Threesome

[Naked_moonlight]

I would love to have a threesome.

But how do I suggest the idea to my husband? I've always been bi-curious or possibly bi but have never really had a chance to get properly intimate with another woman. Recently that's all I can think about!

Unfortunately I seem to be married to one of the few guys who isn't particularly keen on girl on girl. Damn! We talked about a 3some when w first started dating but both agreed the idea is hot but the reality wasn't right for us. But now I really want to. How do I suggest it to him? And if on the off chance he agrees, how then do I find a suitable woman?

 

[SweetErika]

Does he know you're really curious?

How about just telling him you'd really like to explore with another woman if it's completely OK with him? You never know, maybe he's not comfortable watching or participating, and will happily send you off to explore on your own with some extra reassurance and agreements. That'd certainly make it easier to find another woman.

I'd worry about that part first, before I'd worry about finding another woman. If you do agree on a threesome of some sort though, he might find reassurance in the fact that it could be a loooooong wait before you find a willing woman.

 

[Naked_moonlight]

Does he know you're really curious?

How about just telling him you'd really like to explore with another woman if it's completely OK with him? You never know, maybe he's not comfortable watching or participating, and will happily send you off to explore on your own with some extra reassurance and agreements. That'd certainly make it easier to find another woman.

I'd worry about that part first, before I'd worry about finding another woman. If you do agree on a threesome of some sort though, he might find reassurance in the fact that it could be a loooooong wait before you find a willing woman.

What you say makes sense. But I just don't know how to bring the idea up without making it seem like he's not enough for me. I guess it's worth a try but I just can't see him understanding...

 

[AussieJoth]

Doesn't seem right that a guy who doesn't like girl-on-girl gets a chick like you. Must admit Im jealous...

I'd suggest talking to him about your fantasies involving another woman after you've had sex (or alternatively after you've had a few drinks) and judge his reaction. If he seems ok or even turned on by it then suggest bringing in another woman to the bedroom. Maybe if he just watches? Good luck

 

[mitchmo]

My wife and I talk about this a lot during our fantasizing while having sex. Gets both of us really hot. Reality - well that might be another story. But, she knows that if the opportunity arose, I'd be willing to go along if she wanted.

One way to bring it up if you are afraid of the reaction is to tell him you had a really hot dream... Make sure he is the major part of it and see how it goes from there...?

 

[Naked_moonlight]

Doesn't seem right that a guy who doesn't like girl-on-girl gets a chick like you. Must admit Im jealous...

I know, right?

 

[Naked_moonlight]

One way to bring it up if you are afraid of the reaction is to tell him you had a really hot dream... Make sure he is the major part of it and see how it goes from there...?

Yeah that's a good idea. Might give it a shot, thanks!

 

[prop69]

Do not know, but...

What if you tried to have a sexual encounter with a woman first. Preferrably a bi woman. After you have been intimate with her it might be easier to bring your husband into the group. The first sale is the most difficult. If you tried to introduce a woman into your husband and were unfamiliar with the relationship it might not work.

I have never had a threesome, but that would seem the way to go. First you experience a woman and then bring your husband along.

 

[banes27]

Do not know, but...

What if you tried to have a sexual encounter with a woman first. Preferrably a bi woman. After you have been intimate with her it might be easier to bring your husband into the group. The first sale is the most difficult. If you tried to introduce a woman into your husband and were unfamiliar with the relationship it might not work.

I have never had a threesome, but that would seem the way to go. First you experience a woman and then bring your husband along.

Personally I think that that's really the way to go after the fantasy's been brought to the husbands attention. I mean if it went that way before that time then, well, it might possibly be seen as cheating rather than hot and end the relationship. Of course you could have meant after the fantasy's been brought up but to me it just wasn't clear.

IMO, the "I had this dream last night" method's usually pretty effective. Since it's a dream and not a request any negative reaction will most often be directed at "wow your brain acts weird when you're asleep" rather than at you directly. Kind of like it was your dream-state's fantasy and not yours. This is the method I most often use and it's worked quite well so far

 

[prop69]

Personally I think that that's really the way to go after the fantasy's been brought to the husbands attention. I mean if it went that way before that time then, well, it might possibly be seen as cheating rather than hot and end the relationship. Of course you could have meant after the fantasy's been brought up but to me it just wasn't clear.

IMO, the "I had this dream last night" method's usually pretty effective. Since it's a dream and not a request any negative reaction will most often be directed at "wow your brain acts weird when you're asleep" rather than at you directly. Kind of like it was your dream-state's fantasy and not yours. This is the method I most often use and it's worked quite well so far

No really one correct answer. Depends upon whether she REALLY wants the threesome. Maybe she has laten homosexual feelings or just wants the experience.

Certainly depends upon the woman. The last think I want to do is to try and analyse a woman.

 

[BFandGF]

Threesomes are hard to get...

Threesome with her and her sister.....harder to get

 

[kevlar11]

Are you sure he wasn't just being polite when he said he wasn't too interested in a threesome? I've been nonchalant about it in the past because I didn't want to offend the woman I was with.

