The Male advantage

[WriterDom]

I think back to one of EB's posts where she said she didn't like to give spankings because it hurts her hand. Males have the advantage here. Larger hands, tougher skin, strong arms tested 3x a week in the gym. A Domme may even hit harder, but with a male is it controlled power. Like driving a Mustang going 70. You know there is a lot more if you just press down.

 

[ownedsubgal]

yes, males generally do have more physical power, more strength, and that can be an advantage for a Dominant who is into inflicting pain. it's one of the reasons why i adore larger, more muscular men....the knowledge that if they wish to, they can toss me to and fro, that they have the potential to hurt me a great deal, with little effort. makes me feel so utterly feminine.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Mmmmm, I can think of a few women I have known who would prove your theory men have a physical advantage and controlled power a bit of a generalised misconception.

Catalina

 

[ownedsubgal]

Mmmmm, I can think of a few women I have known who would prove your theory men have a physical advantage and controlled power a bit of a generalised misconception.

Catalina

Catalina, of course there are a great deal of very physically strong women in the world...but as a matter of biology, men are more powerfully built. stronger arms, stronger back. i know of some women who could give quite a few men a run for their money as far as strength goes...but put the world's strongest woman up against the world's strongest man, and there would be no competition.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I thought it all came down to technique, anyway. (??)

 

[catalina_francisco]

Differences in the male & female

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Francisco.
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[catalina_francisco]

Catalina, of course there are a great deal of very physically strong women in the world...but as a matter of biology, men are more powerfully built. stronger arms, stronger back. i know of some women who could give quite a few men a run for their money as far as strength goes...but put the world's strongest woman up against the world's strongest man, and there would be no competition.

Fortunately for me I prefer brains to brawn anyday. Met too many so called strong people who unfortunately had muscles, but nothing was operating between the ears and they had trouble stringing two words together. Gets very boring and predictable after the first hour or so. If they have both, great, but if I have to go for just one I know what turns me on and keeps me interested.

Catalina

 

[WriterDom]

I thought it all came down to technique, anyway. (??)

You can have the best golf swing in the world, but if you are 100 yards behind Tiger Woods off the tee, he'll beat you every time.

And I'm being very general here, I know there are plenty of women in the world that can kick my ass.

 

[Quint]

Pure physical strength one of the qualities that I am most attracted to in men. Makes me all quivery and weak, thus becoming even more effective. I'm not much for refined sadism like clothespins, anyway--gimme brute overpowering.

 

[Netzach]

Anyone I wanted to scream and welt up has done so.

The female advantage: we've evolved to the point of using tools.

 

[WriterDom]

Anyone I wanted to scream and welt up has done so.

The female advantage: we've evolved to the point of using tools.

But there is no hand substitute is there? For the Dom/me or sub.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

But there is no hand substitute is there? For the Dom/me or sub.

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[Luna_Wolf72]

But there is no hand substitute is there? For the Dom/me or sub.

That is a true enough statement...

Coming from a different POV, personally, I prefer to use my hands for pleasure and tools for pain.

(And actually, my body reacts quicker, much quicker, to the lash of a crop than a simple ass smacking or face slapping..but that's just me.)

Of course, I have had the pleasure of working with men and women of different abilities and skill levels in the past and as a rule..men have the power..but women have that something extra that let's them go a little above and beyond the call of duty.

I guess it depends more on the Dominant in question and far less on their gender.

For me, it is not about the power behind each stroke..it's about the finesse of it.

 

[Netzach]

Just as there's no substitute for the hand there's no substitute for the cane.

Hand spankings are pure reward in my case. I don't touch every ass that comes my way.

 

[MissTaken]

I think back to one of EB's posts where she said she didn't like to give spankings because it hurts her hand. Males have the advantage here. Larger hands, tougher skin, strong arms tested 3x a week in the gym. A Domme may even hit harder, but with a male is it controlled power. Like driving a Mustang going 70. You know there is a lot more if you just press down.

And then, She found the heavy flogger with the proper leverage sending him into orbit!

