The one big problem being single

[Svenskaflicka]

Humans are made to live in roups, like wolves and lions. If you don't have a mate or a family of your own, then you should make sure to socialize with other group members (friends, relatives, co-workers, class mates), to battle the feeling of loneliness.

Being single is in a way rather much like being with someone, in the aspect that there are times when you LOVE it, and there are times when you hate it.

It's all a matter of enjoying the good moments and surviving the bad ones. Hang in there, snoop! Remember the song:
"...in the winter, far beneath the bitter snows,
lies the seed that with the sun's love,
in the spring becomes the rose."

 

[SnoopDog]

Humans are made to live in roups, like wolves and lions. If you don't have a mate or a family of your own, then you should make sure to socialize with other group members (friends, relatives, co-workers, class mates), to battle the feeling of loneliness.

Being single is in a way rather much like being with someone, in the aspect that there are times when you LOVE it, and there are times when you hate it.

It's all a matter of enjoying the good moments and surviving the bad ones. Hang in there, snoop! Remember the song:
"...in the winter, far beneath the bitter snows,
lies the seed that with the sun's love,
in the spring becomes the rose."

Thnx Svenska. That was beautiful and well said.

Snoopy,

 

[steve w]

I think there's an element of "grass is greener" when it comes to singledom.

People who aren't happy in a relationship think how wonderfully free single people must be - no partner to consider, no babies to look after, out every night enjoying themselves. Single people envy couples their togetherness, the shared intimacy, the support, the sex, etc.

Personally, I think single is overrated, but preferable to a bad relationship.

The worst things about it?

- When you're single, it can be very hard to imagine when the next relationship is going to happen.
- However funny something is at the time, you have no-one to share it with, and it's much less funny when you re-tell it
- You pay too much for fucking everything - hotel rooms, food, everything
- You feel like an extra wheel at any social encounter where the numbers were even before you showed up
- Hugs are not immediately available on request
- Dining out alone sucks in a huge way
- Some couples look at you with an expression that says "gee, if you were a horse, I'd have shot you already"
- You get the urge to kill everyone with a "baby on board" sticker. Don't get me started on them...

 

[SummerMorning]

I have a baby on board... me.



goes off to a corner to sulk and play unsocialized like a baby

 

[SensualCealy]

I cant believe the "mom's" on here havent given you this suggestion Snoopy. When you make your crepes of most anything the next time, make a full batch, get yourself those glad plastic dishes or anything like that, thats disposible. When the filling is made divide it into four dishes, and in marker write the date on the top. If you havent ate the other three batches in a month to six weeks- toss them. Or you can POP the frozen stuff out and wash up the dishes.

As for the crepes themselves Ive heard- never made them myself, if you make a full batch and put wax or parchment paper between them and lay them flat they freeze well. My thinking is , its only four and water basically, so you can afford to throw out a bit if you make too much.

Im going to look up a couple books for you, I know Company's Coming has a two people book of recipies, and a Rookie cook book for college students. Other wise, Ill see what I find and post it here if I do find anything worth passing on.

Mushroom and tomato crepes for breakfast- that could be do-able!
C

 

[Liar]

- Dining out alone sucks in a huge way

Very true. You don't just go out and have a quality meal for dinner because you feel like it, if you have to ask for a table for one.

Also, I don't go to the movies, to concerts or to the theatre half as much as when I had the by-default company of an SO to take with me.

#L

 

[SnoopDog]

I cant believe the "mom's" on here havent given you this suggestion Snoopy. When you make your crepes of most anything the next time, make a full batch, get yourself those glad plastic dishes or anything like that, thats disposible. When the filling is made divide it into four dishes, and in marker write the date on the top. If you havent ate the other three batches in a month to six weeks- toss them. Or you can POP the frozen stuff out and wash up the dishes.

As for the crepes themselves Ive heard- never made them myself, if you make a full batch and put wax or parchment paper between them and lay them flat they freeze well. My thinking is , its only four and water basically, so you can afford to throw out a bit if you make too much.

Im going to look up a couple books for you, I know Company's Coming has a two people book of recipies, and a Rookie cook book for college students. Other wise, Ill see what I find and post it here if I do find anything worth passing on.

