Thoughts of an ex

[Ocean33]

When I was in my mid 20s I had a strictly sexual relationship with an older woman. She was in her late 40 married, blonde hair green eyes a little heavy but curvy, medium height you get the idea

We only met up when she was available and it was off and on for two years. The sex was great but being a dumb idiot like every guy in their 20s is it ended badly my fault ofcourse. I knew I messed up and was not the gentleman she was looking for. I messed up and own it.

Anyway I moved on got older and wiser and she was a distant memory.....until recently. The past week she has been on my mind constantly. It's all sexuall thoughts I can still picture her body and I'm still turned on as I was then. I've jerked off to her every morning this week. I have no interest on looking her up or getting back on contact with her but I cant get her out of my mind and I'm wondering had anyone else dealt with this. If so how did you deal with it?

Any comments or tips are appreciated thank you

 

[Ocean33]

Bump

 

[Bbl87]

I don't think it's a problem unless it really bothers you. I've had full-on aex with a grand total of two women, my wife and an ex. I'll think about my ex from time to time when taking care of myself and I've just embraced it. Hell, shes in several of my stories I've published on her.
Would I admit any of that to my wife? Hell no. But I've even bookmarked some porn scenes because they remind me of my ex.

 

[Ocean33]

I don't think it's a problem unless it really bothers you. I've had full-on aex with a grand total of two women, my wife and an ex. I'll think about my ex from time to time when taking care of myself and I've just embraced it. Hell, shes in several of my stories I've published on her.
Would I admit any of that to my wife? Hell no. But I've even bookmarked some porn scenes because they remind me of my ex.

It doesn't bother me just surprised to have her pop in my head after all these years. I also regret how it ended I was an idiot.

 

[Bbl87]

It doesn't bother me just surprised to have her pop in my head after all these years. I also regret how it ended I was an idiot.

Ya, I think for me part of it is with her being my first, and me being inexperienced, I kinda wish I could show her an actual good time. Don't get me wrong she still enjoyed herself back then, but I've learned a thing or two in the meantime! I don't think there was long term potential so not really a missed opportunity. And, if I'm being honest, she was tighter than my wife and better at oral as well, which isn't everything but I'd be lying I said I didn't remember it.

 

[Ocean33]

Yeah I was very inexperienced when I was with her plus she loved oral and I loved going down on her. It wouldn't have been permanent either as she was married. I knew it was wrong but I couldn't stay away. I drank so mich pineapple juice because she loved the taste of it when she ate my cum

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

When I was in my mid 20s I had a strictly sexual relationship with an older woman. She was in her late 40 married, blonde hair green eyes a little heavy but curvy, medium height you get the idea

We only met up when she was available and it was off and on for two years. The sex was great but being a dumb idiot like every guy in their 20s is it ended badly my fault ofcourse. I knew I messed up and was not the gentleman she was looking for. I messed up and own it.

Anyway I moved on got older and wiser and she was a distant memory.....until recently. The past week she has been on my mind constantly. It's all sexuall thoughts I can still picture her body and I'm still turned on as I was then. I've jerked off to her every morning this week. I have no interest on looking her up or getting back on contact with her but I cant get her out of my mind and I'm wondering had anyone else dealt with this. If so how did you deal with it?

Any comments or tips are appreciated thank you

Yes. A serious GF of 5 yrs. She encroaches on my thoughts from time to tIme. Like you, I’ve never really wanted to contact her but would be open to catching up if we ever bumped into each other.

I’ve even had a few dreams about her over the years. I don’t think they were sexual but it’s unnerving having her haunt my dreams like that!

I had surgery a few months ago and have had tons of time recovering at home. If It seems I’m always here on Lit, that’s the reason!. Anyway, a month or two ago, I was sitting around playing on here and just couldn’t get her off my mind. For some unknown reason I felt I needed to write about it. I went to the Poetry thread, found one on lost loves and the words just poured out of me. Like she was a mIssing muse or something? I’m NOT poetic so it’s bad but it needed to be done apparently.

You’re not alone. Maybe write something down. It helped me.

 

[Ocean33]

Yes. A serious GF of 5 yrs. She encroaches on my thoughts from time to tIme. Like you, I’ve never really wanted to contact her but would be open to catching up if we ever bumped into each other.

I’ve even had a few dreams about her over the years. I don’t think they were sexual but it’s unnerving having her haunt my dreams like that!

