The Lit Personals Consensual/Ethical Nonmonogamy and Poly Thread!

[Sakura_seven]

I know there are plenty of consensually nonmonogamous people on Lit. So here is a personals thread just for us!

Who's this for?

Poly, swingers, open, and all other consensual and ethical nonmonogamy styles.

Who's this not for?

Monogamous people, other (nonconsensual) nonmonogamous people, or people who may be nonmonogamous but not able to live it.

What to do?

Share about yourself on the thread! As much or as little as you want. Describe your lifestyle and what you are looking for! Say whether you are interested in messaging with others. Connect so we can build a community!

Me: I'm ENM, partnered, and seeking solo connection. I was always poly but lived monogamous for 20 years. I'm mainly focused on connecting with other like-minded people right now. I've been on Feeld and Open for a while. I only have a couple of CNM friends.

 

[XOHugz]

Hi and nice to meet you. I am married and hubby and I swing as well as being open or at least those are the titles that fit the best that we know of. Anyways this is my account, hubby reads here but is not a member. We love to go to events and resorts and meet fun other couples to get to know better as well as sex being an open thing versus locked behind closed doors. Not really seeking anything specific from Lit other than fun and chatting with fun people because I mean it is a sex site online so we all know that general reliability. Anyways love to chat with people, share experiences, make some friends, and just enjoy.

 

[Sakura_seven]

Hi and nice to meet you. I am married and hubby and I swing as well as being open or at least those are the titles that fit the best that we know of. Anyways this is my account, hubby reads here but is not a member. We love to go to events and resorts and meet fun other couples to get to know better as well as sex being an open thing versus locked behind closed doors. Not really seeking anything specific from Lit other than fun and chatting with fun people because I mean it is a sex site online so we all know that general reliability. Anyways love to chat with people, share experiences, make some friends, and just enjoy.

Hi Hugz-- thanks for jumping in. I know quite a few swingers and open folks are here. Plus hotwife couples and stags.

 

[NC_Coastal]

Hi and nice to meet you. I am married and hubby and I swing as well as being open or at least those are the titles that fit the best that we know of. Anyways this is my account, hubby reads here but is not a member. We love to go to events and resorts and meet fun other couples to get to know better as well as sex being an open thing versus locked behind closed doors. Not really seeking anything specific from Lit other than fun and chatting with fun people because I mean it is a sex site online so we all know that general reliability. Anyways love to chat with people, share experiences, make some friends, and just enjoy.

Reformed swinger with tangled memories.

 

[Scareltt]

Hi everyone… I’m Poly and Married with children. I’ve been married for almost 20 years and I discovered I was Poly about 4 years ago.

I’m currently seeing two men outside my marriage. My husband knows about and encourages my relationships. He’s even developed friendships with each guy..

I’m definitely interested in making new friends, so feel free to message me..

 

[Scareltt]

This is pretty hot. Do the new guys have something your husband doesn‘t? I admit, if my wife had other lovers, I’d want to meet them and hear about it..

For me it’s partially the whole new relationship energy. I also become interested in the person and want to really get to know the person..

 

[aussiegeekygal]

For me it’s partially the whole new relationship energy. I also become interested in the person and want to really get to know the person..

I miss the new relationship energy.

I'm a much better person when I meet that need within me. I'm an intrepid explorer who finds others utterly fascinating.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Hi y'all

I've been married 13 years and have two young babes. I'm poly and my husband and I had an open marriage before kids. We closed ranks whilst trying to conceive and transitioning into Parenthood.

We're slowly opening ourselves back up, although it's difficult with young kids. It's nice to see others in similar dynamics

 

[Scareltt]

I miss the new relationship energy.

I'm a much better person when I meet that need within me. I'm an intrepid explorer who finds others utterly fascinating.

Sadly since the pandemic I’ve not met anyone new. I’ve had “dates” for coffee set up, then I get ghosted. It’s seems it’s one thing to chat up a married chick on tinder, or bumble. It’s another thing entirely to meet her for coffee.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Sadly since the pandemic I’ve not met anyone new. I’ve had “dates” for coffee set up, then I get ghosted. It’s seems it’s one thing to chat up a married chick on tinder, or bumble. It’s another thing entirely to meet her for coffee.

