The right way to lose your virginity

[davenjenn]

For me there was nothing very special about losing my virginity. I was 18, so not especially young. He was my age and I had known him for a few years and dated him occasionally. It was neither a good nor a bad experience.

I don't have a daughter, but if I had one, I wonder what I could tell her about losing her virginity. Not silly stuff like, you'll know the guy when you find them. But real actionable advise.

What would other ladies say or what have the told their daughters. Or what have their daughters told them?

 

[amofiga]

I'm not a woman but regardless of a young girl or boy losing virginity or other sex for that matter is use a condom. Or is that too obvious? Especially true if you live in Alabama or some other stupid ass, backwoods, closeminded state living in the 18th century that wants to make abortion illegal.

 

[suckonsimon]

My younger son and his first girlfriend were passionately connected through their love of film among other things. My son knew that if he asked us to leave them in peace in his bedroom we would do so. He did. He had asked me for condoms as he was shy to buy. They were both virgins. They were just at the age when in the UK you can marry with parental consent. She knew we liked her a lot and I believe that is part of what made her comfortable to have sex in my son's bedroom even when we were home. I'm proud that we provided them with a safe place where there was not a shred of 'furtiveness' for them.

 

[Jada59]

I have a daughter. I didn't tell her anything. The sex ed in our schools is really good here. I think she pretty well knows it all.

 

[runsilent]

My younger son and his first girlfriend were passionately connected through their love of film among other things. My son knew that if he asked us to leave them in peace in his bedroom we would do so. He did. He had asked me for condoms as he was shy to buy. They were both virgins. They were just at the age when in the UK you can marry with parental consent. She knew we liked her a lot and I believe that is part of what made her comfortable to have sex in my son's bedroom even when we were home. I'm proud that we provided them with a safe place where there was not a shred of 'furtiveness' for them.

My parents did the same.They didn't like there 16 old having sex but then they remembered when they were 16.

 

[Justfantasies]

Then there are the girls who are saving themselves, but it turns they are saving themselves for the first experienced man or man with a big cock that shows up

 

[davenjenn]

Then there are the girls who are saving themselves, but it turns they are saving themselves for the first experienced man or man with a big cock that shows up

Most girls want it all -- having a steady bf is great even if he not sexually desirable. But hard not to stray in those circumstances

 

[runsilent]

Then there are the girls who are saving themselves, but it turns they are saving themselves for the first experienced man or man with a big cock that shows up

Well that's one way of looking at it. Absolutely not the best. I was looking for someone special and not the best body or the best whatever. I do kind of get how an experienced person can get the better of the innocent. It's sick but it happens.

 

[Justfantasies]

Well that's one way of looking at it. Absolutely not the best. I was looking for someone special and not the best body or the best whatever. I do kind of get how an experienced person can get the better of the innocent. It's sick but it happens.

It isn't sick -- it's natural and often fun for both sides

 

[runsilent]

It isn't sick -- it's natural and often fun for both sides

Or maybe not. It's not good for the ones that got manipulated.

 

[LupusDei]

I'm not woman, and don't have daughter I know about (joke, but...). What I would say? Don't expect too much of it.

My own experience doesn't apply here. She was a year older, not a virgin (for quite a surprise), and the whole thing was result of a bet between me and another girl (think Dangerous Liaisons). While it was almost a business from my part; she did enjoy it as far I could tell.

My sister lost it in drunken party with a guy she barely knew, and didn't remember much of the event, but kept claiming it was exactly how she wanted it to happen. She had a long term hopeless crush, and that was part of her program of dealing with it. I think it was her first year in college, so she was 19 probably. Year later she started the ten year long journey to her marriage.

Then I had this one girlfriend; that was quite a strange experience. She was younger, but also 19 already and as virgin as they come (what was bordering public spinster shaming around here back then: only real weirdos haven't had sex at sixteen, or such was the overall perception). We dated for like a year already, and to that point had done just about anything except PiV sex. Part of that was a range of issues, including, we didn't have good enough place.

Except I had access to that appartment, meant to be leased out, but currently empty and half furnished (and it wasn't mine). So, we used it, and she made a huge production out of the planned occasion; by all means and purposes it was a secret wedding with only the newlyweds in exclusive attendance. And it was a total bust. We ended up falling asleep crying in each other's arms. No, I won't go in the details why.

About two weeks later we were watching Jim Jarmusch Dead Man in crappy pirated WHS recording in the backroom of math professor office at the university, snuggling tightly on the small couch. I had seen the film on the big screen some time ago, she had missed; I promoted and praised it, but she was more interested in the soundtrack than anything. The recording cut off short, just seconds before Cole and Nobody kill each other, reverting to a basketball game that apparently was recorded in the cassette at an earlier date.