I had surgery a few months ago and have had tons of time recovering at home. If It seems I’m always here on Lit, that’s the reason!. Anyway, a month or two ago, I was sitting around playing on here and just couldn’t get her off my mind. For some unknown reason I felt I needed to write about it. I went to the Poetry thread, found one on lost loves and the words just poured out of me. Like she was a mIssuing muse or something? I’m NOT poetic so it’s bad but it needed to be done apparently.

You’re not alone. Maybe write something down. It helped me.

That is helpful advice thank you

 

[Easyvirtue]

There are 2 in particular. One was my first into anal and water sports and the 2nd was the way she reacted to oral sex as well. She loved to open her bedroom window on the second floor when I’d go down on her and be as loud as she could!

 

[Ocean33]

I appreciate everyone who responder it means alot

 

[Ocean33]

A few weeks ago we were on vacation with another couple. The wives were in the back seat as we were driving to dinner. My wife had a drink before we left so she was maybe a bit more talkative. She has always kept her past close to the vest, other than saying she went through a slutting around phase after her divorce. One time at a restaurant she did point to another couple and said the guy had spent a weekend at her apartment back in the day, but no details. We've been married 20 years. Anyway, I heard her tell her friend that her ex-husband was lousy husband material but he made her knees weak. And that he still did when she thinks about him. Alas, she hasn't been willing to volunteer why or what they did together. Would love to hear about it.

That would be an interestesting conversation

 

[Erosfan]

When I was in my mid 20s I had a strictly sexual relationship with an older woman. She was in her late 40 married, blonde hair green eyes a little heavy but curvy, medium height you get the idea

We only met up when she was available and it was off and on for two years. The sex was great but being a dumb idiot like every guy in their 20s is it ended badly my fault ofcourse. I knew I messed up and was not the gentleman she was looking for. I messed up and own it.

Anyway I moved on got older and wiser and she was a distant memory.....until recently. The past week she has been on my mind constantly. It's all sexuall thoughts I can still picture her body and I'm still turned on as I was then. I've jerked off to her every morning this week. I have no interest on looking her up or getting back on contact with her but I cant get her out of my mind and I'm wondering had anyone else dealt with this. If so how did you deal with it?

Any comments or tips are appreciated thank you

Been there, done that. A long time ago, I looked up an ex. I had thought of her often and was lonely. Well, we ended up back together and it was a huge mistake. I still think of her at times because sex was great. I will never go there again.

Good luck.

 

[Ocean33]

Been there, done that. A long time ago, I looked up an ex. I had thought of her often and was lonely. Well, we ended up back together and it was a huge mistake. I still think of her at times because sex was great. I will never go there again.

Good luck.

There is this part of me that wants to look her up but the rational part of me is saying don't just enjoy the memories. You're helping me confirm to leave it in the past

 

[StrongMaster7]

Two of my exes crop up in my thoughts from time to time.

My first college gf was maybe the most attractive woman I ever dated. The last time I saw her she was in the best shape of her life having joined a gym and lost the few extra pounds she was carrying. She had big breasts with huge, sexy nipples that drove me insane. She was pretty and shoulder-length red hair. She was also perhaps the most sexual woman I was ever with. She would talk about sex and she might have been up for some more kinky stuff if we had stayed together. I imagine having every kind of sex with her and think about how sexy her body was.

My last college gf was a sex machine. She was short and stacked and she thought the sun rose and set with me. I never led her on. She loved me and I told her I was using her for sex. And she was fine with that. I eventually broke up with her and married my next gf. But she lingered in my mind because she actually offered herself to me, "if you ever feel like cheating". She had a short, unhappy marriage and has been alone for many years now, living one town over from where I live. So, whenever my wife is being cold to me sexually (most of the time), I imagine taking the ten minute drive to my old gf's house and fucking the shit out of her. I know how long its been since she had any sex and I know she would come a dozen times. And I wouldn't mind enjoying her huge tits again.

 

[Ocean33]

I have those same thoughts too. Hell it's only a 30 minute drive to her place from mine. I remember being at her house one time and she gave this intense back rub as she undid a knot I had near my right shoulder. She then gave me a sensual massage using her oils. She used her hands gently on my body and rubbed her breasts against my back. She touched me all over. It was heaven. It led to amazing sex. She gave me several back runs and No one has since had the touch that she had on me.

