for a couple of hours holding each other and talking about what had just taken place. Then we made love. Once my husband was reassured that I had shared my body but my heart belonged to him he was ok with the events before us. Several weeks later we spent the night with the same guy again. This time without jealousy but this was the last time the two of us made plans to be with him. ....Now jump forward a couple more months. I had continued chatting in another chatroom and began talking to a female about our previous experience. She and I just kind of clicked from the beginning as friends. (Neither of us are bi) Some nights I would chat with her husband and she would chat with mine. We made a step forward by having phone sex. Her husband and I were the ones on the phone. After about a month of chatting and a couple of times of phone sex and a few conversations with her on the phone we made plans to meet for dinner. We met for dinner then went to a swingers party. lol None of us had ever been to such a party so our eyes were wide open to say the least. There was no sexual activity between the four of us that night. Now eight months later we have had many experiences with them. We have experienced 3somes, 4somes and complete swaps with them but we have also done things such as camping, swimming, and shopping. We have gone to family events such as ballgames, dance recitals etc. My point in this part of it is that we came on here first to have fun, to explore our fantasies and looking for sex but in the process of all of it we found a couple of the best friends we could have ever imagined. It has not always been easy. Some days it's like an emotional roller coaster but this is an emotional game we play. But in the process we have learned a tremedous amount about each other and about ourselves. Let me know if you have any specific questions. The main advice I will give you is above all....communicate with your spouse!
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When I first became involved with Wolford, I told him up front that monogamy is just not in my genes. I have tried to be the perfect wife in my first two marriages and it just didn't work out (that was one one of the various reasons though). What can I say, I love men. I love the way the feel, the way they smell and taste, the way each man fucks differently than the other. Wolford never has had a problem with this as long as I make sure he is first in my life.
Eventhough I've had a few boyfriends/fuck buddies, we have never been in a three way until last weekend. We both went out of state to visit my Master and it was wonderful. All went VERY well, and I am looking forward to flying to California next month to visit him again.
I do agree with the consenses here; you have to know your mate and you have to address the jealousy/protective issues BEFORE you agree to have one. Another thing I highly suggest you do is to talk about his views on male/male touching. If he is homophobic you probably won't have a pleasant experience even though the men don't have sex together. Alot of men are very paranoid about the possiblility of touching another man's privates. Since my husband is starting to explore his bisexuality and my Master is bisexual that wasn't a problem with us.
Either way, I wish you all the luck in the world. When done right and for all the right reasons, it is an awsome experience that you won't forget.
Eventhough I've had a few boyfriends/fuck buddies, we have never been in a three way until last weekend. We both went out of state to visit my Master and it was wonderful. All went VERY well, and I am looking forward to flying to California next month to visit him again.
I do agree with the consenses here; you have to know your mate and you have to address the jealousy/protective issues BEFORE you agree to have one. Another thing I highly suggest you do is to talk about his views on male/male touching. If he is homophobic you probably won't have a pleasant experience even though the men don't have sex together. Alot of men are very paranoid about the possiblility of touching another man's privates. Since my husband is starting to explore his bisexuality and my Master is bisexual that wasn't a problem with us.
Either way, I wish you all the luck in the world. When done right and for all the right reasons, it is an awsome experience that you won't forget.
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I have had this offered to me on several occasions, but I have never been into it. I can't just do something like this with the woman I love. Now if two of my friends wanted to that might be a different story. I know I couldn't engage on a MMF unless there were a lot of no touching rules. Nothing against guys, I just don't care to go there personally.
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how do you get started?
My girlfriend and I have been talking about a MFF threesome for a long time but we don't want to be with someone too dangerous and we don't want to have one with a friend due to a bad attempt in the past. Does anyone have any advice on how to find another female?
My girlfriend and I have been talking about a MFF threesome for a long time but we don't want to be with someone too dangerous and we don't want to have one with a friend due to a bad attempt in the past. Does anyone have any advice on how to find another female?
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My girlfriend and I have been talking about a MFF threesome for a long time but we don't want to be with someone too dangerous and we don't want to have one with a friend due to a bad attempt in the past. Does anyone have any advice on how to find another female?
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Threesome thirds
Maybe you've already found it, but try AdultFriendFinder.com
I think it's great, though my wife and I haven't gone through with anything yet. BTW, if you interested, we're under blueball357.
Good Luck!
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Maybe you've already found it, but try AdultFriendFinder.com
I think it's great, though my wife and I haven't gone through with anything yet. BTW, if you interested, we're under blueball357.