I feel like it's a hit and miss with married women in general. Especially those who are new and dipping their toes into exploration. I'm okay with that, but it helps to be upfront and honest about it. So many aren't and it's just painful to be caught in the middle of that.

So sorry!!
You deserve better x

 

[Scareltt]

I feel like it's a hit and miss with married women in general. Especially those who are new and dipping their toes into exploration. I'm okay with that, but it helps to be upfront and honest about it. So many aren't and it's just painful to be caught in the middle of that.

So sorry!!
You deserve better x

You’re too kind.

 

[RelaxedCanadian]

I love the idea of this thread!

I'm in an open marriage. I have yet to find any real connections, as my wife brought up the idea first, a couple months before the pandemic started, and while I'm at a point where I'd meet someone who's vaccinated and a bit cautious about COVID still, that hasn't happened yet. We're ethically non-monogamous and don't ask, don't tell style. For a few reasons, I'm looking right now and my wife isn't, and I'm open to an online connection or something in-person with someone who's relatively close to Toronto. I'm on Feeld and Tinder and haven't had much luck; the art of sustaining a conversation over more than a day or two seems sadly lost these days. Anyway, if I might be the kind of person that someone here might be interested in, let's chat!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I'm on Feeld and Tinder

I haven't heard about Feeld

Tinder was a wild ride for me. I made one mind blowing connection which made the rest of the nonsense on the app worth it.

I wouldn't know how or where to look now. I prefer to stumble into opportunities now.

 

[RelaxedCanadian]

I haven't heard about Feeld

Tinder was a wild ride for me. I made one mind blowing connection which made the rest of the nonsense on the app worth it.

I wouldn't know how or where to look now. I prefer to stumble into opportunities now.

Someone on Reddit mentioned Feeld to me. So far, no luck there at all, besides one person fishing for money. Tinder, I've had a few conversations that didn't go far. Reddit's been a bit more promising, but still nothing that's been more than a week's worth of talking and not much else. Still, fingers crossed that something comes of it all. I wouldn't know where to stumble into opportunities, especially since I work from home these days (and being in software, the majority of my coworkers are male, which doesn't help), and I don't go out much besides that still. I could've had something happen with someone from my board game group a couple years ago, but things just didn't quite line up and she's got a boyfriend now and is monogamous now that she's attached. I've actually had the most luck here, of all places; it's where I met my wife.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

There are women in software

But... Work can be a tricky place to muddy the waters.

Conferences are sometimes fruitful, depending on your desired extracurricular relationship length.

 

[RelaxedCanadian]

There are women in software

But... Work can be a tricky place to muddy the waters.

Conferences are sometimes fruitful, depending on your desired extracurricular relationship length.

I'm all for a more gender-balanced workplace and would love to see STEM fields be truly and completely diverse. Ethnically diverse too, though in our area, that seems to happen naturally. And I can think of a couple women in the office I'd love to get to spend more time with. But, I'd be extremely cautious around work, and even in my board game group; I wouldn't want to risk my circle of friends, let alone my livelihood. The only conference I ever really get to go to is one that's hosted by my workplace, so again, probably not ideal, and also hard when half the people in the sessions I go to work on my product or related ones. Maybe once they restart the board game conference they have in Toronto that's been on hold for a while.

 

[MileHighBlackDiamond]

Hello everyone! I am in a committed relationship with my SO, we swing together with other couples and women.

This is my account, she reads but she is not a member, she does read my chats at times. We are on Kasidie, enjoy our local swingers club and events, have met many wonderful people in the lifestyle, some we have played with, others we have become good friends.

Nice to find this thread, have met a couple other people on Lit in the lifestyle, open to chat and interact with everyone here.

 

[MidwestMeg79]

Hi gang! Solo poly here, in East Central Illinois. Currently have 3 casual partners and a FWB that used to be a partner. Casual in that I don't see them often as they're not local. Not looking for anything specific from Lit except fun, conversation, possible connections, and dick pics of course