Thoughts

[Svedish_Chef]

How do you let someone leave... when they dont want to?

I hat feelings damn it, give me complete apathy every day and I am happy... well at least not getting melancholy and depressed anyway.

Da chef

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"If suicide is the answer, what is the qustion?"

 

[Nicole]

Chef you need to tell us more babe.

Who wants to leave??? And if they don't why don't they??? Why do you want them to leave???

Please expalin yourself and we may just beable to help you.

 

[Guest]

I don't know what it is that's going on, Chef, but it sounds like you need to talk to the person themself. You say "how do you let them leave.... when they don't want to leave?". The word "let" makes it sound like it's someone that's in two minds about leaving you? What do you think about it all? Do you want them to leave?

Talk to the person, or at least give yer mates on da BB more info so we can try to help in some way.

[Edited by Roger Simian on 08-04-2000 at 06:07 AM]

 

[Magic Merlin]

Well, Chef buddy, I'm not sure this is the answer your seeking but having complete apathy is not good either.

You have to look at that person and try and see where they fit into your life. Now and in the future. If your not ready to have them stay because they are ready for something more committed, then I think you have to let them go.

Its not an easy decision for sure, but one in the long run that will be for the best. And it may help you come to some decisions of your own.

I don't know if that is the appropriate answer to your question, but hope it helps.

Good luck, Chef.

MM

 

[Jade]

Chef.. who left?
What happened?

 

[SimplySouthern]

*Sigh* I KNOW I'm not qualified to answer that one

 

[Budokan]

How do you have someone leave...when they don't want to? Depends on the situation, of course. But kicking them out the fucking door often works wonders.

 

[RonG]

This appears to be a common phenomenon Down Under. I recall a fairly decent pop tune from the early 80's by Mental as Anything (Aussie group) called "If you leave me, can I come too?"

To paraphrase Shakespeare (and steal shamelessly from Al Stewart)
Some are born to leave
Some achieve leaving
Some have leaving thrust upon them

 

[Svedish_Chef]

RonG How true how true...

OK for example let me say I met someone wonderful and every time we spend together is so precious that we dont want to leave eachother at all but we must do things like go to work... eat sleep etc.

Roger I asked them the same question.... why didn't they answer? I know... it just isn't that easy.

Never going to kick them out of the door Budokan... I love them (Shit scrub that L...... ike them a lot!)

Guy this one I need serious help with!
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"I love love, just that it hurts too much!"

 

[KillerMuffin]

You cry, inside or outside. Mourn, grieve, pine, exist zombie-like through the hours that crawl past while your heart is dying slowly. Parting is such sweet sorrow... truer words never spoken. You learn to live, to continue to be, to function almost normally eventually. Emotions let you know that you are indeed alive and not a zombie. How do you do it? I don't know, I don't know how I do it. I do it every 6 to 8 weeks.

 

[Skitten]

Chef; sometimes it is hard to let them leave but as you know you must. Try counting till the next time you see them and knowing how much more special that time will be when your together again. I know this is difficult but you have to be strong you cand do it I know you can.

 

[*Eve*]

Well you know the old saying, if you love something enough you let it go and if it's true, then it will come back to you. When you are apart from this person it can only help because when you do make time for each other it will be that much more special.