Mushroom and tomato crepes for breakfast- that could be do-able!
C

Thnx a lot Sensual. Looks like Lit's Lil Beagle has found someone new to hug and welcome

- You feel like an extra wheel at any social encounter where the numbers were even before you showed up
- Hugs are not immediately available on request
- Some couples look at you with an expression that says "gee, if you were a horse, I'd have shot you already"

AMEN to that.

Snoopy

 

[SensualCealy]

I like puppy kisses!!
Cealy

 

[SnoopDog]

I like puppy kisses!!
Cealy

Snoopy

 

[Guest]

You don't just go out and have a quality meal for dinner because you feel like it, if you have to ask for a table for one.

Also, I don't go to the movies, to concerts or to the theatre half as much as when I had the by-default company of an SO to take with me.

Oh my, this is soooooooooooo too bad.

I would guess I go out "alone" for a very good meal (lunch or dinner) several times a year (more, if I can afford it). I dress well, enter the place like I own it, and get the service I desire. I take my time and enjoy the food and at least one glass of non-house-wine. I leave a 20% tip. (I take a book to read, but I do not read the entire time. I like to simply sit and look about, or just think.)

Not too long ago I posted about three very wonderful evenings I enjoyed "alone" at the symphony, all Beethoven programs. Again, I dressed up, had Champagne at the intermission, smoked on the balcony.

I did my first Ring cycle alone, in Seattle. I spent ten days alone in Venice. All wonderful times. In fact, even if I had a partner it wouldn't mean they'd be good companions for opera or whatever (I know this from experience).

Liar, anyone: be good to yourselves. Enjoy your selves, even if "alone".

Perdita

 

[Black Tulip]

Perdita,

You are absolutely right, but the funny thing is. I do go on a holiday on my own because I like it that way.

But I do not go out for dinner or theater on my own. Weird.

Food for thought.

 

[Lucifer_Carroll]

Perdita,

You are absolutely right, but the funny thing is. I do go on a holiday on my own because I like it that way.

But I do not go out for dinner or theater on my own. Weird.

Food for thought.

Ditto, I thoroughly enjoy going to the theatre by myself and watch quite a bit of it. I never go to the movies alone, prefering to rent if I'm the only one who wants to see it. Holidays are nice alone, but only because nothing beats wandering through a museum on your own in your own pace with no distractions and no people around.

I however, would never eat dinner at a fancy place alone. Not because of the furtive glances of the tables of couples, but because it seems a waste of money. Why spend so much money for overpriced food, romance, and snobbery, when I could buy a week or three worths of books?

 

[Guest]

I however, would never eat dinner at a fancy place alone. Not because of the furtive glances of the tables of couples, but because it seems a waste of money. Why spend so much money for overpriced food, romance, and snobbery, when I could buy a week or three worths of books?

Luc, I do not eat alone (or with company) at a fine restaurant (not necessarily expensive) for the romance or snobbery. That would be a waste. I enjoy very good food and service. I also pay as much to have a complete stranger give me a massage, or a manicure. My book-buying budget is another thing altogether. P.

p.s. now that I think about it, I do not recall furtive glances from couples or parties of four, etc.

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Thnx Svenska. That was beautiful and well said.

Snoopy,

Kept my hope alive during some dark years...

if you get really down, remind me to tell you about the oranges.

 

[SnoopDog]

Kept my hope alive during some dark years...

if you get really down, remind me to tell you about the oranges.

Alright, I'll keep that option for really bad times.

Snoopy

 

[comp|icity]

Originally posted by Liar
Very true. You don't just go out and have a quality meal for dinner because you feel like it, if you have to ask for a table for one.

Also, I don't go to the movies, to concerts or to the theatre half as much as when I had the by-default company of an SO to take with me.

#L

Just some thoughts, but...

I can't remember ever seeing anyone out alone, but if I had, would I approach them to ask them to join my group?
If I myself was alone would I approach them as we are both out alone and could probably do with some company?

If I wouldn't it would probably be for fear that they would reject my companionship, because they were perfectly happy alone or are not normally alone and are enjoying the peace and quite tonight.

Therefore if you are out alone either:
1) Its a really good way to meet people
2) People will think you are taking a break from your socialite life and you therefore appear cool and mysterious

Does this make sense to anyone else??

.

 

[SnoopDog]

Just some thoughts, but...

I can't remember ever seeing anyone out alone, but if I had, would I approach them to ask them to join my group?
If I myself was alone would I approach them as we are both out alone and could probably do with some company?