I was incredibly frustrated, and tried to convey the missing scene verbally, in as much vivid detail as I could. While I was talking, she removed her panties from under her skirt; fished my already rock hard cock out of my pants and straddled me; impaling herself on my cock with zero foreplay while I was still describing Johnny Depp's William Blake dying in the boat. Behind the thin drywall, we could hear professor reading lesson about search for new integrals. But for the hell, if I had to choose just one sex act to forever remember from this life, that was it.

 

[glBock]

My younger son and his first girlfriend were passionately connected through their love of film among other things. My son knew that if he asked us to leave them in peace in his bedroom we would do so. He did. He had asked me for condoms as he was shy to buy. They were both virgins. They were just at the age when in the UK you can marry with parental consent. She knew we liked her a lot and I believe that is part of what made her comfortable to have sex in my son's bedroom even when we were home. I'm proud that we provided them with a safe place where there was not a shred of 'furtiveness' for them.

Kudos to you for the way you played a positive role for your son and his girlfriend! The world needs more parents like you.

 

[glBock]

Or maybe not. It's not good for the ones that got manipulated.

You poor manipulated man, you have all my empathy!! Imagine, getting manipulated into the most wonderful thing on earth. Must have been really terrible.

 

[davenjenn]

Girls should always go through a bit of slutty period, beginning with a gentle and experienced man who can introduce her to sex

 

[runsilent]

You poor manipulated man, you have all my empathy!! Imagine, getting manipulated into the most wonderful thing on earth. Must have been really terrible.

Yes ma'am may I have another

 

[glBock]

congratulations Lupus Dei …

… on the last experience you described. IMHO there is far too much importance attached to the concept of supposedly losing something, when sex happens for the first time. Instead what happens is that both can GAIN something.

Back to the original question, what parents can and should do: they should emphasize to their children the gains that can happen thru sex, and work on getting the crap out of their mind that sex is associated with a loss of anything.

 

[Jada59]

… on the last experience you described. IMHO there is far too much importance attached to the concept of supposedly losing something, when sex happens for the first time. Instead what happens is that both can GAIN something.

Back to the original question, what parents can and should do: they should emphasize to their children the gains that can happen thru sex, and work on getting the crap out of their mind that sex is associated with a loss of anything.

I would not have wanted my parents messing in my sex life. That's creepy. Sex is a personal thing.

 

[davenjenn]

I would not have wanted my parents messing in my sex life. That's creepy. Sex is a personal thing.

No kidding. All that I ever asked was that my parents be sex friendly

 

[Jada59]

No kidding. All that I ever asked was that my parents be sex friendly

Not sure what that means. My dad was a horn dog and my mom hated sex. That much I know.

 

[glBock]

your responses, Jada ...

…. do not surprise me at all. Typical of people insisting on being right always. Someone who can actually consider it "messing with her sex life" if her parents try to dispel myths of old ("losing your virginity") seems a bit whacky in her head to me.

 

[KaileyRae]

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[Bigspurt]

I'm a guy and I lost my virginity at the same time as my then girlfriend. There wasn't any bleeding and she was so scared she made me wear two condoms. It wasn't terribly memorable.

 

[Jada59]

…. do not surprise me at all. Typical of people insisting on being right always. Someone who can actually consider it "messing with her sex life" if her parents try to dispel myths of old ("losing your virginity") seems a bit whacky in her head to me.

Ha! My parents would not have dispelled myths of old. My mom didn't even know what oral sex was. She asked me if it was someone who just talked about it and didn't do it. When I told her what it was, she accused me of lying.

I lost my virginity, if you want to put it that way, to a failed dismount on the uneven parallel bars in gym class. I'm sure sex would have been waaay more fun than that.

I think you get way too hung up on verbiage.

Me? I'm a live and let live kind of person. I don't go around talking of myths and I certainly don't believe them. I also don't give a fig about your opinion. I'm a free thinker and I do what's right for me.

 

[glBock]

some remarks to Jada

I wonder whether it ever occurred to you, Jada, that this thread is not exclusively about YOU? The question asked in the opening post was NOT "what happened to Jada when she was young?" but instead
what might be the right way for a girl to have her first sex?


I am sure your fucked-up experiences do not matter a whiff, when it comes to answering that key question. But you seem unable to recognize, that the Literotica Personals were NOT created exclusively for allowing Jada to tell the world, what she has experienced in life. A lot could be gained for discussions here, IMHO, if you could get it into your head some day: Jada and her personal experiences are not the most important thing that ever happened throughout the history of mankind.

 

[Bigspurt]

I wonder whether it ever occurred to you, Jada, that this thread is not exclusively about YOU? The question asked in the opening post was NOT "what happened to Jada when she was young?" but instead
what might be the right way for a girl to have her first sex?


I am sure your fucked-up experiences do not matter a whiff, when it comes to answering that key question. But you seem unable to recognize, that the Literotica Personals were NOT created exclusively for allowing Jada to tell the world, what she has experienced in life. A lot could be gained for discussions here, IMHO, if you could get it into your head some day: Jada and her personal experiences are not the most important thing that ever happened throughout the history of mankind.

OUCH!