Good Luck!
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A very good source....
We also have an add at Adult Friend Finder and have been in contact with many very nice couples but have at times been overloaded with emails from single males. Alot of the responses that are reveived are from real losers but if you can weed through those, there are quite a few "normal" people out there looking for the same thing you are. Good Luck....
We also have an add at Adult Friend Finder and have been in contact with many very nice couples but have at times been overloaded with emails from single males. Alot of the responses that are reveived are from real losers but if you can weed through those, there are quite a few "normal" people out there looking for the same thing you are. Good Luck....
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Threesome's can be the fastest way to end a relationship. If you decide to do it, make sure your relationship is very secure. I've only been involved in FFM (I'm male), with my wife and one of her friends. They are both bisexual, and it has worked out good. In fact, my wife even suggested that we should go to a state where you are allowed to have multiple partners. I drew the line there though.
I dont know how women feel about threesomes. I know I could never imagine sharing my wife with another man. Thankfully, my wife has never brought it up, and when I once asked her, she said no.
As I said, its a friend of my wife. They spend time togheter just like normal friends. I've caught them once in bed togheter, but it dont bother me that much, since that was after the threesome. For some reason, it doesnt feel like she is cheating. Of course, at that time, I joined in
. I can feel a bit jealous about it, since I'm rather sure they've done it before, without me. I know my wife loves me but I know she loves her friend too. I talked to her about it, and she told me not to worry. As she said "Feel free to join in any time you like". So far, I've never been alone with her friend though.
I would say threesomes are over-rated. Sometimes, it do indeed feel like a third wheel. The first one felt pretty strange, and I didnt think it went to well. After a little experimenting, we found better positions to do it, and we're pretty comfortable with each other now.
In short, if you're going to have a threesome, think it over. It can ruin your relationship, but it can also improve it. Dont do it if you feel even a little bit uncomfortable, and tell you partner so too. If he/she cant handle a no, then you probably shouldnt be togheter.
I dont know how women feel about threesomes. I know I could never imagine sharing my wife with another man. Thankfully, my wife has never brought it up, and when I once asked her, she said no.
As I said, its a friend of my wife. They spend time togheter just like normal friends. I've caught them once in bed togheter, but it dont bother me that much, since that was after the threesome. For some reason, it doesnt feel like she is cheating. Of course, at that time, I joined in
. I can feel a bit jealous about it, since I'm rather sure they've done it before, without me. I know my wife loves me but I know she loves her friend too. I talked to her about it, and she told me not to worry. As she said "Feel free to join in any time you like". So far, I've never been alone with her friend though.I would say threesomes are over-rated. Sometimes, it do indeed feel like a third wheel. The first one felt pretty strange, and I didnt think it went to well. After a little experimenting, we found better positions to do it, and we're pretty comfortable with each other now.
In short, if you're going to have a threesome, think it over. It can ruin your relationship, but it can also improve it. Dont do it if you feel even a little bit uncomfortable, and tell you partner so too. If he/she cant handle a no, then you probably shouldnt be togheter.
Very good advice!
I totally agree with our Unregistered friend above. Having a secure relationship with your spouse is the most important thing to have in this type of lifestyle. Keep the communcation flowing and reassure each other that no matter how erotic a situation can become that once it's all said and done you still have each other.
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I totally agree with our Unregistered friend above. Having a secure relationship with your spouse is the most important thing to have in this type of lifestyle. Keep the communcation flowing and reassure each other that no matter how erotic a situation can become that once it's all said and done you still have each other.
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Why, thank you . I was rather proud of that post...
. I was rather proud of that post...French Manicure
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Well I had a threesome once but it just started out as girl on girl action and then my boyfriend walked in. He was pissed that I could just do something like that. But then I told him to come in and sit and watch 
. He did even though he was mad . We put on a great show and he got the best fuck of his life that night . And this girl I met doesn't live near us but we both know it'll happen again. Honestly it made our relationship a lot stronger 'cause now we're more open and we've done many different sexual acts but that was our only threesome. IT WAS GREAT!
