There's More To Oral Than Just Licking

[Coven911]

i unfortunately started out with a Dom i didnt quite trust... he pulled a knife on me once and that was the end of it. but i have to agree; i prefer servitude to too much pain

Ok, the knife could have been used in a SCENE, but something tells me that is a scene you did NOT wish to partake in. So, you did the right thing.

And servitude is awesome and I only give pain if that is what is expected, wanted.

 

[blackrose_216]

Ok, the knife could have been used in a SCENE, but something tells me that is a scene you did NOT wish to partake in. So, you did the right thing.

And servitude is awesome and I only give pain if that is what is expected, wanted.

i dont mind the knife in scene. i mind that i didnt know whether or not he intended to draw blood with it, and that i didnt trust him enough to believe he wouldnt. i also mind that when i told him no, put it away, i dont like that, he kept going.

 

[Coven911]

i dont mind the knife in scene. i mind that i didnt know whether or not he intended to draw blood with it, and that i didnt trust him enough to believe he wouldnt. i also mind that when i told him no, put it away, i dont like that, he kept going.

AH..a prime exampe of a soft limit. And a scene limit.

As soon as you said NO, it should have been put away.

Good move on your part!

 

[lil_squirter]

i unfortunately started out with a Dom i didnt quite trust... he pulled a knife on me once and that was the end of it. but i have to agree; i prefer servitude to too much pain

I am so sorry to hear that! The corner stone of a true D/s relationship should be trust. Without it how can one ever fully submit? There is a far and wide ranging definition of what it is to be Dominant and submissive, sadly the trust factor seems to be slipping in some.

 

[blackrose_216]

I am so sorry to hear that! The corner stone of a true D/s relationship should be trust. Without it how can one ever fully submit? There is a far and wide ranging definition of what it is to be Dominant and submissive, sadly the trust factor seems to be slipping in some.

true. i dont like needing a safeword. too much to think about. if i mean no, you know thats what i mean. my Master now i fully trust. i cant imagine going back to a Master i cant fully trust

 

[Coven911]

true. i dont like needing a safeword. too much to think about. if i mean no, you know thats what i mean. my Master now i fully trust. i cant imagine going back to a Master i cant fully trust

HUZZAH!

 

[lil_squirter]

I didn't mean to infer otherwise. *S*

No disrespect intended, merely to inform. *dip of head respectfully* I was taught to be proud of my training and never let it be assumed that I was a less then proper student of the lifestyle. I tend to get a bit over zealous sometimes I think. It's what happens when subs are ungoverned.

 

[blackrose_216]

No disrespect intended, merely to inform. *dip of head respectfully* I was taught to be proud of my training and never let it be assumed that I was a less then proper student of the lifestyle. I tend to get a bit over zealous sometimes I think. It's what happens when subs are ungoverned.

haha true. im a subbie with a mind of my own, a strong will, and a free spirit ^_^ its hard to control me. but GODS i love it when someone does >.<

 

[cliteatingman]

I have the opposite problem...

I you!

There are on these boards a great number of men who are thrilled to practice their oral arts and it is wonderful to hear. Outside though when you get into the populace at large there seems to be a general idea that oral is a woman's job to give and men need only make sure there is some nominal wetness before they go for the big thrust.

I always have that discussion prior to any sex with any new partner and it has saved me a good deal of disappointment. I've heard men say they hate the flavor, the act makes their jaws hurt, no woman really cums that way and even...the all time dreaded comment on smell. Most of these arguments are justifications or based on one bad experience. It's the brussle sprouts theory. You were forced to try it to prove you don't like it and were therefor already biased against it, and never feel the need to try again.

Bless you guys for being enlightened and open in your attitudes to cunnilingus and pleasing your female partners! I hope you carry that on to other men as well.

..I'm desperate to eat pussy and my woman claims not to like it. Can anyone on lit help me out?

 

[blackrose_216]

you should respect her wishes for now... try talking to her about it. not forceful or nagging or anything; just conversational. find out what bothers her about it. maybe try other things first, like ice cubes or toys--see if you can get her hot enough to want it. but above all, DONT force the issue. itll just make her uncomfortable, and possibly angry.

 

[OutofKYGuy]

Present!

Just to help with the census, I'm another pussy lover, for the same reasons as the other guys. As a twist I've never actually recieved good oral, and right now I'd love to go down on a woman. It's honestly one of my main fantasies.

