cymbidia
unrepentant pervert
- Joined
- Mar 8, 2001
- Posts
- 8,786
The quiet watchers we call 'lurkers' sometimes reach out via email or pm's and tap us on the shoulder to ask, "How can i get going as a Lit regular? What do i say? Where do i say it? How can i say it so people don't flame me?"
Many of us get such inquiries, i think. I got one tonight from someone who's already registered and has posted a couple times. He seems like a nice guy, seems like someone who will be a good addition to the Lit stewpot.
I don't know why he's hesitant to continue his good beginning but he is, thinks he'll go back to "lurking for a while.
it seems safer. (at least for the moment)
.
I think if the water warms up I'll dunk a toe back in..."
Anyway, this is what i told him - and it translates well for all y'all lurkers who are about ready to jump in, too.
Ahem...
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The only thing that happens if you lurk is that you don't get involved. When you're lurking, you're outside, in the cold, alone, without friends and warmth and camraderie to buoy you during the tough times and make you smile during the easier ones.
Just start posting.
Don't worry: we *like* newbies. It's a well-kept secret, but it's true nonetheless. Without new ideas, new thoughts, new voices, perspectives, views, fears, joys, needs, wants, perversions, laughter and tears we become slower, less interesting (even to ourselves) and far more apt to snappish sibling-like quarrels.
Just pick a number... 10. Ten is a good number. Do ten posts a day for the first week. See how it feels.
If you panic at the thought of doing 10, do five of them here on the GB and five on the How To... board.
Follow me around and comment on my stuff... i'll talk back to you. Others will, too. Follow Rubyfruit around, and Killermuffin, and LukkyKnight, and nasty, or almost anyone else. Just post. You can't find a place until you begin posting.
You just gotta do it.
C'mon...
Many of us get such inquiries, i think. I got one tonight from someone who's already registered and has posted a couple times. He seems like a nice guy, seems like someone who will be a good addition to the Lit stewpot.
I don't know why he's hesitant to continue his good beginning but he is, thinks he'll go back to "lurking for a while.
it seems safer. (at least for the moment)
.I think if the water warms up I'll dunk a toe back in..."
Anyway, this is what i told him - and it translates well for all y'all lurkers who are about ready to jump in, too.
Ahem...
~~~~~~~~~~
The only thing that happens if you lurk is that you don't get involved. When you're lurking, you're outside, in the cold, alone, without friends and warmth and camraderie to buoy you during the tough times and make you smile during the easier ones.
Just start posting.
Don't worry: we *like* newbies. It's a well-kept secret, but it's true nonetheless. Without new ideas, new thoughts, new voices, perspectives, views, fears, joys, needs, wants, perversions, laughter and tears we become slower, less interesting (even to ourselves) and far more apt to snappish sibling-like quarrels.
Just pick a number... 10. Ten is a good number. Do ten posts a day for the first week. See how it feels.
If you panic at the thought of doing 10, do five of them here on the GB and five on the How To... board.
Follow me around and comment on my stuff... i'll talk back to you. Others will, too. Follow Rubyfruit around, and Killermuffin, and LukkyKnight, and nasty, or almost anyone else. Just post. You can't find a place until you begin posting.
You just gotta do it.
C'mon...