Well I had a threesome once but it just started out as girl on girl action
and then my boyfriend walked in. He was pissed that I could just do something like that. But then I told him to come in and sit and watch . He did even though he was mad . We put on a great show and he got the best fuck of his life that night . And this girl I met doesn't live near us but we both know it'll happen again. Honestly it made our relationship a lot stronger 'cause now we're more open and we've done many different sexual acts but that was our only threesome. IT WAS GREAT!threesomes
Well speaking from 2nd hand knowledge, never having had a threesome myself, I would say that GENERALLY straight males prefer FFM/FMF threesomes. Straight females would prefer MFM, bi males would prefer MMF/MFM and bi females would prefer FFM/FMF. Threesomes can be fun but I would only advise it in serious relationships that has lasted 6 months or more, bringing in a 3rd person earlier than that would complicate things. Also make sure you talk to your partner and set ground rules on what's okay and what isn't. Resolve any jealousy before it has a chance to take form. Unless your boyfriend is 100% cool with another guy touching you or is bi himself I don't think its a good idea to bring in a second guy. There's the classic case of penis envy. He may not admit it but he might be thinking "what if he's better than me?" "what if she thinks he's better looking?" "what if they start fooling around without me?" etc. Make sure both you and your partner are cool with this and are gonna enjoy it, its not a good idea if one of you is just going along with it to please the other. You have to trust him and he has to trust you. And its best if the third party is either a close friend or an acquaintance who doesn't live in your neighborhood. If its a co-worker, or an acquaintence who lives near you it creates akward social situations when you run into them in public and there's always the people who run their mouth and tell everyone about it, you don't want everyone in your neighborhood knowing you had a threesome do you? Just be smart about it.
Well speaking from 2nd hand knowledge, never having had a threesome myself, I would say that GENERALLY straight males prefer FFM/FMF threesomes. Straight females would prefer MFM, bi males would prefer MMF/MFM and bi females would prefer FFM/FMF. Threesomes can be fun but I would only advise it in serious relationships that has lasted 6 months or more, bringing in a 3rd person earlier than that would complicate things. Also make sure you talk to your partner and set ground rules on what's okay and what isn't. Resolve any jealousy before it has a chance to take form. Unless your boyfriend is 100% cool with another guy touching you or is bi himself I don't think its a good idea to bring in a second guy. There's the classic case of penis envy. He may not admit it but he might be thinking "what if he's better than me?" "what if she thinks he's better looking?" "what if they start fooling around without me?" etc. Make sure both you and your partner are cool with this and are gonna enjoy it, its not a good idea if one of you is just going along with it to please the other. You have to trust him and he has to trust you. And its best if the third party is either a close friend or an acquaintance who doesn't live in your neighborhood. If its a co-worker, or an acquaintence who lives near you it creates akward social situations when you run into them in public and there's always the people who run their mouth and tell everyone about it, you don't want everyone in your neighborhood knowing you had a threesome do you? Just be smart about it.
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My fiance and I......
...have ahd many 3somes. Some MMF, some MFF. This is okay because we are both bi. However, it took a tremendous amount of work on our partto get our relationship stable enough. The first time we ever did a MMF, the other guy was a dear personal friend of mine. Big mistake. Though my romantic relationship remained, the friendship pretty much was destroyed. We met about 4 times for fun, then began drifting apart. Our first MFF was cool, though, because I knew that the other femlae had initially just come to see me, then we decided mutually to invite my fiancee to join us. He kne what was going on all the time. I think the key is make sure you are both doing for yourselves, as much as you are for your partner. Also, test yourself in less intimate situations before you go behind closed doors. Even now, though we trust each other completely, there is still a tinge of jealously on occasion. I think it is essential to discuss all pros/cons and all what-ifs before doing this. I think it can be a wonderful thing if done occasionally to add a little spice. However, the relationship must be able to stand on its own first. We love our 3somes 
but we make sure that every time we do one, after the third party leaves, we will cuddle and talk about what we did/didn't like and things we felt. We ALWAYS finish by telling each other how much we love each other. This helps keep the trust up and the jealousy down. If you have anything you want to know that you dont want to post...e-mail me. I'll be more than happy to help on this matter...
Katherine
...have ahd many 3somes. Some MMF, some MFF. This is okay because we are both bi. However, it took a tremendous amount of work on our partto get our relationship stable enough. The first time we ever did a MMF, the other guy was a dear personal friend of mine. Big mistake.
