The shit has hit the fan

[jass1960]

Just heard from a friend that the shit has hit the fan....

His girlfriend has taken their 16 month old daughter around to his house...now normally that wouldn't be a prolem but his wife doesn't know he has a girlfriend let alone a daughter.

What should he do?

 

[sexy-girl]

without knowing your friend at all i have to ask still ... is this why all men are pigs

 

[Black_Bird]

Other: Tell the truth and take the consequences like a man.

 

[kiwiwolf]

Other: Tell the truth and take the consequences like a man.

What he said... take responsibility for his fuck ups.

 

[MidnightAngel]

Other: Tell the truth and take the consequences like a man.

BB, if you keep saying stuff like that, you'll be kicked out of the male gender!

 

[jass1960]

not all men

but in this case........yes

and before I get flamed by association I urged him to let his wife know as soon as he knew this girl was pregnant - I even offered to be the messenger if he was too chicken to tell her himself - however he chose not to tell her.

 

[LRC]

Hmmmmmmm

I'd have to say

add a

Bend over and kiss your ass goodbye

option to your poll

 

[Black_Bird]

BB, if you keep saying stuff like that, you'll be kicked out of the male gender!

Hell, I've already been accused of being gay - why not? Besides, I don't think one more lesbian among the ranks of woman would hurt...

 

[VanB]

Waht a complete and utter tosser!

He's got whatever's coming to him and he gives us chaps a bad name!

He should have come clean ages ago - and presumably if he was enamoured enough with his g/f to have a baby he doesn't love his wife.

I voted other.

He should face his wife, open his wallet and say "help yourself" this is less painful than having it forceably removed by the courts.

 

[sexy-girl]

Other: Tell the truth and take the consequences like a man.

you dont know women very well ... i'd run j/k



(sorry im in a goofy mood and i know this is serious situation but the poll seems to be done in fun)

 

[JaymesBlond007]

Dude...he's screwed. He might as well come clean, make a final decision on what he wants to do, and hope his wife doesn't cut his balls off.

Originally posted by sexy-girl
without knowing your friend at all i have to ask still ... is this why all men are pigs

Now you know that's not true! Some of us are pigs, some are dogs, some are an ass, some are snakes, and some are rats.

 

[jass1960]

(sorry im in a goofy mood and i know this is serious situation but the poll seems to be done in fun)

it is a true story and it is a serious situation..

but you are right the poll is done tongue firmly in cheek

 

[xzchief]

Your friend made his decision two years ago. He chose to deny everything and try to cover up his mistakes. The only road now is straight ahead. He'll probably hit a dead end soon but there's no sense now in turning around. The clock struck midnight a long time ago.

 

[Bindii]

See this is the problem God gave him a brain and a penis but only enough blood to run one at a time (he chose the wrong one). If he's smart he'll take Vanb's advice and open his wallet (nice and wide mind you). Then he'll run for his life.

 

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[Phoenyx]

without knowing your friend at all i have to ask still ... is this why all men are pigs

women can cheat just as much as men,,,,

Hell he needed a woman to cheat with....

 

[jass1960]

biggest loser out of all this will be the little girl

I agree whole-heartedly with that point

you dont know women very well ... i'd run

me too

 

[Cheyenne]

Does this "man" have children with his wife, too?

More people than just the wife are involved in that case.

But I agree with the group, he is a dead man no matter how you look at it. Confess and ask for forgiveness is his only option.

 

[jass1960]

Does this "man" have children with his wife, too?

No fortunately, but to make matters worse for his wife they had been trying for a child of their own - without success - for a considerable time

 

[juicylips]

Some people really shouldn't be allowed to breed. Regardless of what happens next, the biggest loser out of all this will be the little girl. I hope his wife kicks him out on his sorry ass.

I agree, Foxy....

The child is always the one that suffers the most. A pawn in middle of such a disaster.

Cassidy

 

[tn_8tiv]

Just heard from a friend that the shit has hit the fan....

What should he do?

First of all, if you are going to fuck around, I believe you should get a divorce...first! Believe me, I know from experience it is much cheaper in the long run.

If you choose not to go this route, then face up to your responsiblities to the little girl. You and your g/f created this and now you will have to live with the consequences. She is your responsibility. As for your married life, you probably should give your soul to God because your ass is now your wife's.

 

[LukkyKnight]

He can't have his cake and eat it too.

women can cheat just as much as men

Hell he needed a woman to cheat with.

I point out Pheonyx's observation to try to steer this away from the men are pigs theme (we have plenty of other places to explore that one) and back to the what should he do theme.

In two words:
Grow up.

He is the toddler's father, and IMHO all the decisions he makes from this point forward have to be predicated on the fact that she had no choice in the matter, whereas her parents (both) did.

So, lie and pretend ignorance? Hell no, that is not fair to his daughter. You can't opt out of being a father - you either do it well, average, or damn poorly, but you are still who you are, and your offspring are forever yours.

 

[alltherage]

This guy has already harmed three lives. What he needs to do is whatever is best for the child. He also needs to start being honest with everyone but most importantly with himself.

 

[jass1960]

I agree

I agree with LuckyKnight he has got to look towards his daughter's future happiness - he loves his daughter; feels manipulated by his girlfriend; feels guilty about the way his wife has been treated - he seems totally confused about life at the moment and in his shoes who wouldn't?

 

[Andreina]

god....men can be such &%§$%?" (censored) arseholes