The old self-esteem checklist

[unpredictablebijou]

This is an extraordinary thread. Thank you.

When I'm Good, I'm:

compassionate
an excellent listener
affectionate
authentic
generous
articulate
attentive
artistic
funny
bright
forgiving
flexible
honest
grateful
and (I have testimonials) I am really good at receiving presents.


I am saddened to admit that I am also at times:

lazy
irresponsible
misogynistic
demanding
blunt
fearful
inattentive
self-absorbed (and not in a good way)
self-conscious (and not in a good way)
a control freak
catty
judgmental
horribly impatient
and I sometimes take for granted those closest to me.


stings, that second one, doesn't it, if one is really thinking honestly? Did for me, anyway.

*off to read some Gibran or Winnie the Pooh and resolve once again to try to behave myself.*

again, thanks for this thread.

bijou

 

[alexanna]

i like that i am...

intelligent
generous
brave
ingenious
persistent
fascinating
insightful
attractive

i hate that i am...

self absorbed
lazy
procrastinating
bored
compulsive
impulsive
insensitive
disinterested
insecure
manipulative
malignant
morose
bad in the very center

 

[FuckMeEyes]

I've selected words to describe others and even myself, but I don't think I've ever put together a list. I've been mulling over this topic for the last several days and I realize I'm not very good at this list thing. I also read through the lists given and it has made me consider what factors do influence my self-esteem and what factors influence, but remain unchanged and unnoticed in my self-esteem. so, I've looked at it as two opposed lists, further broken down into constants and variables.

Variable positive traits:
Employment success
Wealth
Fitness
Physical attractiveness to others
Intelligence

Constant positive traits:
Appearance
Gracious
Honest
Dedicated
Empathetic
Understanding
Confident
Sense of humor
Attitude
Introspective
Ethical
Hopeful
Stable

Variable negative traits:
Apathetic
Depressed
Destructive
Doubtful
Distrusting
Vengeful
Resentful
Lazy
Silently arrogant

Constant negative traits:
Cynical
Critical
Craptastic
Cautious
Esoteric

 

[graceanne]

At least I was able to solve the last remaining mystery of the world - why women can't drive properly on a freeway. As the database shows, most women were booked on DUI charge. Now I have the answer. All this scientific "women have trouble estimating speed and distance of other objects" bullshit - it's much more simple.

The mindset of a woman.

The (lack of) fear of retribution is the difference between a sissy and a man.

http://enigma.dune.net/~eric/Do-not-feed-the-troll.PNG

 

[BiBunny]

Troglodyte.

 

[Netzach]

But I love The Troggs.

 

[00Syd]

But I love The Troggs.

Me too!!

 

[rinka]

I often think that personality traits and qualities are circular. I can be analytical and critical wich I usually like about myself, but I constantly fall over into judgemental. Being easily amused and content makes me passive and unambitious, articulate and funny rolls over into sarcastic and snyde...
I can be flexible and adaptable - a pushover? Does a strong integrity make me emotionally unavailable...? Does thinking sometimes make me more confused...?

 

[kinky_meh]

I am

-loving
-caring
-dedicated
-understanding
-forgiving
-sensual
-passionate
-faithful


but i am also

-moody
-a bit naive
-unsettle
-insecure
-distrusting
-doubtful
-unmotivated
-often depressed
-fat
-lonely
-boring
-too quiet company

 

[ShyVixen]

I've avoided this thread for a while, had some time to think:

I am

-intelligent
-loyal
-thoughtful
-caring
-passionate
-open minded
-protective (although I'm not sure that's a good trait sometimes)

I am also

-very untrusting
-stubborn
-ruthless
-insecure
-resentful
-cynical
-paranoid
-destructive

 

[gloriann]

I am...

Intelligent
Compassionate
Funny
A student
A teacher
Dedicated

I also sometimes...

beat myself up
become judgemental
become irrational in my own brain
refuse to speak when speaking is needed

 

[barefoot_bohemian]

I am

Compassionate
Eloquent
Educated
Flirty
Geeky in a very hot way
Good at "reading" people and situations
A great cook
A devoted educator
Passionate

--And I've got a hot ass
--And I give great head


I am also

Needy
Manipulative
Paranoid
Prone to anxiety
Prone to depression
A snob

--And I've got ugly feet

 

[Homburg]

Witty/funny
Intelligent
Perceptive/insightful
Literate
Experienced
Moderately well-travelled
Passionate
Strong in mind, body, and will

Sarcastic, poisonously so at times
Moody
Cynical
Jaded
Obssessive
Possessed of a nasty temper
*cough*attention whore*cough*

Much of my self esteem is based on wit and intellect. If I am on top of my game and everything is firing properly in my brain, I will be 5x5. If not, I will be low, very low.

The thing I dislike most about myself is the dark half of my animal side. I've described myself as a gorilla, or beast, before, and I mean it.

 

[ammre]

I love that i'm:

Low drama
curious
creative
helpful
responsible
independent
loyal/faithful


I hate that i'm:
Weak-willed/little will power
impatient
easally turned off
not thorough
procrastinator
too autonomous


See the problem with this is that a lot of things i love i also hate. It can be a double edged sword... I love that i'm emotionally autonomous. I hate the idea that I would have to be dependent on someone for self-fulfillment, but on the same toke I have a hard time getting close to people becasue I have too much going on in my life and I won't bend over backward just to stop my world for theirs. Also I'm very patient with a lot of situations then in others I'm exceedingly impatient.


As for what makes me happiest... Work. helping people. Doing something. It always makes me wonder why you don't hear about so many depressed people in countries where everyone is dying... well shit they're sad but they're too busy working to shut down. Survival has taken over and has kept them going. We're too Idle in our world. Working and volunteering makes me happiest. Physical labor preferred.

 

[Sir Victor]

I was waiting for this.

Yes, you are right. I have been discovered. At least a little bit. I love that.

I am none of those things. I am a very sensitive man. I feel things very deeply. I've dealt with incredible pain in my life. My tolerance for pain is very low now. I victimize people around me because I can't stand the world.

Why are the birds still chirping when I suffer?

I can't stand to hear them.

You don't want to know how much I can't stand to hear the birds chirping in the morning sometimes.


I think I might be an altruistic person. I don't know.

I don't know who I am.

I know that I deserve better than what I've given myself in my life.


I think this describes me pretty well as well.

I'm fucking paralyzed by guilt.

I want those things, I think. I don't think I've ever wanted them before, but I'm starting to want them.

My career has been slow going. I'm surrounded by distractions. Sometimes I see my clients faces when I realize I can help them, and it's like..... I don't know how to describe. I see my mother in them, she was a teacher too.

I can't even BEGIN to tell you what that means to me.

I think I will soon.

Perhaps this will help you on your journey, curious to hear what you think even ignoring the religious aspects:
http://www.aabibliography.com/aaphotonewhtml/liebman.html