liqueur
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(I'm using ‘cuckoldry’ in the broadest sense here). What are your thoughts about why some men enjoy knowing their wife is with other men? I'm hoping for an at least semi-serious discussion here— not a porn thread.
I read an essay years ago in which the author proposed that there are two kinds of men (always, that dualism!)— the strong and virile type, and the... well, the not strong and virile type. The writer claimed that prehistorically, the first type were the leaders, the best hunters, and a little later, the best warriors. They could of course have their pick of the women. But the second type were the more dependable ones. They were the caretakers, the nurturers, who would watch over a woman while she pregnant and was nursing and take care of the family as the children were born. Being weaker, they were also, of necessity, more submissive.
The women (this writer claimed) would prefer the stronger type for breeding, finding them more attractive, more pleasurable, more etc (or, biologically speaking, mute viable). But once they were pregnant, they would always return to the submissive mate for nurturing and for what evolved to be love.
Getting more outrageous as he went along, the writer then claimed that the hunter/warrior types evolved bigger cocks so (a) the women would prefer them even more, and (b) their sperm would be injected deeper, giving it a head start over the weaker (and obviously small-cocked
) types. He even went so far as to claim that the head of a man's penis, with its ridge around its edge, had evolved for the purpose of drawing the other guys’ sperm out of the woman as he planted his own in a stronger position.
Obviously, the story was pure poppycock— not only did the author not have a shred of scientific evidence to back it up, but if it were true— if there were indeed two separate, genetically defined types of men— by now, natural selection would have bred the weaker types out of existence. But it was an entertaining read, and for all I know, it may have been written entirely tongue-in-cheek.
To the point: I've pondered, ever since: realistically speaking, what is the social or psychological mechanism by which some men become more competitive and jealous (and/or players) while other men go the other way and enjoy sharing our being cheated on?
Any thoughts?
I read an essay years ago in which the author proposed that there are two kinds of men (always, that dualism!)— the strong and virile type, and the... well, the not strong and virile type. The writer claimed that prehistorically, the first type were the leaders, the best hunters, and a little later, the best warriors. They could of course have their pick of the women. But the second type were the more dependable ones. They were the caretakers, the nurturers, who would watch over a woman while she pregnant and was nursing and take care of the family as the children were born. Being weaker, they were also, of necessity, more submissive.
The women (this writer claimed) would prefer the stronger type for breeding, finding them more attractive, more pleasurable, more etc (or, biologically speaking, mute viable). But once they were pregnant, they would always return to the submissive mate for nurturing and for what evolved to be love.
Getting more outrageous as he went along, the writer then claimed that the hunter/warrior types evolved bigger cocks so (a) the women would prefer them even more, and (b) their sperm would be injected deeper, giving it a head start over the weaker (and obviously small-cocked
) types. He even went so far as to claim that the head of a man's penis, with its ridge around its edge, had evolved for the purpose of drawing the other guys’ sperm out of the woman as he planted his own in a stronger position. Obviously, the story was pure poppycock— not only did the author not have a shred of scientific evidence to back it up, but if it were true— if there were indeed two separate, genetically defined types of men— by now, natural selection would have bred the weaker types out of existence. But it was an entertaining read, and for all I know, it may have been written entirely tongue-in-cheek.
To the point: I've pondered, ever since: realistically speaking, what is the social or psychological mechanism by which some men become more competitive and jealous (and/or players) while other men go the other way and enjoy sharing our being cheated on?
Any thoughts?