 

[Ocean33]

Bump

 

[Ocean33]

I can understand what you're feeling

 

[Erodicus]

At the end of my final year of high school, I was going with a gorgeous girl. I used to worship the ground she walked on. She was stunningly beautiful, with amazing auburn hair (which she wore long), deep brown eyes which would melt my heart and two of the most kissable lips I ever encountered. Her shapely body used to turn all the boys' heads. Needless to say, she used to make me as horny as all get-out. I would have married her, if her family hadn't taken her overseas. We lost contact completely.

Fast forward 20 years and I was at a school reunion. I didn't know she was coming, so when I saw a group of classmates chatting together, I went over to join the conversation. I remembered them all apart from this slightly dumpy woman with short black hair and glasses. I had no idea who she was, but didn't ask in case she'd be offended because I'd forgotten her. She and everyone else kept looking at me as if they were expecting me to react in some way, so I kept prattling on obliviously.

Next moment the MC began reading out the list of people who were able to attend the reunion. As soon as he read out her name I had an "Oh shit!" moment. I apologised to her, trying to explain why I had not recognized her. She was very gracious and we chatted politely before moving on to talk to other guests.

For twenty years, I'd hoped we'd meet up again. I'd heard that when many old flames meet up again, the spark of passion remains very much alive. Sadly, for me anyway, there was absolutely nothing. That seemed really sad.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Totally normal. I've had a lot of great adventures with a lot of great women, and so I still use those memories today when I masturbate (even though I have a wonderful girlfriend now). Just so many fun memories to revisit. They are frozen in my mind as they were, however. As it should be - we all change and evolve.

 

[CuttingEdge]

Totally normal. I've had a lot of great adventures with a lot of great women, and so I still use those memories today when I masturbate (even though I have a wonderful girlfriend now). Just so many fun memories to revisit. They are frozen in my mind as they were, however. As it should be - we all change and evolve.

Yeah, I have heard ex's referred to as "errors", but that is such a mistake.

I look at them like "era's" as time periods in my life. From being "DINKS... double income, no kids, which was great as we both started out life with houses, cars, and just navigating what we though adulthood would be, and yet so different.

Then there was the woman I tripped all over the world with. So many countriesand in so many places globally.

Then having five kids. That was a challenging, but wonderful era too.

Now we are empty-nesters and enjoying that.

It has been with different women and for varying lengths of time, but no regrets on any of them. It was just time periods that ended.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Yeah, I have heard ex's referred to as "errors", but that is such a mistake.

I look at them like "era's" as time periods in my life. From being "DINKS... double income, no kids, which was great as we both started out life with houses, cars, and just navigating what we though adulthood would be, and yet so different.

Then there was the woman I tripped all over the world with. So many countriesand in so many places globally.

Then having five kids. That was a challenging, but wonderful era too.

Now we are empty-nesters and enjoying that.

It has been with different women and for varying lengths of time, but no regrets on any of them. It was just time periods that ended.

Same here. No regrets. Went through some good times and bad times (you know I've had my share) but all part of the journey.

The wild thing is when I look them up on social media etc. and see how their lives have changed. Married, kids, whatever, and of course they look and are different people. The person I fucked years ago is no longer, though we each always have a small part of each other, if that makes sense.

 

[CuttingEdge]

It makes perfect sense.

Sadly, the decision of two of my ex's has been very sad. The first was leaving me for a guy who she thought was so much better. He had it all, including working for NASA, By the time she found out there was a reason her had six kids, actually had no job at all, and liked to use her face to get out his aggression with his fists, he had fathered his seventh child with her. I am not sure if she ever escaped that. as soon after she lost contact with our mutual friends. It is really sad because she was a great woman, but no one deserves to be abused or neglected.

The other sadly chose a man over ten years her senior who got her hooked on nasty drugs. For awhile she looked really good, lost some weight, but now she is just withdrawn in scrawny looks, and its been only a month or two since she has been with him. My daughter says she gets angry easily now, and is NOT the mother she has always been. If she keeps the downward trend, I don't think she will live to the end of the year without over-dousing. We got some property together, but goodness, if I sell it now, I know the influx of money will kill the mother of my children via an influx in drugs.

 

[Ocean33]

I want to thank everyone for sharing and giving helpful advice. She's still bouncing around in my head lol

 

[Ocean33]

Bump

 

[live4thebj]

I think back to the blowjobs I used to get from this one particular mom when I am not looking at a porno to get off.