If I wouldn't it would probably be for fear that they would reject my companionship, because they were perfectly happy alone or are not normally alone and are enjoying the peace and quite tonight.

Therefore if you are out alone either:
1) Its a really good way to meet people
2) People will think you are taking a break from your socialite life and you therefore appear cool and mysterious

Does this make sense to anyone else??

.

I have been out alone a couple of times but I've never been hit on or even talked to by a woman. I guess it's because the man is still expected to make the first step and I'm a bit shy.

Goddam role clichés, lol.

Snoopy

 

[boxofrocks]

There's no-one to blame if you fart in bed

 

[Lord DragonsWing]

Don't worry Snoop I know how you feel. I've thrown away more food being single trying to cut down recipes that just doesn't make. You know what's really bad? When you go to the Steak and Ale and the waitress feels sorry for you and sets blow up Gumby in the chair next to you so you don't feel alone. lol

 

[doormouse]

Don't worry Snoop I know how you feel. I've thrown away more food being single trying to cut down recipes that just doesn't make. You know what's really bad? When you go to the Steak and Ale and the waitress feels sorry for you and sets blow up Gumby in the chair next to you so you don't feel alone. lol

Gumby???

Honey, you and I need to talk...

 

[Lord DragonsWing]

Gumby???

Honey, you and I need to talk...

No serious. I had no date that night, many years ago in Dallas. And decided I'd go out single and eat. The waitress gave me the table and felt sorry because I was single. She grabbed a store prop of a blow up Gumby and sat it in the chair next to me as company. She said she hated to see someone eat alone. I ate the steak and left. Since Steak and Ale was an older clientele at the time, there were a few laughs at my expense. I was ready to pop Gumby with the steak knife before the potatoe was even done. I weathered through it, the waitress got NO tip and I left.

But it's surprising what you go can go through being single.

 

[SnoopDog]

No serious. I had no date that night, many years ago in Dallas. And decided I'd go out single and eat. The waitress gave me the table and felt sorry because I was single. She grabbed a store prop of a blow up Gumby and sat it in the chair next to me as company. She said she hated to see someone eat alone. I ate the steak and left. Since Steak and Ale was an older clientele at the time, there were a few laughs at my expense. I was ready to pop Gumby with the steak knife before the potatoe was even done. I weathered through it, the waitress got NO tip and I left.

But it's surprising what you go can go through being single.

Wow, that's just depressing, now I feel for you. *hug*

Being a huge movie-nut I have been to the theatres alone quite often. And in my area it seems there are only couples there. Now that's quite depressing as well. Thank god the lights are out so I don't have to actually see them making out.

Snoopy

 

[doormouse]

Wow, that's just depressing, now I feel for you. *hug*

Being a huge movie-nut I have been to the theatres alone quite often. And in my area it seems there are only couples there. Now that's quite depressing as well. Thank god the lights are out so I don't have to actually see them making out.

Snoopy

Awwwwww snoopy,

I grew up collecting your cousins.... Big snoopy fan!

C'mere and be my teddy-pup

 

[SnoopDog]

Awwwwww snoopy,

I grew up collecting your cousins.... Big snoopy fan!

C'mere and be my teddy-pup

I'm all yours sweet mouse

By the way, how are my cousins, haven't heard from them for a long tme ? Everything okay ?

Snoopy,

 

[SensualCealy]

One good thing about eating alone, you can flirt!!

I took off for a well needed overnighter, all on my own for the first time EVER!

I'm sitting in the restraunt , I had ordered and thought , 'what the hey Ill order a beer- I dont drink beer very often at all, usually girly drinks or tequilla straight up. In fact I ordered two!

A guy came in and they placed him across from me but with three tables between us. Feeling really good at this point I made an issue out of keeping his attention.

I had just dropped $500 american on new lingerie and had gone back to the motel room to change, under my jean skirt I had a sheer red and black lace thong, and matching bra (one day on here you may see the bra!). I had a tank top on that was very low cut and with the new bra, my girls sat up so pretty!

Making eye contact was the hardest thing for me to do, Im not one to openly attract attention in a situation like this. The things that were running through my mind as I licked the rim of my glass, slowly dipped my finger in my cleavage to wipe the condensation from the glass off, making sure all the time I was looking directly in his eyes!

WOW, I had to get out of there as soon as my bill came, I may not have been the good little housewife after all if I stayed for dessert!!

Cealy