Though my romantic relationship remained, the friendship pretty much was destroyed. We met about 4 times for fun, then began drifting apart. Our first MFF was cool, though, because I knew that the other femlae had initially just come to see me, then we decided mutually to invite my fiancee to join us. He kne what was going on all the time. I think the key is make sure you are both doing for yourselves, as much as you are for your partner. Also, test yourself in less intimate situations before you go behind closed doors. Even now, though we trust each other completely, there is still a tinge of jealously on occasion. I think it is essential to discuss all pros/cons and all what-ifs before doing this. I think it can be a wonderful thing if done occasionally to add a little spice. However, the relationship must be able to stand on its own first. We love our 3somes but we make sure that every time we do one, after the third party leaves, we will cuddle and talk about what we did/didn't like and things we felt. We ALWAYS finish by telling each other how much we love each other. This helps keep the trust up and the jealousy down. If you have anything you want to know that you dont want to post...e-mail me. I'll be more than happy to help on this matter...Katherine
nightshade1975
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Hi everyone, I'm new here... and I guess I registered to talk about a possible threesome(s) my girlfriend and I are planning while she has a single at her dorm.
She's 20, and I'm 26... we really don't have an age thing between us, other than her lovingly teasing me from time to time about how "old" I am.
We have been dating for around 2 years, and we think we are comfortable in our relationship to experience some curiousities we have with each other... we have come to the decision that a threesome might be cool. For me, I would love for her to experience such a thrill as to have myself and another guy kiss her all over, and see were it goes... we have talked about letting the 3rd actually mate with her, but she seems just as fine if he doesn't... I don't know how I'll react if he does, but I'm turned on by the idea of her getting pleased by another while I'm watching and kissing her.
She brought up the entire thing by mentioning how curious she was about going down on another girl, and having me there to have fun with both of them... again, I'm fine with either way if I have sex with the 3rd, I'm doing it for her as well... since she said that she would be turned on as well watching me doing that. But if I decide to not allow the 3rd to have me, my girlfriend is fine with that as well, and so am I.
I just want to please her, so I mentioned that it would be only fair to also have a MMF threesome... I think this blew her mind at the time, because she didn't expect that coming from me.... but it's love doing this I think... I would love for her to experience such sexual delight... I just don't know how cool I would be with another guy in bed with me... I have a couple of gay friends... but that's where it ends... I would have no problem with him going down on her and her going down on him... it would turn me on... but I'm not sure about the rest of it... I'm nervous and afraid what happens the next day... or if she would continue and want more... she has told me several times that if I don't want to do any of this, that it's fine with her... but I want to give her this.
She reads these boards, and I have not told her I would post, so I'm curious as to what she's going to say... but if anyone replies to this paticular post, I want them to know that I'm not worried about our relationship, we plan to get married after school, it's just that I'm afraid it might be an addiction, and we might not be able to stop, and then there's the moral thing... but if it's done out of love like I hope it is... then... for my reasons, the moral thing is fine...
She has also suggested that we could invite a couple over and the girls could swap the guys for a little while, and then, when it comes to the sex part... get back together with our real partners... I like this part better, but it still doesn't have a threesome feeling... possibly because maybe I would like to see her have sex with a guy, and she would like to see me looking into her eyes while a girl was on top of my sex.
if she does read this, she'll know who it is... and I guess I should say... I love you sweetheart... only you...
She's 20, and I'm 26... we really don't have an age thing between us, other than her lovingly teasing me from time to time about how "old" I am.
We have been dating for around 2 years, and we think we are comfortable in our relationship to experience some curiousities we have with each other... we have come to the decision that a threesome might be cool. For me, I would love for her to experience such a thrill as to have myself and another guy kiss her all over, and see were it goes... we have talked about letting the 3rd actually mate with her, but she seems just as fine if he doesn't... I don't know how I'll react if he does, but I'm turned on by the idea of her getting pleased by another while I'm watching and kissing her.
She brought up the entire thing by mentioning how curious she was about going down on another girl, and having me there to have fun with both of them... again, I'm fine with either way if I have sex with the 3rd, I'm doing it for her as well... since she said that she would be turned on as well watching me doing that. But if I decide to not allow the 3rd to have me, my girlfriend is fine with that as well, and so am I.
I just want to please her, so I mentioned that it would be only fair to also have a MMF threesome... I think this blew her mind at the time, because she didn't expect that coming from me.... but it's love doing this I think... I would love for her to experience such sexual delight... I just don't know how cool I would be with another guy in bed with me... I have a couple of gay friends... but that's where it ends... I would have no problem with him going down on her and her going down on him... it would turn me on... but I'm not sure about the rest of it... I'm nervous and afraid what happens the next day... or if she would continue and want more... she has told me several times that if I don't want to do any of this, that it's fine with her... but I want to give her this.
