The Little Things......

[Kantarii]

What are the little things you do for someone special outside the bedroom without being asked?

My #1 is making breakfast

 

[OneAuthor]

I make breakfast too, as well as dinner. I don't know if that counts as a little thing, though.

Perhaps the fact that I almost never leave the toilet seat up would be a better example.

 

[Comshaw]

We are both retired and I rise before she does. When she does get up the coffee is waiting and from time to time fresh muffins (the latest batch were Banana Nut Chocolate Chip). In the summer I pick fresh Sweet Pea flowers, or Daisys if I can't find Sweet Peas.

In the winter I have to buy flowers, but not necessarily expensive ones. I find the brightest colored ones I can.

An occasional kiss on the top of the head as I walked by, or a grope to the ass ( and the giggle that it always brings) when I can. Those things are common place in the first years of marriage, but after 48 (next month) they mean much more.

The fire of youth may have burned down to coals, but those coals still smolder hot under the blanket of years.


Comshaw

 

[Comshaw]

I make breakfast too, as well as dinner. I don't know if that counts as a little thing, though.

Perhaps the fact that I almost never leave the toilet seat up would be a better example.

I've never, ever understood the problem with this. I have to pick it up to pee, so why is it she can't put it down? Or does she not want me to pick it up when I pee? As inaccurate as most men are I don't think that is a smart solution. Do females not look BEFORE they plunk their bottoms down on the toilet? Maybe it was growing up using an out house and all the little creepy crawlies that inhabit one, but I always check it before I plunk my posterior down.

Like I said, I've never understood the absolute rabid mania about a toilet seat left up.


Comshaw

 

[Tryharder62]

I've never, ever understood the problem with this. I have to pick it up to pee, so why is it she can't put it down? Or does she not want me to pick it up when I pee? As inaccurate as most men are I don't think that is a smart solution. Do females not look BEFORE they plunk their bottoms down on the toilet? Maybe it was growing up using an out house and all the little creepy crawlies that inhabit one, but I always check it before I plunk my posterior down.

Like I said, I've never understood the absolute rabid mania about a toilet seat left up.


Comshaw

Sometimes you are in too much of a hurry (I had two kids. When you got to go you got to go) and just want the toilet seat down. Otherwise, you take a butt shwishie.

 

[butters]

I've never, ever understood the problem with this. I have to pick it up to pee, so why is it she can't put it down? Or does she not want me to pick it up when I pee? As inaccurate as most men are I don't think that is a smart solution. Do females not look BEFORE they plunk their bottoms down on the toilet? Maybe it was growing up using an out house and all the little creepy crawlies that inhabit one, but I always check it before I plunk my posterior down.

Like I said, I've never understood the absolute rabid mania about a toilet seat left up.


Comshaw

so you close the lid to flush then open it again?

if you leave the lid up (which you must if you leave the seat up) to flush, you are atomising billions of bacteria that fly into the air and settle on every surface of your bathroom!

 

[Tryharder62]

I scratch and rub my husbands back before he goes to bed. He loves that.

 

[butters]

i always ask (well, 99% of the time) if he wants anything if i'm going to the kitchen; i check his coffee cup on my way past and fill it for him if i see it empty; i brush out his long hair and braid it/put it up for him if he needs it; make sure the covers are over his shoulder if i wake in the night so he doesn't get a cold arm... point out things of beauty or fun/surprise when i see them... i bake treats for him and cook with love and a view to his taste preferences

he'll bring me the last few cherry tomatoes hiding out on the vine, or a flower for my hair, kisses my cup as he passes it to me, give me little hugs and squeezes and kisses often, is always pointing out things (views/critters/stuff) he wants me to see because he knows it'll tickle me... like the mockingbird spending a good 10 minutes in the new birdbath he made, splashing about, shaking off, jumping back in again... makes fresh coffee if he's up before me and it's gone... brushes outdoors bits of grass and leaf or whatnot off me before i go in where i may not have noticed it, so many little things

 

[Comshaw]

so you close the lid to flush then open it again?

if you leave the lid up (which you must if you leave the seat up) to flush, you are atomising billions of bacteria that fly into the air and settle on every surface of your bathroom!

Yea I've heard that old tale before....and welllll....it seems to me urine has a lot less bacteria in it then other bodily wastes (unless you have a really filth toilet which we don't) AND since when you flush a toilet much of the air and mist is sucked downward with the water taking the bacteria with it (if you doubt this try a smoke test, hold something that produces smoke above the toilet when you flush it and observe where the smoke goes) AND the action of flushing would be much less likely to spread bacteria around then say splashing urine into a toilet bowl filled with water from a vertical distance of about 2'.

