The Quagmire of a Career Choice

[lavender]

What do you do when your career choice, of which you have spent years preparing and tons of money funding, just leaves a bad taste in your mouth?

I have no desire, absolutely none, to do anything remotely related to law. I do mean ANYTHING. The idea of the law makes me ill right now.

How do you justify to yourself absolutely scrapping everything and doing something that will seemingly make you happier?

The thought of any career directly involving the law leaves me with the most uneasy, unhappy feeling. It's as if I want to get as separated from it as possible.

 

[rosco rathbone]

What do you do when your career choice, of which you have spent years preparing and tons of money funding, just leaves a bad taste in your mouth?

I have no desire, absolutely none, to do anything remotely related to law. I do mean ANYTHING. The idea of the law makes me ill right now.

How do you justify to yourself absolutely scrapping everything and doing something that will seemingly make you happier?

The thought of any career directly involving the law leaves me with the most uneasy, unhappy feeling. It's as if I want to get as separated from it as possible.

How do you justify being miserable when you could be happy?

NO one likes a lawyer anyway.

 

[Texan]

Take a break, sell Avon or something, and then rethink the whole thing. Sometimes, you can't see over the wall until you step back a few paces.

good luck.

 

[seXieleXie]

do lobbyist work. find a non-profit that supports your ideals. there are other options and you know that. they don't pay as well, but they exist.

 

[red_rose]

Do whatever makes you happy, girl. That's what's most important in the end.

 

[medjay]

How do you justify to yourself absolutely scrapping everything and doing something that will seemingly make you happier?

You justify it by knowing you will be doing something that will make you happier. Simple.

Life is too short to spend anytime doing something you hate. Good luck, sweetheart!

 

[HeavyStick]

Lawyer Porn.

Everyone complains about getting fucked by them. Let them enjoy watching a lawyer getting fucked.


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[Texan]

just remember this: if you have an opportunity to do something special, and you don't follow through; then no matter what else happens in life, you will always regret not finishing what you started.

Once something is finished, you can change directions without regret, but to change directions before the goal has been attained, will always create regrets later in life.

 

[seXieleXie]

my last post didn't convey everything i intended it to. i don't think you need to justify being happy to anyone. and perhaps all you need is a little time and space. you're reaching the end of a long and difficult educational career. you deserve a break and some time to think.

 

[kotori]

It's as if I want to get as separated from it as possible.

A legal separation? hmmm.

Here's a story. My chemestry teacher in high school was only one of two PhDs in the h.s. faculty (the other was a retired college professor who just liked teaching). He had left a good job with what is now Exxon (then Humble Oil). Once he got into teaching, he took some courses, became a guidance counsellor, and later went on to become the principal of a grammar school. One day, he woke up and decided to buy a Volkswagen repair shop, which he ran for many years, and later owned a lawn maintainance business. His daughter still runs that.

What's the point? Only that you don't have to be "locked" into any decision. The bigger question might be what is it that you'd like to do instead?

 

[lavender]

It's really not all that bad. I just have been tossing around possibilities since I decided no firm work for me, and can't decide. I have thought seriously about PhD work but I need a break from school for awhile.

I guess it hit me tonight when I thought of applying for this job which would be decent pay, a 2 year commitment, and great on my resume. And then this black cloud loomed over me saying - there is no way in hell you want to be that tied to a courtroom or to truly legal matters. I felt an impending 2 year hell.

I'm not really concerned about getting a job - I have marketable skills and can find the job. It's just putting this whole law thing behind me and realizing that I can use a law degree to help me in jobs that are not traditionally held by lawyers.

 

[Monazwx]

Try to remember why you chose law in the first place.
If that doesn't help, pick something similar to your other interests.

 

[Bandit58]

I'm 44 years old and not really qualified to do anything much. I left my husband and our farming business last year, and I got part time work in a school and studied for a teacher aide certificate. I do enjoy my work but I don't feel that comfortable teaching a whole class of kids, I'd rather work one-on-one or with small groups.

I've always had an interest in books and seem to have gravitated a lot towards library work (I was a student librarian and my first voluntary work was in a school library). I've been looking for further study on this, and came across a Diploma in Information and Library Studies that I can do extramurally and part time while I work. Eventually I'd like to work in a school library, that way I get to work with what I love - kids and books

I really regret not going on to tertiary study when I was younger. However I've had the time to work out what it is I really want to do now

 

[ksmybuttons]

I think there is also the time when you just have to "buck up." You have put time and energy into all that education. If you have definately decided you don't want to be a lawyer, then finish so you at least have the credential. No matter what type of career you eventually choose, the law will be a part of it, heck, the law is a part of everything. You could also try some jobs after you finish school that you know you would hate, and realize that being an attorney isn't as bad as teaching or .com stuff or service type industries. At least as a lawyer you can be an asshole now and then and no one really objects because they expect it of lawyers.

So, lavy, buck up. Finish school, then decide.

 

[lavender]

ksmybuttons, not finishing school is not an option.

That is a given.

 

[ksmybuttons]

Okay, great. Remove motherly lecture.

 

[IrishWolfhound]

Lav-

Definitely do not do something unless you enjoy it. We all spend too many hours at work to be miserable while we are there.

But as noted, you don't have to practice law to put your degree to work. And just because you have a law degree does not mean you have to do anything that resembles legal work.

Go find your joy. Worry about your credentials later.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

... How do you justify to yourself absolutely scrapping everything and doing something that will seemingly make you happier?

[justification]"This will make me happier."[/justification]

 

[Mz_Scarlett]

Lavy my love,

I believe that everything happens for a reason. If law is leaving you with a bad taste in your mouth then follow your heart in selecting a new career. I don't believe that the time and money you have spent will be for naught...perhaps it's purpose will show up at another point in your life. What is important is to be happy.

Scarlett

 

[Monazwx]

I think there is also the time when you just have to "buck up." You have put time and energy into all that education. If you have definately decided you don't want to be a lawyer, then finish so you at least have the credential. No matter what type of career you eventually choose, the law will be a part of it, heck, the law is a part of everything. You could also try some jobs after you finish school that you know you would hate, and realize that being an attorney isn't as bad as teaching or .com stuff or service type industries. At least as a lawyer you can be an asshole now and then and no one really objects because they expect it of lawyers.

So, lavy, buck up. Finish school, then decide.

This is great advice, which I have just recently accepted.
I don't like it too much, but I've decided that when I get my degree, I'll use it to pursue my other interests.

Also, can this dislike for law be a little apprehension?

 

[Saint Peter]

When I was young I had dreams of being a sheet metal worker. Think of the good times. Think of the money and all the women. Then one day I woke up and found out it was just another job. Another way to bring home cash to pay for all life's stuff.

"The grass is always greener over the septic tank" Erma Bombeck once wrote. She was correct.

 

[Minkey Boodle]

Your happiness justifies doing whatever it is you feel is best.

Regardless of the money and time spent thus far, you gotta figure out what's best for you.

I've changed my mind as to what I want to do sooo many times. I've been in school for five years thus far and I still have a ways to go. T'ain't no thang, I'm just tryin' to have a good time.