The new journey begins....

[Daddyslilpet]

For my friends here, I'd just like to say thank you for all I've learned from each and every one of you. Also wanted to share the changes my journey has undergone in the last couple of months.

I am no longer a collared sub to my husband. We have decided that our journey into 24/7 TPE just wasn't working out for the good of either of us. Instead we will give other options a try.

I might even explore my switch side, as it seems I am leaning towards not always being submissive. Which should be a fun experience for us both too. I have already experienced that rush of power feeling, and must say it was pretty damn good.

All that matters to me is that my new journey is still with my most wonderful husband, and that we are taking this journey together.

Thanks for listening, sorry for the rambling.
~smile~
dixi

 

[Hecate]

mh - nice news!

I do have to compliment you on this step!

One of the things rthat are so often misunderstood is that BDSM is fluent, it is not "all or nothing", it is a garment we can try on - alter - chance and take off again if it doesn't fit us or suite us anymore.... and for all of that we are no lesser people!

So CoNGRATS for facing a truth and acting upon it - and even more THANKS for sharing, as it may make feel those of us doubting their initially chosen path free to reflect and take a turn and twist they thought not to be "the right thing" before.

What I like best - you are continuing that journey together - such a shining warm feeling of love you reflect, it is just marvelous and makes me smile big time!

Best regards
Hecate

PS: once you get to the switchy bits ... you know you can count on the wicked Dommes here to enjoy suprting you with inspiration!

 

[Goddess Helena]

<~ Agrees with Hecate.


It's wonderful to see you posting again, Dixi.

You have been missed.


Helena

 

[MissTaken]

Hello, Dixi!

It is wonderful to see you posting and see your growth as a couple.

You are indeed fortunate to have a partner who is not only willing to explore BDSM, but is willing and able to move with it's ever changing presence in your life.

I wish you and he peace and happiness.

Many hugs!

MissT

 

[Zaudika]

I'm very happy for you Dixi.
It takes a very strong and loving relationship between two people to be able to make that kind of change. Have a wonderful time exploring, as I'm sure you will.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Thank you all. I am happy about our decisions so far. Its taken some adjustments on both our parts, but I believe its also made our relationship that much stronger.

Hecate, you are so right, as usual... BDSM isn't a one size fits all type of lifestyle. Its sometimes not even the same from time to time inside one relationship, as I'm learning. However, it is worth the hills and valleys as long as its with LOTS of communication and Love. (Sorry I used the "L" word LOL)

Now you know a part of why I've been missing in action on the board here lately. Hoping I can contribute in new and better ways, as I glean info from the rest of you too.

 

[SexyChele]

It is good to see you posting here Dixie!

I'm glad for both you and your husband. Sometimes I think we do what we think sounds right at the time, and then find out something else will work even better. Growing together as a couple is the important part - and it sounds as if you and hubby have that going on!

Good luck on this latest journey you are on!

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Thank you Chele, good to see you too.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I wish you the best Dixie, in whatever you do.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Thank you Rose that's really kind of you. I wish the same for you.

~smile~

 

[Ebonyfire]

For my friends here, I'd just like to say thank you for all I've learned from each and every one of you. Also wanted to share the changes my journey has undergone in the last couple of months.

I am no longer a collared sub to my husband. We have decided that our journey into 24/7 TPE just wasn't working out for the good of either of us. Instead we will give other options a try.

I might even explore my switch side, as it seems I am leaning towards not always being submissive. Which should be a fun experience for us both too. I have already experienced that rush of power feeling, and must say it was pretty damn good.

All that matters to me is that my new journey is still with my most wonderful husband, and that we are taking this journey together.

Thanks for listening, sorry for the rambling.
~smile~
dixi

Dixi, I always like to hear it when folks who are together know how to change and grow together. It is a beautiful thing. Good luck on your new journey.

Eb

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Re: Re: The new journey begins....

Dixi, I always like to hear it when folks who are together know how to change and grow together. It is a beautiful thing. Good luck on your new journey.

Eb

Thank you Ebony, I appreciate that.

~smile~
dixi

 

[Pure]

Hi dc,

That's probably good news, then. A welcome change.

Despite all the fiction, I think 24/7 collared sub-dom is pretty rare as a life style. So it's not surprising you don't fit. My impression, correct me if I'm wrong, Eb, is that episodic or bedroom subbing is by far the rule.

Also, it's great you're feeling switchy! It's not talked about much here, except by RS. All of us who read or have read Sade or Reage/Aury appreciate that!

Best,

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Thanks Pure.

Not sure how much I'll be talking about the switchy stuff yet, still working out some details. lol. However, when they are worked out I'm sure I'll get some out here.

 

[cellis]

Dixi

I have said this before. I admire you and the fact that you were able to move beyond the role you played.

When I first met Himself, my experiences had been pretty much the same and generally the same rituals with variations were played out. Himself was not having any of it. He showed me that our relationship is what we make it and we make our own rules. He came into my life at a time when I was ready to look at things a different way.

Our relationship is not what some would deem traditional, but it works for us and that is how it should be.

You are one of my favorite people and I am glad you are back at Lit!

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Cellis,

Thank you so much. You've made my day! I'm truly honored to be among your favorite people.

Change and variety are great things to have in a relationship. Like I've said before, I don't really care how it works as long as it works.