Thoughts from an old Dom

[teknight]

The Tango? I've seen "Dirty Dancing". It's a piece of cake. But something tells me that your jacket wouldn't fit me. Looking good and confidant is part of the show.

Dom and confidant?
You know, you might have something there.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

As far as I'm concerned, doing BDSM in a pro setting is sexual, or a surrogate for sexual intercourse. And that would definitely be service topping with that damn misnomer that me and CutieMouse complain about all the time.

Who pays for MaleDom services, I wonder? I bet once in a while, some other Dom might buy for their sub, or else men ask for a strong arm whipping.

And how often are they requested? "By appt only" implies that there isn't enough business to keep them on the premises full time.

That was my impression, too. I have no idea who'd be buying them though, it's not something I wondered about, I just had a look and moved on.

The one I'm thinking of definitely said no intercourse, and crapped on about being 'traditional'... I think that's why it stuck in my head. It sounds so pretentious.

 

[Stella_Omega]

That was my impression, too. I have no idea who'd be buying them though, it's not something I wondered about, I just had a look and moved on.

The one I'm thinking of definitely said no intercourse, and crapped on about being 'traditional'... I think that's why it stuck in my head. It sounds so pretentious.

When men sound pretentious...

Okay, not going there.

 

[DVS]

And it fits me perfectly.

*goes to NetFlix to add Dirty dancing to the list*

Indian giver! Indian giver! Maybe the jacket can be altered.

 

[DVS]

Dom and confidant?
You know, you might have something there.

You read Dom and confidant? The post was good and confidant. Knowing that, do you still feel that I "might have something there"?

And if I do, what do I have?

 

[DVS]

As far as I'm concerned, doing BDSM in a pro setting is sexual, or a surrogate for sexual intercourse. And that would definitely be service topping with that damn misnomer that me and CutieMouse complain about all the time.

Who pays for MaleDom services, I wonder? I bet once in a while, some other Dom might buy for their sub, or else men ask for a strong arm whipping.

And how often are they requested? "By appt only" implies that there isn't enough business to keep them on the premises full time.

You've never heard of a Gigolo? In some places, it is customary for a woman to pay for what she wants. Of course, it's not just a sweaty session in the dungeon. There's a certain panache and swagger that's required.

 

[teknight]

You read Dom and confidant? The post was good and confidant. Knowing that, do you still feel that I "might have something there"?

And if I do, what do I have?

You're awfully confident about being a confidant, is all.
I'm just saying, offering to be a Dom, and someone they can trust with their secrets (well, beyond wanting a Dom)...that's a good way to expand your client base.

 

[DVS]

You're awfully confident about being a confidant, is all.
I'm just saying, offering to be a Dom, and someone they can trust with their secrets (well, beyond wanting a Dom)...that's a good way to expand your client base.

Women of means generally require a confidant. In order to keep your position, you are expected to keep quiet about things. And that specifically means you don't mention your client base.

Oh, as far as expanding your client base, word of mouth from satisfied customers works best.

 

[Netzach]

Seriously folks? Do the math. Men also make money letting horny men sniff their gym socks while calling them maggots. The more buff, hung, and convincing in your swagger you are the more you will make.

Anyone claiming they have loads of women paying for it is full of it or broke though. Sure, there are gigolos, but the vast majority of money in sex is from catering to men. I find it amusing that no one here thinks this is a real market.

 

[DVS]

Did someone say men don't pay for sex?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Did someone say men don't pay for sex?

Ain't NO body said that!

Thing is, if this dude was mostly topping men he wouldn't use the Dom/Sub formula. On the other hand, the black-and-white worldview is pretty much what you expect from a man with a hardon...

 

[rosco rathbone]

Seriously folks? Do the math. Men also make money letting horny men sniff their gym socks while calling them maggots. The more buff, hung, and convincing in your swagger you are the more you will make.

Anyone claiming they have loads of women paying for it is full of it or broke though. Sure, there are gigolos, but the vast majority of money in sex is from catering to men. I find it amusing that no one here thinks this is a real market.

All the BDSM boilerplate in the OP doesn't say gay sex to me, it says Castlerealm.

 

[midwestyankee]

All the BDSM boilerplate in the OP doesn't say gay sex to me, it says Castlerealm.

Bingo!

 

[Stella_Omega]

All the BDSM boilerplate in the OP doesn't say gay sex to me, it says Castlerealm.

Yep! .

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

All the BDSM boilerplate in the OP doesn't say gay sex to me, it says Castlerealm.

But gay sex is a gajillion times more interesting than Castlerealm.

 

[Lady_In_Black]

*peaks head in* Oh god, please don't fillet me, but what is the aformentioned "castlerealm"? Google turns up nothing other then mentions that the site is down.

