dr_mabeuse
seduce the mind
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Theories of Orgasmic Esthetics: what makes orgasms so arousing to witness, so compelling and affectiing? Answers that go beyond the basic tautology of "Because they just are!" The kinds of things those of us who can't stop thinking about sex can't stop thinking about.
One idea is that they lay our essential animal nature bare, that human existence is a constant tension between the animal and the spiritual, that although we're trapped in our animal bodies, we strive to be something more, something transcendent and ideal. As such, we're always hiding the animal part of ourselves, and that's where our sense of shame comes from. In orgasm, we lose control of the ideal parts of ourselves and become the very thing we're always trying to conceal -- the sexual animal -- and it thrills us to see one another's essential natures like that.
Another theory involves the feeling of helplessness we experience when we come, the feeling of total dependence on our lover. It's a state of great vulnerability, while to the lover it's greatly empowering and enriching, a feeling of control and conquest. Notice how often in our stories the lovers compete to make the other come first, as if they're in a struggle for mastery. It's ultimate control when your lover orgasms.
Then there's the witness of their need for you, their descent into desire. This is very effective in fiction, to take a cold and haughty character and have him or her fall deeply for another and become their sexual slave. To be brought to orgasm is one of the most intimate connections you can have with another human being, and to have someone put that power in your hands can be terribly erotic. Or, it can just be terribly cheap, too.
One idea is that they lay our essential animal nature bare, that human existence is a constant tension between the animal and the spiritual, that although we're trapped in our animal bodies, we strive to be something more, something transcendent and ideal. As such, we're always hiding the animal part of ourselves, and that's where our sense of shame comes from. In orgasm, we lose control of the ideal parts of ourselves and become the very thing we're always trying to conceal -- the sexual animal -- and it thrills us to see one another's essential natures like that.
Another theory involves the feeling of helplessness we experience when we come, the feeling of total dependence on our lover. It's a state of great vulnerability, while to the lover it's greatly empowering and enriching, a feeling of control and conquest. Notice how often in our stories the lovers compete to make the other come first, as if they're in a struggle for mastery. It's ultimate control when your lover orgasms.
Then there's the witness of their need for you, their descent into desire. This is very effective in fiction, to take a cold and haughty character and have him or her fall deeply for another and become their sexual slave. To be brought to orgasm is one of the most intimate connections you can have with another human being, and to have someone put that power in your hands can be terribly erotic. Or, it can just be terribly cheap, too.
