The Prostate...

[mostlyintact]

Hi everyone!

I'm writing a scene in which I want to include male anal fingering. And while the story is written from the female perspective, I'm still finding it hard to get into the guy's head when he needs to react. Mostly, I think, it is because I don't have a prostate, and I guess that plays a pretty big role here. Sure, I don't have a penis either, but I feel I do alright writing in this regard because, well, I have more experience with penises then buts.

So I was hoping a few of you guys could kind of talk me through the experience.

I'm familiar with the mechanics, but I don't feel right taking my "friend's" trust and turning it into a Q&A session. He already put his ass on the line for me, you know? OK, sorry for the painful pun, couldn't help myself.

Anyway, he's told me that it's not a pleasurable sensation in isolation. Like, he needs penis stimulation too. So I was wondering if that's a generally accepted truth, or up for debate, or just variable?

Also, and I know it's a difficult question, but I'd love if someone could try and talk me through the mental hoops here. I know male anal play registers for a lot of guys as a submissive/humiliation act, and that others just see it as a pleasurable sensation. In my scene, I've envisioned it as a challenge to his masculinity which makes him more aggressive and dominant afterwards. Can any men weigh in on the feasibility here? Is this simply a bizarre leap of logic that the male mind would never make?

Thanks so much everyone!

Love from,
Amy

 

[Doctorboy]

Prostate stimulation

Amy, its similar to your g-spot. Many of us get totally aroused by just that stimulation without any penile contact. So, there's the pleasure of a finger slipping back and forth through the anal sphincter and there's the added pleasure of the finger tip stroking the prostate gland.

For me, its not necessarily a submission thing, although in combination with a sub/dom role play, it certainly can be. Part of the pleasure is allowing my partner to explore every part of my body...with me feeling totally exposed and trusting of her exploration. Its such an intimate, forbidden pleasure.

Anal play and prostate stimulation can add a significant dimension of pleasure to the act if the guy is comfortable with that kind of play.

 

[jomar]

Hard to say.

All I know is that when my woman goes down on my bone and snakes a finger up my rear I howl and moan like a girl when she presses on that spot, whoo yeah...and after I come in her mouth with her finger back there for some reason I feel ashamed and angry and throw her on her back and pin her legs down and smile as she whimpers in pleasure as my thick cock drives into her tight warmth and she moans and grinds under my relentless love and hugs me tight.

Sorry I can't explain it any better.