This is crazy, but...

[Valley Lilly]

Lack of sex can drive you absolutely crazy. Well, kinda.

I'm 26, and virgin. And i can tell you, i feel the pressure to lose it. Sometimes i think i should wait. Sometimes i feel like throwing myself to the arms of the first idiot i see on the streets. Or such crazy fantasies.

I'm getting insane.

 

[SwEeT_LiL_LadY]

Lack of sex can drive you absolutely crazy. Well, kinda.

I'm 26, and virgin. And i can tell you, i feel the pressure to lose it. Sometimes i think i should wait. Sometimes i feel like throwing myself to the arms of the first idiot i see on the streets. Or such crazy fantasies.

I'm getting insane.

wow..i have never meet a guy who was still a virgin at your age....but dont worry you will find the right girl one day....but if your feeling alittle to crazy about it, then how about hiring a prostitute for the night?

 

[Valley Lilly]

I'm a girl.

No, i don't think pros are a good idea....

 

[KrisGallagher]

*****

 

[bisexplicit]

Nothing crazy about it.

Don't pressure yourself. There are many people who have lost their virginity when they were older than you are.

 

[Valley Lilly]

last night, my friends and i gathered together to watch "The 40 yr old virgin". I could totally related Andy, he's my new hero now, lol.

I can't remember a guy who has show a TRULY interest on me. I consider myself a kind, cool person, and i'm cute. But nothing. Guys are a total unknow specie to me.

 

[Eilan]

Are you putting pressure on yourself or feeling it from peers?

I know that there are people out there who lose their virginity just to "get it over with." I just wasn't wired that way, though.

Good luck.

 

[Valley Lilly]

Yeah, i guess that's my case. I feel it from everywhere. Even if they don't really know.

 

[Wolf of Mibu 69]

Actually, the time between your first fuck and your next one is more painful. Trust me, I'm there now. Heh.

 

[david_42]

I "lost" my virginity at 28. Don't miss it and didn't have a problem with it being several years to the next round. What you are getting from the media has everything to do with marketing and nothing to do with sex. Very few people have a clue what they are doing sexually and it is very easy to live without it.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Trust me, wait until you meet the right guy. I'm not sayign wait for marriage, but wait for a guy that will make it special for you, not just some yahoo who wants to fuck you. Every woman deserves her first time to be special.

If anyone is putting pressure on you, fuck em, figuratively that is. There's no reason you HAVE to lose your virginity. Do it when you feel it's right, to do otherwise reduces sex to a strictly biological response, and it's really so much more.

Was that cheesy enough for everyone?

 

[ultimate_cin]

Lilly, I know exactly how you feel. I didn't lose my virginity until this summer at the age of 32, and there were plenty of times where I just wanted to grab the first guy I saw and fuck him to get it over with. But I'm just not wired for one-night stands, and I knew I wanted my first sexual encounter to be with someone I really cared about and trusted. And now I'm so so glad that I waited for my current boyfriend, because he went above and beyond the call of duty to make it a special experience for me. I know that it's frustrating, and society and the media make you out to be some sort of pariah if you're over 18 and still a virgin....but you will feel so much better about the whole experience if you wait for someone that is special to you.

 

[Cathleen]

You're not crazy, your hormones contribute to a lot of your thoughts and physical reactions.

I waited a long while due to a variety of reasons. Don't feel like you're a freak or the last virgin on earth - clearly you are not. Give yourself a break and don't let society dictate to you.

When you are ready you will choose to share your gift and I hope it will be very special.

 

[SummerMorning]

Lily, don't worry about it ...

statistically speaking all you're probably missing out on is premature ejaculation and guys falling asleep right after the action.

 

[m.j.h]

Trust me, wait until you meet the right guy. I'm not sayign wait for marriage, but wait for a guy that will make it special for you, not just some yahoo who wants to fuck you. Every woman deserves her first time to be special.

If anyone is putting pressure on you, fuck em, figuratively that is. There's no reason you HAVE to lose your virginity. Do it when you feel it's right, to do otherwise reduces sex to a strictly biological response, and it's really so much more.

Was that cheesy enough for everyone?

What he said^^^^^^^.
And remember that it is something for you to give,not to have it taken from you.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I know that it's frustrating, and society and the media make you out to be some sort of pariah if you're over 18 and still a virgin....but you will feel so much better about the whole experience if you wait for someone that is special to you.

Boy ain't that the truth.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Lily, don't worry about it ...

statistically speaking all you're probably missing out on is premature ejaculation and guys falling asleep right after the action.

Hmmm wasn't that a thread two doors over?

 

[SummerMorning]

Hmmm wasn't that a thread two doors over?

It was, wa'nnit?



Of course, there *are* those of us who help keep up the other end of the statistic.

 

[jerseyman1963]

Wait til the time is right

Valley Lilly,

When the time is right, you'll know it. Wait until then. I suspect that the pressure you're feeling is some combination of feeling like you "should" have lost it by now, and what YOU want to do. Like maybe you want to, and maybe you don't, or maybe not just yet. Maybe you're feeling a little of both. But whatever it is, just be true to yourself, be firm in your own convictions, and everyone else can just chill out and worry about their own lives a little more and not yours. When the time is right, you'll know.

Any pressure is all in your head. I assure you that it may seem like everyone else is having sex, or looking at you saying, "There goes the virgin," but they're not.

I am sure that if all you want to do is lose it, all you have to do is go to a bar tonight and ask someone. Speaking as a guy, most guys are undescriminating horn dogs who will be happy to service you. But that would most certainly be a depressing experience.

I waited quite a while, or what was quite a while for a teenage boy back in my formative years (the late 70's early 80's) and I'm glad I did. I just wasn't ready for a variety of reasons, and I am glad I gave myself the time to work some of that out in my head first, because my "first" was a nice and caring experience, and we're still friends some 24 years later because of it.

By contrast my second experience going all the way was awful. At the time I felt like now that I'd had sex a few times I was a stud, and after my "first" and I broke up I just walked up to this girl who'd been flirting with me for a while and said, "Want to go to bed with me?" That not-so-subtle line worked (much to my surprise!) but it was an awful experience. I got half way through and started thinking, "What am I doing here? This is not me. A one night stand is not who I am. I don't like this." It was all because I lost track of who I was and what I really wanted. I succumbed to what I thought I should be doing.

I've been back and forth on both sides a few times since then. Some times or years I can be totally casual about sex, and some times not. But it's all about being sure about who I am and what I need and especially want I decide that I want, not what I think anyone else thinks.

Sounds like you're working some stuff out in your head about who, what, when, where, why, etc. I say give yourself the time to do that, and when you're done, you'll know it, because it will just feel natural and right and you won't have any second thoughts.

You know, funy enough right now I can hear my neighbors having sex at some ridiculous hour early in the morning. The walls in my building are pretty thick, so if I can hear them, or more accurately, her, she's pretty loud, which I interpret as her being really free and happy and into it and enjoying it. Strive for that... when you're ready, you'll know, and it will just seem right.

 

[TBKahuna123]

You know, funy enough right now I can hear my neighbors having sex at some ridiculous hour early in the morning. The walls in my building are pretty thick, so if I can hear them, or more accurately, her, she's pretty loud, which I interpret as her being really free and happy and into it and enjoying it. Strive for that... when you're ready, you'll know, and it will just seem right.

I've said it before and I'll say it again...

Everyone loves a screamer!