I don't think I'll worry much about spreading germs around from not closing the lid when I flush.

Comshaw

 

[Comshaw]

Sometimes you are in too much of a hurry (I had two kids. When you got to go you got to go) and just want the toilet seat down. Otherwise, you take a butt shwishie.

AH HA! I knew it! Ya'll want it that way because you don't look first! Yep....I knew it all along.....



Comshaw

 

[Tryharder62]

AH HA! I knew it! Ya'll want it that way because you don't look first! Yep....I knew it all along.....



Comshaw

When you got to go you got to go. Especially in the night. You are right in my case.

 

[Comshaw]

When you got to go you got to go. Especially in the night. You are right in my case.

I really don't have a problem with wanting the seat down, as long as I understand why and don't get the 'ol "because I said so" horse pucky. To be truthful I've always put it down after I use it. But being an crotchety old stir the pot yahoo it ain't no fun unless I can make a fuss about it.



Comshaw

 

[thør]

I really don't have a problem with wanting the seat down, as long as I understand why and don't get the 'ol "because I said so" horse pucky. To be truthful I've always put it down after I use it. But being an crotchety old stir the pot yahoo it ain't no fun unless I can make a fuss about it.



Comshaw

Picked up one of those new fangled soft-close seats. 99.9% of the time, I remember to flick it down and it silently closes. So, 0.1% of the time I leave it up. And, because of that, I'm vilified.

 

[Comshaw]

Picked up one of those new fangled soft-close seats. 99.9% of the time, I remember to flick it down and it silently closes. So, 0.1% of the time I leave it up. And, because of that, I'm vilified.

Oh my god! You don't do it 100% of the time???? A cretin you are!

Comshaw

 

[thør]

Oh my god! You don't do it 100% of the time???? A cretin you are!

Comshaw

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[MadameSarcasm]

When I was married, I made it a point to cook things my husband loved - or learn how to cook those special favorites if I didn't already know how to make them. Sometimes finding the perfect version was kind of a chore, but in my part of the world, "food is love," and I was happy to do it.

 

[BrokenBarbie]

Does leaving before he wakes up count?

 

[CandiCame]

I've been wracking my brain trying to figure something out for this and I've come to the conclusion that I might just be a bad person. I can't think of anything.

I don't know what I would do.

 

[CandiCame]

I really don't have a problem with wanting the seat down, as long as I understand why and don't get the 'ol "because I said so" horse pucky. To be truthful I've always put it down after I use it. But being an crotchety old stir the pot yahoo it ain't no fun unless I can make a fuss about it.



Comshaw

I'm going to be honest- finding out this was a thing really shocked the shit out of me because I was raised in a house where we were expected to keep the seat up. The reason for this was my mom thought somebody might piss on the seat and just wiping piss off the seat would not sufficiently clean it and she didn't trust us to sufficiently clean it every time we used it, so even if we had pissed with it up and then put it back down we would get in trouble because she didn't trust us to have lifted it in the first place and thought we were just leaving piss germs on the seat. So I was conditioned into thinking everyone was paranoid af like that.

At my house I keep a box of cleaning wipes next to the toilet as like... proof that I've not pissed on the seat. Nobody asked me to do that it's just conditioned deep, I guess.

 

[patient1]

Here, the toilet paper must hang behind the roll because cats. Likewise, the lid must remain closed because they never look before they leap.

As for the topic- A lot of times it takes the form of fetching. It can be taking requests or it can be anticipating needs. Drinks, snacks, mail, a blanket and a cat, a robe and slippers, Advil & Mucinex... A lot of that comes from knowing each other. A complaint about light might be the precursor of a migraine, a complaint about noise might be a sinus headache, and an offer to fetch the meds is in order & beneficial to both.

Or it might be taking over tasks the other usually does, but could use help because they are running late, or they are tied up with elderly parent stuff. It saves time.That might be walking the dog, cleaning the litterbox, taking out the trash, bringing in the mail. Getting out a coat and a bottle of water, getting their phone from the charger. Switching the dishes out of the dishwasher.

It can take the form of offering to run errands whenever out of the home, or brining home a surprise snack or meal or flowers or chocolate.

That kind of "little thing" stuff shows that you care enough to ask, or pay enough attention to know. It shows that the other's comfort and convenience matters to you.