 

[blackrose_216]

honey youve never received good oral? have you tried telling the girl what you like/dont like? i think its a travesty if someones never had good oral :/

 

[OutofKYGuy]

You are so right, and I did try. Bad relationship on many levels, but simply put.. she didn't care. I would get so frustrated because I would crave to eat her out and like the other guy here, she would be uninterested! To break the stereotype, she was a redhead too.

Here's the irony, she complained about the taste and the smell, and it made her jaws hurt. blah blah blah. I told her she didn't even have to swallow my dick or deepthroat. Some people just don't care about libidos or making their partner happy. I will leave anyone now who is unwilling to satisfy their partner.

 

[blackrose_216]

i will always satisfy--my purpose is to serve ^_^ and yes, when youre getting used to it, it does hurt your throat. but im a redhead, and i love it! i love the taste... haha my Master had never had anyone swallow his before, so it shocked the hell out of him when i refused to stop at "im gonna cum" the first time apparently hed had this long-standing fantasy about being sucked dry... now he gets it whenever he wants lol but theres nothing more satisfying to me than pleasing a partner... just cant get enough of it ^_^

 

[OutofKYGuy]

..I'm desperate to eat pussy and my woman claims not to like it. Can anyone on lit help me out?

Just to my two cents in, I agree heavily with blackrose. If you think about it, the goal of muffdiving is to make her happy. If oral doesn't make her happy, don't push the subject. Try kissing other erogenous zones and ask what she likes.

 

[blackrose_216]

Just to my two cents in, I agree heavily with blackrose. If you think about it, the goal of muffdiving is to make her happy. If oral doesn't make her happy, don't push the subject. Try kissing other erogenous zones and ask what she likes.

definitely. try going for other sensitive areas on her body--throat, earlobes, nipples, the insides of her thighs, the backs of her knees, the small of her back... but be careful NEVER to imply you might be about to do something she doesnt want! total turnoff >.<

 

[OutofKYGuy]

I wonder if we could get any women to post why they don't enjoy recieving oral? Probably too many of the posting girls that might read this enjoy it. The main complaints that come to mind would be low self-esteem about the area, fear of biting, and oversensitive clit,

And, kudos to all who've posted and sympathize with satisifies!

 

[OutofKYGuy]

especially blackrose, for quantity and quality

 

[blackrose_216]

well i used to not like it... but i was mostly just uncomfortable with the idea of someones face there. lol it took me a long time to get used to that, and then the whole "69" thing, but now i love it. my ex girlfriend doesnt like when her fiance does it because shes known him so long she says its weird... plus she doesnt like the smell of it on his face. i dont like when guys have a lot of facial hair and they come up to kiss you and their face is all wet >.<

 

[OutofKYGuy]

Lol More similarities and differences. I felt the same way before receiving. It's about trust. and with your friend, I guess I can understand her not fully enjoying her own smell. I'd relate it to not wanting to kiss a girl after she went down on me. I don't feel that way personally, but it makes sense.

And I shave, because although I like my face wet, I don't want to chafe.

BTW, you've enjoyed 69? I've only been allowed to do that once. There wasn't any rhythm from all the stimulation so it became awkward. You get me so curious.

 

[blackrose_216]

well its difficult to form a rhythm. but once we start to get really hot from it, it sort of syncs up... feels absolutely amazing.

 

[Pepsico]

Just read about the head grabbing thing - i love it when she grabs my head, pulls it hard into her pussy while she bucks her hips.. sometimes I get her to straddle my face, so that her pussy is constantly grinding into my mouth (love it when she leans against the wall with her hands, great view of her body and facial expressions are just so exquisitly erotic

I want to go give her head now!

 

[richxr7]

I think it varies from person to person and time to time. My wife likes it alot, but then she likes me to finger her to. I love to give her oral pleasure and she is the same for me.

 

[OutofKYGuy]

For example, I like to have my head head rubbed and my hair played with. I also like to have my head shoved into a woman's hips when I'm doing well, but I also like to breathe. I can handle ten to twenty seconds, but if I have to catch my breath it breaks the moment. I try to let her understand if she's the type of girl who gets excitable like that.

 

[blackrose_216]

For example, I like to have my head head rubbed and my hair played with. I also like to have my head shoved into a woman's hips when I'm doing well, but I also like to breathe. I can handle ten to twenty seconds, but if I have to catch my breath it breaks the moment. I try to let her understand if she's the type of girl who gets excitable like that.

lol see, i get pretty damned excitable, but i just start running my fingers through your hair and moving my hips. i dont like to suffocate people >.<