the possibly inane newbie thread

[etoile_noir78]

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[FloggingMolly]

I think thats a good kind of Dom to be welcome to the thread. Do your vanilla friends have an idea of what you're in to?

 

[etoile_noir78]

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[ShyVixen]

Hello, Molly. Welcome I'm from the UK too.

I'm not a noob, but I'm not an advanced (is that the right word?!) poster either. I'm somewhere inbetween.

Very interesting way of discovering your submissive side Hope you find the forum helpful!

 

[00Syd]

I wish this thread had been around when I first found the forum.

 

[KoPilot]

I approve of this thread.

I don't have anything to contribute atm, but I will be lurking about! :3

 

[FloggingMolly]

KoPilot: We don't mind lurkers

Vixen: I love your signature pic hon

00Syd: what can I say, awesomeness just doesn't come along that often If you like, we can pretend you're new too?

etoile_noir78: I know what you mean, it's much easier here. Though saying that, most of my friend think I'm a deviant sex addict anyhow, and I can't seem to persuade them I'm a pure, innocent virgin

 

[Sir_Winston54]

.... I can't seem to persuade them I'm a pure, innocent virgin

<Koff, koff, choke!>

Don't say (type/post) things like that while I'm drinking! (Strawberry milk, yummmzzzz!)

 

[FloggingMolly]

*pouts*
But I aaaaaaaaaaaaaam!

 

[trojan_man_co]

Trojan~ No, I did mean the BDSM section. Some of them seriously blow me away, to the point of having to google the definitions of certain words, and I've never thought I was particularly stupid. I can understand the idea of being here long term wthout being a frequent or active poster. I've certainly lurked here a great deal over the years!
So, what first prompted your exploration/realisation?

I was being sarcastic hun lol! I first found lit from a friend who no longer is on here but she told me about it and after lurking for a day i was hooked and had to post. I also seem drawn here for the people and conversations for how entertaining and the great ideas that come from these boards. But real life does get in the way weather its school or job or family or a cute lil subby wiggling her butt at me. I just get distracted and out of sight out of mind kicks in till one day i get board and i find myself back at this sight and im hooked again till the next thing draws me away.

 

[FloggingMolly]

:nods:

I'd be hard pushed to say _why_ I stopped coming here... just did.

 

[etoile_noir78]

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[FloggingMolly]

My friends all think I am sex mad... just don't think they realise the true extent!!

I doubt mine would be shocked... but I hate the idea that they would think because I submit to him, I'd submit to them.

 

[etoile_noir78]

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[Skorpion49]

Domination

Used to live in the UK myself until I escaped...

In a world of screw or be screwed, it's important to know where you belong. What you prefer, and what turns you on. There is bound to be someone (or someone to be bound?) just dying to play the part you need.

I have known what turns me on for very many years. It's just the way I am. I am glad it's not so unusual, really. I am even gladder that I can thrill someone doing what I enjoy.

 

[mattguize]

Hey all,

This feels like an Alcoholics Anonymous moment. *cough* "hello my name is matt, and ive been a sex addict for..."

Some jokes are old, but that one you probably saw staggering over the hill.

Anyway.

I'm not new to lit - ive been reading the stories for ages and occasionally pop into the forum threads to have a glimpse of things, but never really had the courage to contribute anything. there are a lot of very smart people, and i have been known to stick my foot in my mouth a few times by making assumptions...so yes, i'm a noob.

at least on the forum board.

My interest in BDSM was all started by a lady i used to know who basically introduced me to it all. Her interest wasnt in the toys or the ropes, but in the mental side of it, so i've kinda inherited the same interest. I still havent figured out if im a Dom or a sub, I think i'm naturally a switch. I guess thats one of the benefits of being only 25 and still discovering things - it means i can adapt to my partner's desires, while at the same time still leave plenty of time for me to figure out which i prefer.

If any of that makes any sense...

 

[ultramarineblue]

It's interesting to me how many people I consider people to be maybe not a regular but an established member of the boards here that think of themselves as kinda newbies still.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

It's interesting to me how many people I consider people to be maybe not a regular but an established member of the boards here that think of themselves as kinda newbies still.

I don't know that I think of myself as kinda newbie, but I certainly know that there's still a lot out there that I'd like to learn and/or experience...

 

[ultramarineblue]

I don't know that I think of myself as kinda newbie, but I certainly know that there's still a lot out there that I'd like to learn and/or experience...

I didn't even think about it in terms of learning. But that definitely makes sense. I guess I was thinking more about being new to this forum. I definitely don't think of myself as one of the cool kids yet.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I didn't even think about it in terms of learning. But that definitely makes sense. I guess I was thinking more about being new to this forum. I definitely don't think of myself as one of the cool kids yet.

*Snort!* I can't speak for the "real" world, but I certainly consider you one of the cool kids *here.*

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

One of the things I'm learning is subtlty.

I'm generally not good with it, I like things to be obvious, I tend to be obvious.

But sometimes when I'm trying to buck the system, act out, carry on, fight, kick, bite and scratch, I'll feel like I'm winning.

Then when he comes down on me like a tonne of bricks, stopping me in my tracks, he tells me 'enough' and I realise he was in control of even that tantrum, and I didn't realise.

*sigh* It makes me feel safe, but it's kind of scary as well.

 

[FloggingMolly]

Skorpion49 ~ Hi there! Do you find your kinks are more or less tolerated in scandanavia than in the uk?


mattguize~ old, yes. But it still made me laugh I'm only a year older than you, so I get that 'flexibility' idea. I identfied as Domme for a while, then switch, now sub. But I _think_ I'm settled now I hope this thread gves you a bit more confidence to posting here. It seems scary, but they're not that bad really

UMB & SirWinston~ you're both definately cool kids

Lizzie~ yeah, I struggle with subtlety, and tend to start a rant that I can't finish, til he's sick of hearing it. But I'm working on it

I've been in trouble 3 days in a row now, disobediance, lack of consideration, and out right disrespect. *sigh* If I can just get through today wthout doing anything wrong, I'll be happy.

 

[Skorpion49]

Skorpion49 ~ Hi there! Do you find your kinks are more or less tolerated in scandanavia than in the uk?

Probably not much difference these days - some people will always be amused or shocked, and some will be turned on. Depends who you talk to and I was "in the closet" in the UK so not really able to compare. Not that many know of my inclinations here either - but I did find a great sub here so am biased! A greater tradition of openness and equality here which can work both ways of course. Difficult to dominate someone who is determined to be politically correct! In my experience though it is possible to separate the political being from the sexual one.

 

[ultramarineblue]

*Snort!* I can't speak for the "real" world, but I certainly consider you one of the cool kids *here.*

Awwww. Ok, you made me clap my hands in childlike delight.

UMB & SirWinston~ you're both definately cool kids

Thank ya!