Therapy

[oneblueye]

I really don’t like you, but you’ve brought something up that I would like to bring up in therapy. It’s coming

I’ve said some things to certain people and about certain people. Like, prophecy. I was quite spiritual in my younger days, just quietly, so when things started happening I thought maybe my negative thoughts had something to do with it. What happened to these people. Bad things. In some freaky out of it way. I know it sounds crazy but hear me out.

One stage I tried to take it back in the hope of turning things around for a person who’d really done me wrong. Turns out I’m just really good at people. I’m just “highly sensitive” when it comes to people. That’s what I’ve been told. That’s my experience. Shit things happen to shit people. In the end, they do it to themselves. It’s not karma. They fuck themselves over. One way or another, we pay.

YOU,
don't know me.
but IF you did you find out that you don't 'not like me', you actually hate me---, vehemently...BUT THAT'S OK.
I don't mind it a bit...
I would still fuck you and administer as much pleasure to your hateful self as is humanly possible...give the opportunity.

I, myself am more than just 'slightly empathic' and I never had to be told it was something I've known and lived with all my life. My paternal abeula was a curandera and my paternal abuelo was a vidente.

I agree with you in that the grief, the horror, the aggrevation, the 'bad luck', the general evil that exists in this world and that befalls people is most often of their own workings, the result of their own mechanizations, lies and deceiving.
And I truly and honestly believe that we are all accountable for everything we've said or done or condone either device or by omission and that--, EACH AND EVERY ONE WILL REAP THE RESULT OF THAT WE HAVE CAUSED OR SAID BY WORD OR DEED.

and I just want to say, love ya baby.

 

[girlsmiley]

I knew I didn’t like you before all of that drivel amen.

 

[thør]

I think that’s really sweet. What I’m worried about is any negative feelings transferring to him. Dogs know. They can feel it too. Can you explain a therapy dog a bit more?

The pup is just there to make people feel a bit more comfortable. He's totally your friend as long as you have a hand on him. I believe he's supposed to help some folks open up a bit more.

 

[stickygirl]

I've seen my fair share of shrinks and counsellors - some good, some average, one appalling. Most recently I discovered what I thought was normal and a commonly shared experience, wasn't. She was awesome and gave me answers to questions I didn't even know I was looking for.

The best part of the process is the way it's affected how I view other people and it's made me more tolerant of them. Family can't see wood for trees, friends are often too kind to speak the truth, so yea, I'd recommend it. One thing I'd suggest is to set a limit to the meetings to start with, or else there is no pressure to reach conclusions, plus there's the $ downside to it.

Hope it works out for you and give yourself time to process what your learned

 

[Stillrandy]

Girlsmiley - You are smart and exercising good self-care, hope you keep going with it. I have been in and out of therapy for 40 years, yeah that's 'forty'. That and good medications have helped me out of the pit on many occasions, so I am in favor. Ms. stickygirl is right; time is an ally. We used to say in group: "It works if you work it and you're worth it"!

 

[WillJ8787]

Come again?

It's a type of therapy.

 

[oneblueye]

I knew I didn’t like you before all of that drivel amen.

LOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(still love ya)

 

[juttjaw]

My Mom decided to go back to school when I was 3. She ended up becoming a Psychologist, focusing on addiction, and later got into relationships. I grew up with it. I was much younger than my brothers and sisters, so I was more of an only child. I'm certainly not some well rounded, exceptional person, but I grew up with it. I seem to know a lot about it through osmosis and my Mom practically treating me as a colleague.

I've seen a few therapists.. Well, one really, and we became pretty good friends. Of course, I'm sure all his patients think they are his really good friend. Anyway, we went through very similar issues and ended up sitting sharing drinking stories through our last 10 sessions. Then, he retired. Or, I just stopped going, I don't really remember. Chicken and the egg kind of thing.

 

[SmartIsSexy64]

To be fair on myself, I think I should’ve been offered therapy more than 20 years ago. To help with a whole range of things that have “plagued” my life. I learned to hide a whole bunch of stuff away to appear strong. I thought I had to be the tough girl because of responsibility. The smart one. The reliable one. The financial person. The caring one. The mother, in a way. Not literally, but similar in a way. A whole part of growing up was left behind and I stepped into adulthood well before my time. It was just lucky that I was quite well traveled by then. For my age.

I’m sure we can all look back in hindsight and ask ‘what if?’ But we can’t change the past. What we can change, though, is the feelings we have about things. The way we look at things. Places. People. Even in the past. We can find peace. I’d highly recommend therapy to anyone mate, and if that’s something you’ve thought about just do it. It won’t hurt you to try

I see a lot of where I've been in this post. It took me going down a pretty dark path to get to the point where I was honest with a therapist. (I had gone before, but wasn't honest). Although I may have a different experience in some ways, I did finally find someone who helped. The fact is that I had been so comfortable in who I was that I wasn't putting in the work on myself to change that. Once I did a lot of other relationships improved. It's a process and like a physical healing, it happens on it's own schedule. I wish you peace on your journey.

