Threesome

[prop69]

Thanks Prop, always love your comments!

Just love your name

NAKED MOONLIGHT

It is one of the best on Lit. Brings up so many fantastic thoughts.

Now we need to see you...NAKED IN THE MOONLIGHT!!!!

We all love sexy MILFs!!!!

 

[SweetErika]

Ok lit ppl so here is an update on the situation; I went out and bought a porn DVD that basically was just girl-on-girl and threesomes. We watched it and had fantastic sex. Later I simply asked him what he thought about one day possibly introducing another woman (so much for the dream idea...) He said he likes the idea buy would struggle to see me kissing and fucking another person. Hmm problem. Any suggestions where I can go from here? Please help!

Oh and just a quick note to say thanks to the people who PMed me with their personal experiences and advice.

You could ask him if knowing it would be problematic like seeing it. IOW, he may not want to see you with another woman, but he might be fine with the idea that, 'my wife is spending some time with a female friend, and they might be intimate.' Some people are fine with the potential or thought, but not good with seeing the reality. If he's one of them, you'd need to agree ahead of time what he wants you to share with him; does he want all the gory details of your encounter(s), or a fantasy version, for you to act like nothing's happened...?

If him not being there is a problem as well, you may want to get deeper into why the thought of you being with a woman might bother him. For instance, is he insecure, worried that she might please you more or that you could leave him for another woman?

If you can't work through that, you're probably going to have to let it go at, "Honey, this is something I feel I need to do, but I love you, respect you and prioritize your wellbeing. I'd just ask you to think on it and check in with yourself periodically, and let me know if something changes for you down the road." I think something like that would be a respectful way to put your needs out there and suggest a solution while reassuring him that you're not going to do anything without his full support. And, who knows, he may just surprise you with such support sooner rather than later!

 

[NomadLady]

Ok lit ppl so here is an update on the situation; I went out and bought a porn DVD that basically was just girl-on-girl and threesomes. We watched it and had fantastic sex. Later I simply asked him what he thought about one day possibly introducing another woman (so much for the dream idea...) He said he likes the idea buy would struggle to see me kissing and fucking another person. Hmm problem. Any suggestions where I can go from here? Please help!

Oh and just a quick note to say thanks to the people who PMed me with their personal experiences and advice.

For some men it's more of a fantasty than anything....my ex was "all into" the swing lifestyle, knew what nights they met at what hotel, when singles, couples, etc were welcome. When he finally confessed that he was interested I said "Sure...let's go"...that was the last I heard about it.

 

[Megan26]

I have the same problem. My boyfriend who was quite adventurous in college, is now a prude. I asked him about bringing a woman into our bed and he was less than enthusiastic. I really think he is jealous. Anyway, thought I would share.

 

[blade_rocknut]

Most likely he will come around if you can explain how you feel ( I did not read the whole thread, btw, just the op) I can't think of many men who wouldn't, unless on devout religious grounds or in the event of extreme insecurity. Best of luck

 

[old_scratch]

I would love to have a threesome.

But how do I suggest the idea to my husband? I've always been bi-curious or possibly bi but have never really had a chance to get properly intimate with another woman. Recently that's all I can think about!

Unfortunately I seem to be married to one of the few guys who isn't particularly keen on girl on girl. Damn! We talked about a 3some when w first started dating but both agreed the idea is hot but the reality wasn't right for us. But now I really want to. How do I suggest it to him? And if on the off chance he agrees, how then do I find a suitable woman?

A threesome is an exciting, erotic experience; however, the first threesome is always the hardest. The first time, it is normal for both of you to feel somewhat insecure about bringing another woman into the bedroom, and because both of you will likely feel a bit insecure, it is important to find just the right woman. If either of you feel any reluctance with this, (including the woman you choose), it will be that much harder. The woman you choose must be sexually compatible with both of you, as you are with her.

However, first things first: getting your husband onboard with this. You do have a way to lead into this conversation; you have discussed it before. When you discussed the possibility of a mfm threesome when you first started dating, think back, which of you brought it up first? You didn’t suggest the idea simultaneously; one of you brought of it first. If it was your husband, then on some level of his consciousness, (or sub-consciousness), he is receptive to this idea of a mfm threesome.

Now think back and remember, who was the “first” to suggest that the reality might not be right for you? If it was you, then a woman can change her mind. If your husband was the first to suggest the reality might not be right for you as a couple, then you need to find out why he objects. It is possible, (perhaps even likely), that he can’t deal with the thought of you having gay sex with another woman.

If he is having trouble with the thought of you with another woman sexually, then steer his thoughts away from you being sexually intimate with another woman, and toward both of you having sex with him. First focus on the things he may like about the experience. After he becomes comfortable with the thought of himself with two women, (and hopefully, after he experiences two women), he will be more receptive to exploring other sexual avenues.

Whatever approach you take, this is going to take time. When only one of the couple wants to explore something new, it is a journey of self-discovery for the other. And self-discovery takes time.

The best time to bring this up is when you are both connected emotionally, like when you are cuddling before making love. When he is receptive discussing to sexual fantasies, you might ask him if he remembers the conversation you had when you were first dating about a threesome. When he remembers, ask him if he ever thinks about it since that conversation? Be a listener, and take your time. Encourage him to talk about “his” sexual fantasies.

Convincing your husband of anything is finding ways of overcoming his objections. To overcome his objections, you must first find out what his objections are, then find a way, (that is desirable to him), to overcome those objections. When a man wants something, he is usually willing to give up something to get it.

If you have any other questions, you can post them here, or PM me if you like.