BiBunny
Moon Queen & Wanderer
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I feel like a bit of a hypocrite for posting this, since I'm one of those people who hates the over-romanticism of D/s (or M/s, whichever you prefer). But I've been having these thoughts the last few days and thought it might make for an interesting discussion, since I seem to have insomnia again tonight.
Though I jokingly call myself an attention whore, I'm not the whiny, needy type who's in constant need of attention. A smile and a small touch of the hand from the right person is enough to sate my need for attention for days. I'm super low-maintenance.
Last night, my special someone and I were talking about torture and my unusual need for attention of late. (I almost started another thread on that particular subject, but I didn't figure the board needed yet another thread about torture, and I was too lazy to bump one of the older ones up to the top.) He talked about this little fantasy scenario of his in which he keeps me tied up for 36 hours in various positions wearing a blindfold or bondage hood, a gag, and a set of earplugs to significantly reduce the number of things I could sense from the outside world. (I promise I'm going somewhere with this.) He said I'd have no kind of pleasure whatsoever, no stimuli but pain. I said that I was so needy for attention for some reason lately that I would undergo anything just to be touched, even if it was a painful, rather than pleasurable, experience. He did promise me some pleasurable attention after the ordeal was over, but asked, "Would you really take 36 hours of torture for just an hour of petting?" To which I rather shame-facedly replied, "Yes."
Now, the point's pretty much a moot one because there's no way he's going to leave me bound and tortured that long, since it'd pose some significant problems to my health. However, it got me to thinking, and I described a long scenario I was playing out in my head, the high points in which he untied my poor, bruised body after the 36 hours were up, bathed me and washed my hair, dried me with a thick fluffy towel, laid me across the bed and massaged my aching body, fed me morsels of yummy food (dark chocolate being the number one feature here), and generally just held me close and kissed me until I fell asleep (maybe with some light bondage and a blindfold being thrown in, and some lovemaking if I had the energy, for good measure). He liked this idea, but told me it was rather out of character for me, being a hardcore bitch and all. I blamed it on the fact that I can't find a job and am kind of stressing that I've been to three interviews in the past week and a half and haven't had a single callback yet. I need someone to reassure me that it's going to be ok, and I won't be thrown into debtor's prison.
After that lengthy story, I'm finally getting to the point of my post. While the scenario I described up there probably falls under aftercare, I think both of us could do that scene alone without the lengthy torture session preceding it, so whether or not it's an aftercare thing depends solely on context rather than content. We often discuss the hard side, so let's turn it around for a minute. For those of you who are like me, unimpressed with the "Oh-My-Master-You're-So-Wonderful-Oh-My-Pet-I-Will-Protect-You-Forever" school of D/s or M/s often seen in newbies and onliners-only, how often do you like to play on the soft side? What motivates you to play soft? What kinds of things do you like to do when you take a break from the hardcore? If cuddling is considered standard soft, mushy play, is massage considered edgy soft play?
Ok, I was being facetious with that last one, but I'd love to hear what you think. *Holds insulin shot at the ready because I'm betting there'll be lots of sweetness in this thread*
Though I jokingly call myself an attention whore, I'm not the whiny, needy type who's in constant need of attention. A smile and a small touch of the hand from the right person is enough to sate my need for attention for days. I'm super low-maintenance.
Last night, my special someone and I were talking about torture and my unusual need for attention of late. (I almost started another thread on that particular subject, but I didn't figure the board needed yet another thread about torture, and I was too lazy to bump one of the older ones up to the top.) He talked about this little fantasy scenario of his in which he keeps me tied up for 36 hours in various positions wearing a blindfold or bondage hood, a gag, and a set of earplugs to significantly reduce the number of things I could sense from the outside world. (I promise I'm going somewhere with this.) He said I'd have no kind of pleasure whatsoever, no stimuli but pain. I said that I was so needy for attention for some reason lately that I would undergo anything just to be touched, even if it was a painful, rather than pleasurable, experience. He did promise me some pleasurable attention after the ordeal was over, but asked, "Would you really take 36 hours of torture for just an hour of petting?" To which I rather shame-facedly replied, "Yes."
Now, the point's pretty much a moot one because there's no way he's going to leave me bound and tortured that long, since it'd pose some significant problems to my health. However, it got me to thinking, and I described a long scenario I was playing out in my head, the high points in which he untied my poor, bruised body after the 36 hours were up, bathed me and washed my hair, dried me with a thick fluffy towel, laid me across the bed and massaged my aching body, fed me morsels of yummy food (dark chocolate being the number one feature here), and generally just held me close and kissed me until I fell asleep (maybe with some light bondage and a blindfold being thrown in, and some lovemaking if I had the energy, for good measure). He liked this idea, but told me it was rather out of character for me, being a hardcore bitch and all.
I blamed it on the fact that I can't find a job and am kind of stressing that I've been to three interviews in the past week and a half and haven't had a single callback yet. I need someone to reassure me that it's going to be ok, and I won't be thrown into debtor's prison.After that lengthy story, I'm finally getting to the point of my post. While the scenario I described up there probably falls under aftercare, I think both of us could do that scene alone without the lengthy torture session preceding it, so whether or not it's an aftercare thing depends solely on context rather than content. We often discuss the hard side, so let's turn it around for a minute. For those of you who are like me, unimpressed with the "Oh-My-Master-You're-So-Wonderful-Oh-My-Pet-I-Will-Protect-You-Forever" school of D/s or M/s often seen in newbies and onliners-only, how often do you like to play on the soft side? What motivates you to play soft? What kinds of things do you like to do when you take a break from the hardcore? If cuddling is considered standard soft, mushy play, is massage considered edgy soft play?
Ok, I was being facetious with that last one, but I'd love to hear what you think. *Holds insulin shot at the ready because I'm betting there'll be lots of sweetness in this thread*
It just depends on how that skill is honed by my Dom.
i can only imagine that feeling is going to be compounded when we're together IRL.