 

[rosco rathbone]

What happened to the old Ebster anyway, WD? She was inescapable around here for most of my early tenure--omnipresent, what?

 

[WriterDom]

What happened to the old Ebster anyway, WD? She was inescapable around here for most of my early tenure--omnipresent, what?

I don't know. We had a few public riffs, but privately she was very nice. I miss her.

 

[ownedsubgal]

Pure physical strength one of the qualities that I am most attracted to in men. Makes me all quivery and weak, thus becoming even more effective. I'm not much for refined sadism like clothespins, anyway--gimme brute overpowering.

ahmen

 

[lark sparrow]

lol I'm sorry... but this only seems an advantage, and a rather limited one at that, only if one bases their choice of Dominant on who can hit the hardest and longest with their bare hand. Not very high on my list... in fact, I've never even once considered it a basis of advantage, admiration or worthy of praise. Color me clueless... but I'm not feeling it.

 

[ownedsubgal]

Fortunately for me I prefer brains to brawn anyday. Met too many so called strong people who unfortunately had muscles, but nothing was operating between the ears and they had trouble stringing two words together. Gets very boring and predictable after the first hour or so. If they have both, great, but if I have to go for just one I know what turns me on and keeps me interested.

Catalina

of course, physical strength and size are completely secondary from the things that truly matter...personality, character, wisdom, experience, etc....but as superficial as it may sound, the physical does make a difference to me. this is actually a significant issue for me right now, as my Master has recently added someone else, tentatively, into our relationship, another Dominant/Master that will not simply use me casually but who has the power to discipline and train me as well. this man is not lacking in his Dominance at all, his personality does not conflict with that of my Master, and he treats me in precisely the appropriate manner for his position. but i find myself being extremely uncomfortable around him for one reason...his size. He is only 5'9" (to my 5'6"), and though he is physically strong with some muscle definition, his overall frame is narrow and slim. He does not tower over me. His body does not suffocate mine when lying on top of me...i do not disappear from sight when beneath him. these things, which might seem minor compared to other issues, are making it difficult for me to maintain the proper mindset when with him. i wish i could ignore the physical, but i cannot. when a man isn't bigger...heavier...taller...stronger...it sounds awful, but there's a part of me that thinks of him as just a smidge less of a man. perhaps i'm too much a cavegirl.

 

[lark sparrow]

But there is no hand substitute is there? For the Dom/me or sub.

No, there isn't - but it's not the physical strength in the hand that matters most... apes would be all of our Masters were it so.

 

[Netzach]

Meh. It's totally cool to revere the masculine size differential, but you're not going to get Ls, me or any of my bottoms male of female to nod along in agreement.

This does bring up a theory I've long held, though, that there *is* a masculine and a feminine in top styles. Femmes (male and female...and I cream over an effete, suave, MDom presence, think James Bond...) exude persuasive mysterious and unpredictable power. Butches are rigorously rule driven, authoritarian, a little cuddlier at times, and more about brute force.

 

[lark sparrow]

lol it reminds me of a scene I saw in a club one time... female sub thrown over the lap of a male Dom for a serious spanking... yeah, her ass is inflamed, but she is squirming, humping and obviously no where near her limit.

Did the Dom's hand hurt? Maybe not... but sweat was pouring down his face and he was breathing like he had been running on the treadmill for 45 minutes fast... did I mention that science points to women being able to tolerate pain better than men overall? (Should they choose to.)

lol Imagine the elegance of a simple flick of the wrist with a cane and the beautiful, soft hand pushing her to her limit in less than half the time and with nary an effort... I don't know... wiring can be a strange thing.

But you definitely have your fans.

 

[Netzach]

The best scene I've been in in a long time involved B, a femme switch I play with who often lends me her girlfriend too...

two guy tops are whipping her, she's sassing and sassing and yammering and whining, doing what she does well which is to be the bitchiet brat princess on the planet, blindfolded.

I get invited into the scene. I put a finger to my lips and tiptoe up.

I whisper in her ear "you can be a good girl I know you can."

And she shuts up completely, and plays nice from thereon in.

 

[lark sparrow]

Oh yeah.....