 

[infinity706]

Threesomes are hard to get...

Threesome with her and her sister.....harder to get

Threesomes aren't hard to get. Now, if you want specific people, that might be an issue, though. I've also had multiple threesomes with sisters and/or brothers.

 

[Naked_moonlight]

Are you sure he wasn't just being polite when he said he wasn't too interested in a threesome? I've been nonchalant about it in the past because I didn't want to offend the woman I was with.

Yeah you could be right. Hubby has said before that if I was with another woman he would consider if cheating as we've discussed before how I feel about women. So even if we had discussed the fantasy I wouldn't be comfortable to be with a chick without his knowledge and blessing.

Think I might just wait til we have a great sex session and feel totally spent then as we are just lying there exhausted say something like 'I had the most amazing dream last night...'

 

[calgryguy]

he may be less then interested in a three some if he feels he can't please you enough or has been out done by another , an ego issue .
I would start with the dream , but over a few drinks .
the hardest part is finding the best time to bring it up .
my wife and I have had lots of talks about threesomes , guys and girls joining us .
But for the life of me I can't remember how it first came up , I know it never came up after sex maybe before
and she brought it up ,not me .

 

[banes27]

But for the life of me I can't remember how it first came up

I've got the same problem, at least for 3somes. We've been discussing them more or less since we started going out I think but thinking about the first 2 months of our relationship which were mostly a sex-fuelled blur chances are it came up either during or just after sex but really hard to tell. Either way it took almost 2 years before we actually acted on it.

 

[calgryguy]

wasn't that long for us ,
6 months or so I let her go play while I was at work. and we have played a couple times at the club but atm its more her .

I look it this way , if it's meant to happen it will , if not try again later .


don't be Pushy with it either , take your time and work in to it all . if you really want something to happen then patience is virtue.

 

[Naked_moonlight]

Thanks everyone for the feedback, really appriciate it!

I'll just be patient and wait for a suitable time to bring it up. A few drinks first always help that sort of chat

If anybody has any stories of how it was first discussed in their relat (or hot threesome stories...) would love to hear them!!!

 

[Nidan]

Doesn't seem right that a guy who doesn't like girl-on-girl gets a chick like you. Must admit Im jealous...

agreed!

 

[banes27]

wasn't that long for us ,
6 months or so I let her go play while I was at work. and we have played a couple times at the club but atm its more her .

I look it this way , if it's meant to happen it will , if not try again later .


don't be Pushy with it either , take your time and work in to it all . if you really want something to happen then patience is virtue.

Took us that long because while it was a nice thing to fantasise about together we couldn't decide on which direction to take in the whole "people we know v.s people we don't know" area of things. We got there in the end though and I'd definitely agree with you that patience is an absolute must when it comes to 3somes

 

[Tony_Stark]

I'd personally approach it as if you're doing it for him... like a gift. Surprise him one night or maybe a special occasion. It's only risky if he is seriously against having two women in his bed which is unheard of. Be non-chalant so it's more about him, then you... if it goes well and you enjoy it, then you can be a little more open about how it worked for you too! Good luck!

 

[Naked_moonlight]

I'd personally approach it as if you're doing it for him... like a gift. Surprise him one night or maybe a special occasion. It's only risky if he is seriously against having two women in his bed which is unheard of. Be non-chalant so it's more about him, then you... if it goes well and you enjoy it, then you can be a little more open about how it worked for you too! Good luck!

Mmm good advice...

I mean isn't girl on girl meant to be a fantasy of most men? I'm sorts hoping he is only saying he isn't interested cos he thinks that what I want to hear.

 

[Naked_moonlight]

Ok lit ppl so here is an update on the situation; I went out and bought a porn DVD that basically was just girl-on-girl and threesomes. We watched it and had fantastic sex. Later I simply asked him what he thought about one day possibly introducing another woman (so much for the dream idea...) He said he likes the idea buy would struggle to see me kissing and fucking another person. Hmm problem. Any suggestions where I can go from here? Please help!

Oh and just a quick note to say thanks to the people who PMed me with their personal experiences and advice.

 

[prop69]

Ok lit ppl so here is an update on the situation; I went out and bought a porn DVD that basically was just girl-on-girl and threesomes. We watched it and had fantastic sex. Later I simply asked him what he thought about one day possibly introducing another woman (so much for the dream idea...) He said he likes the idea buy would struggle to see me kissing and fucking another person. Hmm problem. Any suggestions where I can go from here? Please help!

Oh and just a quick note to say thanks to the people who PMed me with their personal experiences and advice.

Moonlight

He did not say NO!!!

Just that he "strugged" with the idea of you "fucking" another person. So start out with a girl. Are there any of your friends that you think he might be interested in considering? I would suggest a single or divorced woman versus a married woman. Always remember though..if you introduce someone, he might like them better. Another thought is someone he does not know.

Just the thought of a threesome with a young sexy MILF like you excites even us just reading about it. Good luck.

 

[Naked_moonlight]

Just the thought of a threesome with a young sexy MILF like you excites even us just reading about it. Good luck.

Thanks Prop, always love your comments!