this just broke my heart

[cloudy]

Spidey has his two friends over for the weekend - again. Spidey is 6, and his friends are 7 and 9.

I cooked supper tonight, just something simple: smoked sausage, green beans and mashed potatos. I was raised in a LARGE family, so I have no idea on how to cook for any less than about 8 people - there are ALWAYS leftovers at my house.

I had sliced the sausage into about 2-inch long pieces, then split it length wise, and fried it.

I got the kids set up at the table....plate, drink, silverware, and was filling up plates. They're all talking and laughing, like little boys do, and one of them points at the smoked sausage, and asks "Can I have more than one piece?"

Of course, my quick response was, "Of course, baby! You can have as much as you want!" But then I started thinking....does he have to ask that at home?

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

In a word, probably. Otherwise, he wouldn't have asked, I think. It's sad, but either because of poverty or neglect or abuse, some growing kids are not fed as they should be. Not that I favor obesity. Just a healthy appetite for a growing kid. Their metabolism is higher, after all.

I can see why you deem it sad. I would too.

 

[WARNINGWARNING]

He may have been being polite?

 

[cloudy]

He may have been being polite?

possibly.

I just found it odd. One piece isn't much to feed a growing boy, you know? And my kids have always just piled it on.

 

[WARNINGWARNING]

As a boy, I was taught as a guest to ask, politely.

At home with 4 syblings it was understood that, well ;"Praise the Father, Son and Holy Ghost, he who's fastest gets the most"

 

[cloudy]

As a boy, I was taught as a guest to ask, politely.

At home with 4 syblings it was understood that, well ;"Praise the Father, Son and Holy Ghost, he who's fastest gets the most"

exactly! At one point there were 7 kids living in our house, so that's the way it was for us, too.

I guess it just struck me as odd because of the history I have with these two boys. Not long ago I went to get them to spend the night, and they ended up staying here for a week because I couldn't track down their mom, and she apparently didn't care.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

exactly! At one point there were 7 kids living in our house, so that's the way it was for us, too.

I guess it just struck me as odd because of the history I have with these two boys. Not long ago I went to get them to spend the night, and they ended up staying here for a week because I couldn't track down their mom, and she apparently didn't care.

The SAME kids? That settles it for me. It's a pattern, not a fluke.

 

[SeaCat]

Maybe this is why when my mother placed dinner on the table she set the food down then stood back out of the way? It was always serve yourself and if you step away from the table still hungry that's your fault. (My few friends were always amazed at this.)

I know families where the rules are that the adults feed themselves first, the kids get what's left over. I have never agreed with this. When I have visitors with kids, the kids get fed first.

Cat

 

[cloudy]

Maybe this is why when my mother placed dinner on the table she set the food down then stood back out of the way? It was always serve yourself and if you step away from the table still hungry that's your fault. (My few friends were always amazed at this.)

I know families where the rules are that the adults feed themselves first, the kids get what's left over. I have never agreed with this. When I have visitors with kids, the kids get fed first.

Cat

Kids eat first at my house. Always have.

 

[WARNINGWARNING]

In that case it is heart rending.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

You're a good mama.

 

[WARNINGWARNING]

Kids eat first at my house. Always have.

In ours, we try to all eat together, but typically the kids gotta snarf.

 

[WARNINGWARNING]

You're a good mama.

Thanks, but not really. I am occasionally called a "mutha"

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Thanks, but not really. I am occasionally called a "mutha"

You're just pretty.

 

[WARNINGWARNING]

You're just pretty.

"just"?

HEY! My eyes are up here!

 

[cloudy]

You're a good mama.

its a ruse I'm using to lull people into a sense of security.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

its a ruse I'm using to lull people into a sense of security.

shit,I fell for it too.............bitch.

 

[babiesmiles]

At first sight it seemed to me only a matter of polite behaviour , as WW said, but Cloudy's post n. 6 made me think of it under a completely different light .

It is sad when parents don't care about kids relying on someone else kindness and sense of duty

 

[WARNINGWARNING]

OK
Related in a "mind wanders" sort of way.
Spidey is 6. Friends are 7 and 9
Kids are hungry.
So why would Spidey, who is 6 be afraid of 7 year old?
Because, 7 ate(8) 9!

ha

 

[SeaCat]

Kids eat first at my house. Always have.

In my house, as well as my parents house, the kids eat first. Visiting adults next and my father or myself last. (An old concept called Laws of Hospitality.) (My father and I never go hungry though, we can always find something to eat. ) If an adult disagrees with this, they are never invited back. (They are also informed of why in detail.)

Cat

 

[WARNINGWARNING]

At first sight it seemed to me only a matter of polite behaviour , as WW said, but Cloudy's post n. 6 made me think of it under a completely different light .

It is sad when parents don't care about kids relying on someone else kindness and sense of duty

On the bright side. The boy sounded polite and has a good friend and a good friend with a good mom.

 

[cloudy]

At first sight it seemed to me only a matter of polite behaviour , as WW said, but Cloudy's post n. 6 made me think of it under a completely different light .

It is sad when parents don't care about kids relying on someone else kindness and sense of duty

yes.

I'm not a candidate for mother of the year, believe me, but at least I FEED my kids.

 

[cloudy]

(An old concept called Laws of Hospitality.)

yes!

If you're ever on the rez, go to someone's house. I guarantee they'll feed you, and will be insulted if you don't eat. Doesn't matter if they know you or not.

 

[babiesmiles]

yes.

I'm not a candidate for mother of the year, believe me, but at least I FEED my kids.

Neither I am the winner of the award but ( besides food ) I give my boy what he prefers and needs more : attention and listening .

 

[SeaCat]

yes!

If you're ever on the rez, go to someone's house. I guarantee they'll feed you, and will be insulted if you don't eat. Doesn't matter if they know you or not.

LOLOL

Cloudy you know me. If it's not attacking off the plate then I'll eat it.

I not only love but I also live the old ways.

Cat