Thinking through some of your core fantasies...

[Beandip478]

There are a few fantasies we see mentioned a lot here, and which feature prominently in porn these days. Cucking, of course, is a major one. With white men, and women, it's almost always a black man who does the cucking. The cucked husband is made to watch as the hung stud fucks his wife who screams and moans and shakes like she never has with him. This is as much the husband's fantast as hers.
There are endless variations of this, obviously, but here's the question: would you really want to live out that fantasy?
I'm sure many of you here already have and can perhaps share your thoughts and experiences. But what I keep wondering is, which do you value more, fulfilling an erotic fantasy, or your marriage? Obviously, everyone is different. Some couples may act out this fantasy regularly and they're perfectly happy as a couple. For others, though, I can't help thinking that that sight, for the man, and the experience, for the woman, would eat away at the foundation of the relationship.
Two things necessary for any relationship are respect for your partner and respect for yourself. If it were me, for example, and I saw and heard my wife or girlfriend in a state of ecstasy like that, knowing I had never and could never give that to her, especially if she said so and talked about it, whether because I could not maintain my own self-respect in that relationship, or because I felt she no longer respected me, I think I would have to leave.
Like I say, everyone's different, but while it's a hot fantasy in my mind, if I were in a happy, loving relationship, I would want to protect it, and wouldn't introduce destabilizing influences into it.

 

[Bettytheboo]

There are two different aspects in a relationship, love and sex; the two don't always meet.
I was married and I did love my husband at first but the sex faded away and I like sex a lot.
He was quite happy for me to have sex with other men but eventually I found a younger man who is a lot more open minded and sexy. But some women are happy in a sexless relationship.

 

[Stevieg05]

There are a few fantasies we see mentioned a lot here, and which feature prominently in porn these days. Cucking, of course, is a major one. With white men, and women, it's almost always a black man who does the cucking. The cucked husband is made to watch as the hung stud fucks his wife who screams and moans and shakes like she never has with him. This is as much the husband's fantast as hers.
There are endless variations of this, obviously, but here's the question: would you really want to live out that fantasy?
I'm sure many of you here already have and can perhaps share your thoughts and experiences. But what I keep wondering is, which do you value more, fulfilling an erotic fantasy, or your marriage? Obviously, everyone is different. Some couples may act out this fantasy regularly and they're perfectly happy as a couple. For others, though, I can't help thinking that that sight, for the man, and the experience, for the woman, would eat away at the foundation of the relationship.
Two things necessary for any relationship are respect for your partner and respect for yourself. If it were me, for example, and I saw and heard my wife or girlfriend in a state of ecstasy like that, knowing I had never and could never give that to her, especially if she said so and talked about it, whether because I could not maintain my own self-respect in that relationship, or because I felt she no longer respected me, I think I would have to leave.
Like I say, everyone's different, but while it's a hot fantasy in my mind, if I were in a happy, loving relationship, I would want to protect it, and wouldn't introduce destabilizing influences into it.

That’s why it would have to be with someone we wouldn’t see again and we wouldn’t have to worry about facing them and it would be our little secret

 

[screwher]

Yes! I am absolutely ready and willing to watch my wife get the BBC experience she's been wanting. We’re already a hotwife couple. This would just be another part of that. Even if I couldn’t be present, I still want this for my wifey.

 

[FantasySharer1]

My fantasy is to share my wife with her older brother, and have him move in as a permanent second husband to her. To wake up to them making love many mornings, to go to sleep with the two of us cuddling her in the middle after we've both filled her pussy up. To eat his cum from her pussy and have him eat mine from hers as well.

For us to have an awesome lifestyle as we both work and bring in excellent incomes, while she stays at home and we take care of her.

And the answer is, without a doubt, 110% yes - I want it to become a reality.

I'd love for her to cuckold me with him, wake up everyday to her pussy dripping with his cum over my face, go to sleep after cleaning up their creampie and taking their sloppy seconds, and share her in EVERY WAY possible with him.

They have the sweetest, funniest, kindest sibling relationship. They're also so close to each other, so trusting, so close, and so perfect for each other that if they weren't siblings I can't imagine them not being together. The three of us hangout for hours having a great time and every cell in my body wants her to experience him and him to experience her with my help.

I'm totally in love with her and I love my marriage, but know he could please her in ways I can't because he's just so much bigger than me. I saw him in the locker room years ago and never stopped thinking about the fact that he would reach places inside her pussy I've simply never touched because he's INCHES longer and so much thicker than me.