She reads these boards, and I have not told her I would post, so I'm curious as to what she's going to say... but if anyone replies to this paticular post, I want them to know that I'm not worried about our relationship, we plan to get married after school, it's just that I'm afraid it might be an addiction, and we might not be able to stop, and then there's the moral thing... but if it's done out of love like I hope it is... then... for my reasons, the moral thing is fine...
She has also suggested that we could invite a couple over and the girls could swap the guys for a little while, and then, when it comes to the sex part... get back together with our real partners... I like this part better, but it still doesn't have a threesome feeling... possibly because maybe I would like to see her have sex with a guy, and she would like to see me looking into her eyes while a girl was on top of my sex.
if she does read this, she'll know who it is... and I guess I should say... I love you sweetheart... only you...
G
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Speaking from having played MFM and FMF....
don't do it unless you are in a VERY committed relationship OR don't care if you have a relationship when it is over. Hidden feelings come out very easily when you are watching your partner with another. In the end it is one person receiving and one person feeling left out.
We tried the MFM thing and he loved being touched while it was happening but had many misgivings afterwards.
I loved watching him get "serviced" by a man but hated it when I watched him play with another woman. {you know.... is she prettier than me, does he like her body better, does she give a better BJ? Will they meet behind my back later?}
When YOU are the center of attention it is usually fine but when it is HER those petty thoughts have a way of creeping in.
Many things are better left to fantasy; afterall if you fulfil all your fantasies what is left to entice or intrique you?
Sex should be fun not work... if it comes naturally and feels good do it. If it hurts in any unwanted way then please protect your heart.
don't do it unless you are in a VERY committed relationship OR don't care if you have a relationship when it is over. Hidden feelings come out very easily when you are watching your partner with another. In the end it is one person receiving and one person feeling left out.
We tried the MFM thing and he loved being touched while it was happening but had many misgivings afterwards.
I loved watching him get "serviced" by a man but hated it when I watched him play with another woman. {you know.... is she prettier than me, does he like her body better, does she give a better BJ? Will they meet behind my back later?}
When YOU are the center of attention it is usually fine but when it is HER those petty thoughts have a way of creeping in.
Many things are better left to fantasy; afterall if you fulfil all your fantasies what is left to entice or intrique you?
Sex should be fun not work... if it comes naturally and feels good do it. If it hurts in any unwanted way then please protect your heart.
G
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threesomes
To me it had been my fantasy for along time to watch my wife with another man. In the beginning it was a struggle with jealous feelings but she kept reasurring me all along. As time wore on things got easier the second and third time and she still kept reasurring me. Now it is still somewhat of a turn on and it is alot easier but mostly the fantasy part has wore off. But even if we stopped today and never did another thing with anyone else but each other I feel that our lives are so much richer because we lived out our fantasys and our marriage is so much stronger than when we began. I have a good woman that loves me and I feel that she will always be there for me no matter what we do. It takes both to make it work.
To me it had been my fantasy for along time to watch my wife with another man. In the beginning it was a struggle with jealous feelings but she kept reasurring me all along. As time wore on things got easier the second and third time and she still kept reasurring me. Now it is still somewhat of a turn on and it is alot easier but mostly the fantasy part has wore off. But even if we stopped today and never did another thing with anyone else but each other I feel that our lives are so much richer because we lived out our fantasys and our marriage is so much stronger than when we began. I have a good woman that loves me and I feel that she will always be there for me no matter what we do. It takes both to make it work.
WillowWhip
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Threesome may be right for others but I've found they
just aren't right for me.
We talked a lot about it before we did it.
He loved it.butI'm not attracted to women so it was
basically boring for me other than watching him enjoy
himself. We did it again with a good friend and we're
still good friends but I am occasionally uncomfortable
with their relationship.
We "play" at S&M parties (another subject entirely)
but a threesome is much more personal.
I didn't think it would, but watching him be so
intimate with another woman made me sad that it
wasn't me he was with. Maybe I am selfish but
I want him to just be with me.
You know the saying "Be careful what you wish for......"
just aren't right for me.
We talked a lot about it before we did it.
He loved it.butI'm not attracted to women so it was
basically boring for me other than watching him enjoy
himself. We did it again with a good friend and we're
still good friends but I am occasionally uncomfortable
with their relationship.
We "play" at S&M parties (another subject entirely)
but a threesome is much more personal.
I didn't think it would, but watching him be so
intimate with another woman made me sad that it
wasn't me he was with. Maybe I am selfish but
I want him to just be with me.
You know the saying "Be careful what you wish for......"
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