Thinking back upon my college days and wondering...

[Beandip478]

I went to a very small arts college, and, to put it mildly, students were for the most part very active sexually, very much ahead of their more conservative peers elsewhere, and orgies were not uncommon. But me, I was terrified and intimated by how much experience most of them had had (I arrived at the school a virgin), and I feared a pretty girl I might go to bed with discovering that I didn't have a clue what to do.
And of course, back then, I was still in the grips of the penis size insecurity.
Anyway, lately I've been wondering, given all the experience I've had since then, and my much greater sense of security in myself, if I were to start as a freshman at that school today, would I be much more sexually confidant and take advantage of the many opportunities I missed.

 

[JohnEBbad]

I pretty much never even attended class, I just showed up for the tests. Sex wasn't on my mind other than with my girlfriend (now my wife). I've never really worried about the size of my penis.

Everybody has fantasies about starting over and doing it better. The best advice is, leave the past lie and live today and all the days going forward being the man/person that you want to be. And don't worry about your penis size. You don't want to be with a partner that worries about (your) penis size, unless, of course, you are hung like a horse and it intimidates her.

 

[dkovic77]

I pretty much never even attended class, I just showed up for the tests. Sex wasn't on my mind other than with my girlfriend (now my wife). I've never really worried about the size of my penis.

Everybody has fantasies about starting over and doing it better. The best advice is, leave the past lie and live today and all the days going forward being the man/person that you want to be. And don't worry about your penis size. You don't want to be with a partner that worries about (your) penis size, unless, of course, you are hung like a horse and it intimidates her.

Only thing you should consider, how many credit cards alerts will go off…

 

[WSM98]

I think back to college often as well. I was a virgin by choice and proud of it. For me, I can't help but wonder how much differently my life would be, my mind would be, if my trauma never occurred there. If I were able to graduate as the beautiful person I was becoming before "it" happened, I'm 100% sure life would be more satisfying.
But I guess, life just moves on and we have to pick up the pieces, the jagged shards of what remains left of us & find a way to become a craftsperson; a person who can take those injured fragments of self and artfully mold a painstakingly thought out, new self image. Construct a new way to identify yourself and present yourself to others so that you're no longer wearing the mask of "I'm okay" & you actually feel the freedom to live in and bask in the glory of "this is how I'm surviving and it's actually the very best I can do."

 

[JohnEBbad]

Ask a plumber (or most skilled trades) and a women's (or almost any) studies grad how much they earn.

Colleges have just become cash-extraction machines chock full of useless degrees.

 

[juttjaw]

Ask a plumber (or most skilled trades) and a women's (or almost any) studies grad how much they earn.

Colleges have just become cash-extraction machines chock full of useless degrees.

Maybe so, but that's what us "non-educated" people use as an excuse for not going to school. I've made 2, sometimes 3 times, what my friends with degrees make. Money isn't everything. In my case, as I hobble around in the mornings with achy knees, horrible back pain and scars from my skills, I wonder, at what point do my earnings hit diminishing returns? We have shorter life spans to enjoy that retirement I've worked so hard for. At the age of 60, will I still be able to do what I want? Or will my body dictate my enjoyment of activities? Just pick your skilled worker position and we can check off the QOL advantages and disadvantages of those making, slightly less, over a career. Most skilled workers have a physically demanding job and pay with their heath, rather than a student loan, for the rest of their life. Again, at what point does the extra money outweigh the quality or quantity of life? In my mid 40s, I'm already wishing I would of stayed in school.

 

[JohnEBbad]

Sit in a cubicle all day under artificial light staring at a computer screen and then you have a whole different set of health complaints.

Me? I prefer making more money, investing and retiring early.

PS - I've lived both lives and I just preferred working as to putting up with corporate and business crap. With the former, the knives are always out, but directed towards physical objects, the latter -- the knives are out for you.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I went to a very small arts college, and, to put it mildly, students were for the most part very active sexually, very much ahead of their more conservative peers elsewhere, and orgies were not uncommon. But me, I was terrified and intimated by how much experience most of them had had (I arrived at the school a virgin), and I feared a pretty girl I might go to bed with discovering that I didn't have a clue what to do.
And of course, back then, I was still in the grips of the penis size insecurity.
Anyway, lately I've been wondering, given all the experience I've had since then, and my much greater sense of security in myself, if I were to start as a freshman at that school today, would I be much more sexually confidant and take advantage of the many opportunities I missed.

It’s normal to think back and wonder “what if,”.

 

[the_single_gal_unconfidential]

we had a saying - the more you learn, the more you earn.
one thing for sure, the college ed will always have more job choices.

 

[Vitriolhack]

Good times in college --- cherry popped freshman yr but by graduation I had a threesome with football players

Wow, you really made the most of higher education

 

[TomTeacher19]

I had similar thoughts reflecting back on college days. I was saving myself for marriage and at a small, conservative, religiously college and I still ended up with half a dozen situations that could/should have resulted in sex and I always stopped shirt. All regrets now about that

 

[Rockymtnman]

I wouldn’t change a thing. i thought HS chicks were easy and fun
( while I was also in high school) little did I know the adventures I’d get up to in college.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I had similar thoughts reflecting back on college days. I was saving myself for marriage and at a small, conservative, religiously college and I still ended up with half a dozen situations that could/should have resulted in sex and I always stopped shirt. All regrets now about that

Well, it made you the person you are today, so, I would not worry about it. There is nothing you can do about it.

 

[TomTeacher19]

Excellent point. I'm super happy about who I am. I don't live a life of regret. But with the help of 20/20 hindsight I can say I wish I had said yes instead of no more. I think I would still be the same awesome me, but one who had more sex. That would be okay

 

[purvis2]

Good times in college --- cherry popped freshman yr but by graduation I had a threesome with football players

pictures?
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