stickygirl
All the witches
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When we become friends with someone, we mutually accept certain boundaries and rules to our friendship, that are quite different to those between lovers. I don't mean physical boundaries - where exactly we can touch a friend's body, depending on genders or age differences, but something less clear.
If we have an established friendship with someone, it because difficult if not impossible to break the rules and reset the relationship to be lovers. It might be the way my brain works, so I wonder if anyone has noticed this and perhaps acknowledged that strange, unspoken rule in their writing?
Maybe it's a tribal thing? Perhaps as hunters we trust each other in one way, but as lovers, it is quite different? Different goals, different rules.
Humans. We're strange. Maybe some psychologist has an answer?
If we have an established friendship with someone, it because difficult if not impossible to break the rules and reset the relationship to be lovers. It might be the way my brain works, so I wonder if anyone has noticed this and perhaps acknowledged that strange, unspoken rule in their writing?
Maybe it's a tribal thing? Perhaps as hunters we trust each other in one way, but as lovers, it is quite different? Different goals, different rules.
Humans. We're strange. Maybe some psychologist has an answer?