 

[rosco rathbone]

*peaks head in* Oh god, please don't fillet me, but what is the aformentioned "castlerealm"? Google turns up nothing other then mentions that the site is down.

A clownschool.

 

[Netzach]

All the BDSM boilerplate in the OP doesn't say gay sex to me, it says Castlerealm.

True that. And we went along like Charlie the Unicorn?

"True there are prodoms but they tend to have the same clientle as prodommes" isn't in the unreality script, which is full of bored rich women who need to be spanked but can't find the time to cheat with any of men who vastly outnumber them.

 

[Stella_Omega]

True that. And we went along like Charlie the Unicorn?

"True there are prodoms but they tend to have the same clientle as prodommes" isn't in the unreality script, which is full of bored rich women who need to be spanked but can't find the time to cheat with any of men who vastly outnumber them.

How many unicorns can dance on the head of a pin?

 

[teknight]

How many unicorns can dance on the head of a pin?

Spiffy new AV, dude!

 

[Stella_Omega]

Spiffy new AV, dude!

That's my dinner jacket and my Tango-dancing hat...

That's not you in your new av, is it? Who's your friend?

 

[Passing]

My friend explained that a Dom/me role is much more complex. Please keep in mind that my friend was a professional Dom and this is his point of view from his experiences as such. There are certain qualities that a Dom/me must have in order to properly dominate a sub. A Dom/me must be able to take complete control over a situation. A Dom/me needs to remember to engage the mind as well as the body to ensure the sub is fully immersed in the session. They need to understand body language and other unspoken cues as the sub may not be able to fully voice their needs. A Dom/me must be detail-oriented and they have to be good at making judgement calls. While the sub's world is very black and white, a Dom/me's world is varying shades of gray. They must know the sub in detail and fully understand their limits. When the limits are understood, it is easier for a Dom/me to push a sub beyond their personal boundaries. A Dom/me has to keep in mind that even though the sub may be experiencing fierce emotions when the limits are pushed, it is also a thrill for the sub. When the sub gives up control to the Dom/me, the control is reliquished in order to focus on themself. The Dom/me accepts the control and focuses on the needs of the sub. When this happens, the Dom/me is focused on the needs of the sub more so than the sub is focused on the needs of the Dom/me. As the sub is the focus of the session, it is the sub's need's that are foremost. The Dom/me may not necessarily receive pleasure other than the satisfaction of knowing the sub received their pleasure.

Trying a partial quote, if it doesn't work, please keep your whips down.

This sounds like someone I know... And it isn't really a Dom thing per se. It is definitely a personality thing usually found in someone with strong control issues, a background in psychology, and dominant by nature.

It is sort of a personality disorder, but with a very pleasant side effects.

As for the professional part, maybe he was a 'kept' man and is looking for a new keeper...

Damn, and her I am with no place to put him...

 

[Stella_Omega]

Trying a partial quote, if it doesn't work, please keep your whips down.

This sounds like someone I know... And it isn't really a Dom thing per se. It is definitely a personality thing usually found in someone with strong control issues, a background in psychology, and dominant by nature.

It is sort of a personality disorder, but with a very pleasant side effects.

As for the professional part, maybe he was a 'kept' man and is looking for a new keeper...

Damn, and her I am with no place to put him...

If I may ask an impertinant question...

What the fuck do you think you're talking about?

 

[Passing]

Let’s see…

First I made a partial quote. (From the original message)

Then I made a comment that was meant to be humorous and ward off verbal flogging like the one you just flailed me with…

Then I made it known that that type of personality exists, (that I, a nobody, have had experience with a person with that personality) even though it seems to be thought of as a sort of myth around here…

I tried to explain the type of person who would display these seemingly abnormal traits in a way that I thought was clear…

Then I was trying to join in a conversation that seemed to revolve around what constitutes a professional, by making a humorless joke about him living with a woman specifically to service her needs.

Then I thought how charming that he sounded much like my former dominant partner and was hit with a moment of nostalgia in which I wished he wasn’t dead.
So I voiced my opinion that I’d like to carry him home in my pocket and keep this fictitious man for my very own.

Now perhaps you would like to explain to me how any of that pissed you off? Did I step on your hair or something?

(I am just a person. Another human being who perhaps felt slighted for the debasement of my former lovers personality) And still said nothing hateful.

And no I did not start this thread.

Now if you will excuse me…

 

[Stella_Omega]

Forgive me for my rudeness. I am sorry.

But perhaps it would be helpful to your conversation if you pinned your thoughts to the comments that brought them on?

For instance;

Then I made it known that that type of personality exists, (that I, a nobody, have had experience with a person with that personality) even though it seems to be thought of as a sort of myth around here…

strikes me as a misapprehension of what, exactly, people are discussing. There are service tops a-plenty, I'm proud to be one myself, on many occasions.

And I am deeply sorry for your loss.