They say that a man has 2 heads, but only 1 of them has a brain.

[FlamingoBlue]

I guess that would be true of a woman, too, since a woman has a clitoris which is nothing more than a mini-penis. So, exactly how much do you let your genitals influence your relationships??

NOW, my point of view is that to have a successful intimate relationship with your lover, you must first build a successful friendship. Otherwise, the sex is just lust and excitement, not that there's anything wrong with that. There are times when wanton sex is terrific, but like Chinese food, it not very satisfying an hour later.

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[Shy Tall Guy]

There are times when wanton sex is terrific, but like Chinese food, it not very satisfying an hour later.

It is if you take some home in a doggy bag.

 

[cymbidia]

NOW, my point of view is that to have a successful intimate relationship with your lover, you must first build a successful friendship. Otherwise, the sex is just lust and excitement, not that there's anything wrong with that. There are times when wanton sex is terrific, but like Chinese food, it not very satisfying an hour later.

I'm in complete agreement.

If all you want is plain hot wet gasping wild sex, then go for it.

Most of us want more than that, though, at least eventually. In that case, better spend some time *before* doing that hot wet gasping sex determining if your partner will be fun to play with out of bed, too.

Intimacy takes time to develop. Anyone can get naked and fuck like a bunny. True intimacy, though, that almost-miraculous joining of souls between people who take risks in opening to each other, that takes time and effort and a willingness to bend to the needs and desires your partner has over the long term. Intimacy is the reward we reap for our laboring in the field of love and respect. It can be almost ephemeral as it flits insubstantially between us and our lover - unless, of course, both partners work at maintaining and encouraging the flame that is intimacy.

Intimacy turns sex into lovemaking, no matter how where, when, why, how, or what else is involved in that physical union.

And lovemaking, well, lovemaking is better than just plain sex any day.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Up you go....




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[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: Re: They say that a man has 2 heads, but only 1 of them has a brain.

I'm in complete agreement.

Intimacy turns sex into lovemaking, no matter how where, when, why, how, or what else is involved in that physical union.

And lovemaking, well, lovemaking is better than just plain sex any day.

What Cym said!

A fuck is just a fuck - but lovemaking is bliss.

 

[OUTSIDER]

The second head is there to help you see where your going

 

[Comshaw]

[qoute]posted by FlamingoBlue:
NOW, my point of view is that to have a successful intimate relationship with your lover, you must first build a successful friendship. Otherwise, the sex is just lust and excitement, not that there's anything wrong with that. There are times
when wanton sex is terrific, but like Chinese food, it not very satisfying an hour later.[/quote]

I can't argue with the premise that to have a successful intimate relationship with al over that you have to also have a successful friendship; but I do think your sequence is off.
Here's how I see it, from personal experience.
Three steps to a hot, passionate,loving relationship:
1. Attraction.
Before anything there has to be an attraction. That instant magnetic force between a man and a woman is usually based on a lot of things. At the time most don't know it but we can weigh such things as whether there is any physical, intellectual and emotional attraction. Not how much, but if there is any.
2. Sex
If the attraction is strong enough, then sex comes into play, the hot, passionate, fuck on every piece of furniture in the room until you fall down exhausted type of sex. Depending on the age of the couple, this can last for weeks or hours. Gradually the third stage sneaks in.
3. Emotional connection
Again if the attraction is strong enough, and the pair exhaust each other a number of times, they will graduate to this level. A bond is formed and they start to appreciate each other for more then the physical pleasure. Conversation sneaks in during those breathers after one and before the next. He finds that she can talk on the same level as he. She finds that he's not such a macho airhead after all. Soon a pair is bonded.

But then I'm not opposed to fucking like bunnies just for GP either!

Comshaw

Comshaw