 

[FataMorgana]

YOU,
don't know me.
but IF you did you find out that you don't 'not like me', you actually hate me---, vehemently...BUT THAT'S OK.
I don't mind it a bit...
I would still fuck you and administer as much pleasure to your hateful self as is humanly possible...give the opportunity.

I, myself am more than just 'slightly empathic' and I never had to be told it was something I've known and lived with all my life. My paternal abeula was a curandera and my paternal abuelo was a vidente.

I agree with you in that the grief, the horror, the aggrevation, the 'bad luck', the general evil that exists in this world and that befalls people is most often of their own workings, the result of their own mechanizations, lies and deceiving.
And I truly and honestly believe that we are all accountable for everything we've said or done or condone either device or by omission and that--, EACH AND EVERY ONE WILL REAP THE RESULT OF THAT WE HAVE CAUSED OR SAID BY WORD OR DEED.

and I just want to say, love ya baby.

Huh? If she doesn't like you how would you "still" fuck her? Bit creepy mate.

 

[oneblueye]

Huh? If she doesn't like you how would you "still" fuck her? Bit creepy mate.

Didja read the whole response or did you stop right there?
Did you NOT see where I said "--if given the opportunity"?
My own wife doesn't like me much either but sometimes she gives me the opportunity to engage in sex with her.
I'm sure you don't only fuck or have only fucked someone ONLY when you like them. Whether they giving the opportunity or you giving it up. Go on and tell me I'm wrong and make you out the liar that you and I both know you would be.

 

[FataMorgana]

Didja read the whole response or did you stop right there?
Did you NOT see where I said "--if given the opportunity"?

No I read it all. Still thought it was a bit weird.

 

[Not Normal]

To be fair on myself, I think I should’ve been offered therapy more than 20 years ago. To help with a whole range of things that have “plagued” my life. I learned to hide a whole bunch of stuff away to appear strong. I thought I had to be the tough girl because of responsibility. The smart one. The reliable one. The financial person. The caring one. The mother, in a way. Not literally, but similar in a way. A whole part of growing up was left behind and I stepped into adulthood well before my time. It was just lucky that I was quite well traveled by then. For my age.

I’m sure we can all look back in hindsight and ask ‘what if?’ But we can’t change the past. What we can change, though, is the feelings we have about things. The way we look at things. Places. People. Even in the past. We can find peace. I’d highly recommend therapy to anyone mate, and if that’s something you’ve thought about just do it. It won’t hurt you to try

I'm really glad you're showing yourself this type of self care.

 

[Brains_N_Boobs]

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[JohnEngelman]

Unfortunately, there are still taboos and sanctions against going to a psychiatrist or a psychologist. Acquitting criminals because they are deemed to be mental ill probably contributes to this. I have not seen a survey on this topic, but I am fairly confident that mentally healthy people are more likely to be criminals than mentally ill people. Crimes are not committed by people who are unnecessarily afraid and depressed.

Mental illness should be treated like a treatable ailment.

 

[oneblueye]

No I read it all. Still thought it was a bit weird.

LOL, ok then.

 

[Eringobra]

Not doing therapy, but my daughter-in-law is a therapist. She even has a therapy dog to help some folks feel a bit more comfortable.

I could probably use more therapist...I too have a therapy dog and he definitely makes me feel better

 

[oneblueye]

Unfortunately, there are still taboos and sanctions against going to a psychiatrist or a psychologist. Acquitting criminals because they are deemed to be mental ill probably contributes to this. I have not seen a survey on this topic, but I am fairly confident that mentally healthy people are more likely to be criminals than mentally ill people. Crimes are not committed by people who are unnecessarily afraid and depressed.

Mental illness should be treated like a treatable ailment.

I don't believe that you are correct, concerning your statement about crimes NOT being committed by people who are afraid and depressed. And if you don't class their actions as crimes, what do you consider them??

 

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[JohnEngelman]

I don't believe that you are correct, concerning your statement about crimes NOT being committed by people who are afraid and depressed. And if you don't class their actions as crimes, what do you consider them??

Crimes are violations of the law. Crime can be regarded as a high risk source of income, where one can usually acquire more money than one could legally. Those who are chronically afraid and depressed are not prone to take risks.

 

[oneblueye]

Crimes are violations of the law. Crime can be regarded as a high risk source of income, where one can usually acquire more money than one could legally. Those who are chronically afraid and depressed are not prone to take risks.

a person who is truly 'afraid' is capable of committing some of the most heinous crimes imaginable and because they are afraid of something or someone they should get a pass???

 

[stickygirl]

I've suddenly lost the ability to decode written words into intelligible meaning
I'll try a different thread

 

[JohnEngelman]

a person who is truly 'afraid' is capable of committing some of the most heinous crimes imaginable and because they are afraid of something or someone they should get a pass???

No criminal should get a pass for any reason. They should all be punished.

 

[pecksniff]

Of course, the best therapy involves Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas levels of LSD.

 

[girlsmiley]

I'm really glad you're showing yourself this type of self care.

It works. It helps.

No I read it all. Still thought it was a bit weird.

Letting his sick imagination run wild. I’ve read enough of his posts to know he’s a misogynistic bastard