But - he's her brother. He'd never steal her away from me and our children to go start some incestuous family and get disowned by everyone in our lives. Instead they could fuck and love each other fully, while in the safety and privacy of our home, with my full acceptance. He can leave our house at 2 a.m. or even stay the night and no one would never think anything strange had happened. I'd be happy for them to go on vacations together, full of fucking and incestuous debauchery, known only to the three of us. I'd love to send the kids off to school and the three of us stay at home, me cooking for them while they spend the day in bed making love, or vice-versa.

If it weren't genetically so unsafe, I have no issue with him impregnating her and us raising their baby together along side the four children my wife and I already have.

There's a particular safety about sharing her with her brother - who is bigger than me in the cock department, who is so much fun to be around with the both of us - that protects our family from the idea of them stealing away and breaking our marriage and leaving our kids. He wouldn't want that for her or his nephews and nieces.

It's just perfect if it could happen. As much as I love other cuckolding fantasies, I really think the danger of losing the marriage is really really high. But if you make the bull a sibling, it probably causes the risk to drop significantly.

There's no doubt in my mind that if I could make this happen immediately, I would.

 

[Katch123]

You'll have to step through the door to find out.

 

[CuttingEdge]

A lot of understanding the cuckold relationship can be explained away by personality type. How a Beta, Omega, Sigma and Alpha male personality reacts, or is even agreement to cuckold; is going to be very different. The problem is, sex is so intense, personalized, and full of one’s own experiences, that it would be almost impossible for an alpha personality to understand why a guy with a beta personality might like to be humiliated during it since they probably would never share their wife in the first place. Neither is wrong however.

 

[CuttingEdge]

Myself, I do not have a problem with wife-sharing, cuckolding or a poly-lifestyle… whatever you want to call it, because to me it just comes down to logic. A wife or girlfriend can do whatever they want anyway, so who am I “to allow it”?

Even for a couple that is married, people seem to get hung up on wedding vows. I respect marriage, but at its very core, marriage vows were just something that was stated at a given time. As we all know, FEELINGS CHANGE!

A look at the statistics of cheating proves how prevalent it is, and it transcends all age groups and all time frames of a marriage. A person today has a greater likelihood of the marriage ending in divorce then they do in staying together, and even if they do, far too many of those marriages either worked through infidelity at one time in the marriage, or there was infidelity and the other spouse does not know about it. A lot of that is a spouse does not want to believe the one they love has or is cheating. It is why everyone around them knows their spouse is having an affair and yet they are so oblivious to the obvious… they do not want to believe!

But I also think most married men have no clue how many times their wife is hit on by other men in a given week no matter their wife’s shape, age or figure. The thing is, a woman gets hit on so much, she is oblivious to it herself a lot of the time. Considering how many hours everyone is working these days, we often spend more time with our co-workers than our spouses. We all have flaws and as our wives get despondent over the trials of living with us, suddenly that coworker looks appealing. And the same thing is happening in their household and why they look at our wives for camaraderie. A bond at work does not start out of lust in most cases, but rather it starts from commiserating…

It is great when a wife stays within their vow for life, but here is the thing; it is their choice and a husband has no say in the matter no matter how much they think they do. It is because I understand that, and why I have no issues when my girlfriend spends time with her best friend and her best friends husband who have an open-marriage. I know about it, but she could sleep with those two anyway; my “permission” would not stop her if that is what she wanted to do.

I can understand the draw of thinking, “because of a vow a wife will be monogamous”, but it is just flawed thinking. She can do whatever she wants anyway whether it is stay monogamous or be shared. But if you really love her, wouldn’t you want her to do what she wants? If you don’t, then it really is about you, and not her. That, to me, is narcissistic.

 

[Justfantasies]

I think when a wife is attractive and has a certain kind of history, she will never be quite monogamous. A wise husband is one who learns to live with this and enjoy it

 

[davenjenn]

I think when a wife is attractive and has a certain kind of history, she will never be quite monogamous. A wise husband is one who learns to live with this and enjoy it

Very realistic of you

 

[Tayloroc]

I think when a wife is attractive and has a certain kind of history, she will never be quite monogamous. A wise husband is one who learns to live with this and enjoy it

And makes her even more desirable!

 

[Justfantasies]

"And makes her even more desirable!"

Yes it does

 

[Tayloroc]

Thinking of her with someone else..

 

[Justfantasies]

That always works for me -- "Thinking of her with someone else.."

 

[Tayloroc]

Doesn’t it?? Such an intriguing thought

 

[Justfantasies]

My first wife "cheated" a lot and then told me in detail about it later

 

[LeeKee]

I think when a wife is attractive and has a certain kind of history, she will never be quite monogamous. A wise husband is one who learns to live with this and enjoy it

Correction- not “…she will never be quite monogamous” should read “…will never be monogamous”

 

[Justfantasies]

Correction- not “…she will never be quite monogamous” should read “…will never be monogamous”

Agree -- LOL

 

[Tayloroc]

Touché

 

[luckyseven]

Both monogamy and nonmonogamy can yield healthy, happy relationships for those involved. It's just a matter of personal desires, needs, and preferences.

My wife and I are in a consensual non-monogamy relationship. We didn't want exclusivity but an open and transparent agreement to have more than one romantic or sexual partner at a time if needed. It is not cheating; rather, it's an essential part of our relations, so there are no secrets and no going behind our backs.

I think I am a wise husband who has accepted that this is the way forward and enjoys knowing that my wife is enjoying her sexual freedom, albeit not always with me.

 

[WordsAreErotic]

I’m constantly defending marital infidelity because I view monogamy as unrealistic and outdated. Past the child bearing years I feel it’s largely unnecessary.

That said, I don’t want to participate in cuck fantasy ever and I’m pretty quick to squash guys trying to go there. I do love my husband. He’s the person I want to grow old with. I don’t enjoy disrespect thrown his way.

But I also enjoy flirting and more with other men. The clandestine nature of the flirtation and reluctance also revs my engine.

But yeah, the only thing preventing me from seriously pursuing an in-person extramarital affair is knowing his feelings on the subject. I already feel guilty for all I do on Lit.

Love this honest answer. It’s something we all deal with but rarely put in the open. And sometimes our rationalizations and compartmentalizations give opposing answers to different situations.

 

[Erosfan]

I see this a lot and I know it is huge here. I have a slightly different take on it. I have been into CFNM for a very long time. For me it's not about being a cuck. My late wife and I enjoyed the CFNM aspect a lot and we had some amazing experiences. Neither of us wanted to share the other. I always hoped she would share my interests with her friends where she could show me off and have me entertain them.
She did tell some of her friends and even suggested her aunt might be interested in my desire to be exposed. We never went there. Over the years, she made sure that we were seen. Discreetly of course.

 

[Lonelyinwa]

There are a few fantasies we see mentioned a lot here, and which feature prominently in porn these days. Cucking, of course, is a major one. With white men, and women, it's almost always a black man who does the cucking. The cucked husband is made to watch as the hung stud fucks his wife who screams and moans and shakes like she never has with him. This is as much the husband's fantast as hers.
There are endless variations of this, obviously, but here's the question: would you really want to live out that fantasy?
I'm sure many of you here already have and can perhaps share your thoughts and experiences. But what I keep wondering is, which do you value more, fulfilling an erotic fantasy, or your marriage? Obviously, everyone is different. Some couples may act out this fantasy regularly and they're perfectly happy as a couple. For others, though, I can't help thinking that that sight, for the man, and the experience, for the woman, would eat away at the foundation of the relationship.
Two things necessary for any relationship are respect for your partner and respect for yourself. If it were me, for example, and I saw and heard my wife or girlfriend in a state of ecstasy like that, knowing I had never and could never give that to her, especially if she said so and talked about it, whether because I could not maintain my own self-respect in that relationship, or because I felt she no longer respected me, I think I would have to leave.
Like I say, everyone's different, but while it's a hot fantasy in my mind, if I were in a happy, loving relationship, I would want to protect it, and wouldn't introduce destabilizing influences into it.

My wife is an older hot blonde. I'd love to watch her with a black man (especially if it was an ongoing thing). But she is too conservative to want it. The fantasy drives me nuts sigh.. if anyone wants to chat about it feel free to send me a message. Cheers.

 

[Stevieg05]

My wife is an older hot blonde. I'd love to watch her with a black man (especially if it was an ongoing thing). But she is too conservative to want it. The fantasy drives me nuts sigh.. if anyone wants to chat about it feel free to send me a message. Cheers.

Hey there same her , we ve been married for 29 years and wifey is still as hot as when I met her ! About 5’3” and 120 lbs slim and perfect body/ tits and legs !
I had an affair about 15 years ago and we worked thru it which was different! I had the best of both worlds! Fucking 2 super hot blondes! And the other girl was also married ! Then after about 10 years my wife started to do things like hang out with guys and even have them over for parties witch at first world pissme off! Even getting into a fight with one guy! It now I fantasize about her doing a black guy and seeing her being stretched out and enjoying it

 

[Stevieg05]

We even roll play and have names for each other! And I try to get her to do whatever I want so I push her to the limit and see how far she will go! Which I can say she is very playful! Lot it but makes me want so much more!