The LGBT rambling thread!

[DustyWolfe]

Welcome to my rambling thread Feel free to join in. This thread is meant for us to ramble
about the lesbian community and girly things.

I don’t like labels, but being a part of the lesbian community I find that we use them a lot. We use
them to categorize each other and stuff. We use words such as butch, soft butch, femme, dyke,
diesel dyke, cupcake, lipstick, stone butch, boy girl... Ok what words did I miss?
And of course how do we describe each other? We tend use to use cute or handsome
pleeeeeease... whatever) to describe the more masculine women and everything else to describe
the feminine.

What do you find attractive in a woman? Hey.. I go for personality most of all. And I must admit
that I am intelligence biased. I can’t help it. I can’t be with a woman that I can’t have an
intellectual conversation with. My ex hated talking to me and would call me stupid for using “big
words” funny huh?.
Anyway... I am attracted to both “butch” and “femme”. I prefer more feminine but not overly so.
I like a woman that is willing to spend time outdoors.

Ok.. So what am I? Who knows.. I guess if I had to classify myself it would be soft butch. My
favorite attire is of course a pair of jeans, a blouse and leather vest or western shirt, a pair of lace
up ropers, my teeny tiny pride necklace and a black Stetson hat. I’m not opposed to wearing
dresses and make up and stuff, I’m just more comfortable in jeans or shorts. Yeah.. I have short
hair now, but what’s to say that I won’t let it get down to mid-back again. I was going through
an identity crisis when I chopped all 18 inches of it off only to have my hair as short as KD
Lang’s. But hey, I sent the hair off to locks of love to have it made into a wig for children with
leukemia and cancer.

 

[MaddyBaby]

Damn. I should have sent my hair to that 5 years ago!

Hm... I don't know how to describe myself... I mean, my avatar is a bit old now.. I look the same, just older, taller and the hair is just a little bit longer. I'm a bit blonder now, too.

I am attracted to whatever woman interests me most... thin, thick.. chubby, skinny. It doesn't matter. If I feel the girl is special... then I'll persue her.

I love dark haired, dark eyed women... but I will not protest to dating the complete opposite. I love women... period.

I'm not necessarily attracted to the guyish ladies... just a personal preference. Doesn't mean that I never will be. I just prefer feminine.. girly girls.

I, myself... I am mostly girly.. but I can get outside and dirty in the mud with the rest of them! My normal attire is a pair of nice fitting jeans.. and a fitting shirt.. Yes, I am a trendy girl. Some of my favorite stores are American Eagle, Abercrombie and Fitch... Express, Lerner NY... Yes. I am so trend. So sue me.

Well, there's my bit!

Mads

 

[Pinklady]

Ok.. that is the last time that I write up a post in Word Perfect lol...

Trendy??? I was trendy once. Before I got fat lol. I did all my shopping at Xpress, The Buckle and County Seat (they made jeans for short people that didn't have to be hemmed lol)

BTW... March 14th Rosie O’Donnell is ‘coming out’ on public television. She is ending her show
and her acting for the most part now to spend time with her partner. I think it’s great. She will
be an excellent role model for the lesbian community.

 

[MaddyBaby]

ha! Hey Pinklady. You've been hijacked. LoL!


Hey, Dusty... I was noticing you were talking about "cupcakes..." Would I fall under that label? If so... can I be your cupcake? hehehehehe.

 

[Pinklady]

I've been hijacked... the thread that was just posted about being trendy and fat is really Dustygrrl.. .Stupid hijacker..

Yep Maddy, you fall under the category cupcake. You can be my cupcake anytime *grins*

Dusty

 

[JenJ]

Dusty your still highjacked.

 

[Pinklady]

How dare this Pinklady person ruin my thread. It takes attention off my important thoughts LOL...
This really sucks you know?

Umm.. ok.. I don't remember what I was going to post. My rambling was interrupted lol.

Lesbians rule!!! ?

Dusty

 

[babyboo]

I was told to 'just write' so I shall do that... just write

I really don't like to put myself in a certain category, mainly cause I have no idea where I would fit lol so I'll just say that I'm 'me'. I do avoid dresses at all costs! lol My style of dress would be described best as loose and casual... I'm happiest in my fave jeans and a t-shirt with a nice blouse open over top. I do indulge in the baseball cap sometimes... what do you think girls... hats, cute or not? (I know MaddyBabby asked that question before.) My hair is long, about 1/2 way down by back, so I usually just pull it through and it keeps it out of the way when I'm trying to do something lol

I'm the type of person who probably comes across as 'soft butch' to most people I'm sure. I've always had to be strong for people around me all my life, so I've gotten pretty good at keeping my emotions in check around others. I am the type of girl though who tears up at cheesy commercials with cute babies and stuff, or romantic movies etc. I'm a hopeless romantic for sure once you get past my shy exterior.

I can be attracted to any type of women. I usually find something in everyone that will draw me to them whether it be their kindness or sense of humor etc. As far as initial physical attraction, usually dark hair and dark eyes will grab my attention first... eyes and smile will make me melt

I have no idea what else to say but Dusty just told me to write and how could I ignore a request from someone so sweet!

 

[DustyWolfe]

Ok.. that is the last time that I write up a post in Word Perfect lol...

Trendy??? I was trendy once. Before I got fat lol. I did all my shopping at Xpress, The Buckle and County Seat (they made jeans for short people that didn't have to be hemmed lol)

BTW... March 14th Rosie O’Donnell is ‘coming out’ on public television. She is ending her show
and her acting for the most part now to spend time with her partner. I think it’s great. She will
be an excellent role model for the lesbian community.

OK GONNA POST... LOL.. Let's see if it works as Dusty

 

[DustyWolfe]

Baby Boo,

Who told you I'm sweet? They lied! *giggles*

I do the stetson hat thingie because I'm a redneck lesbian lol.
That and the fact that I look really stupid in a baseball cap. Actually, the black stetson and tight jeans is my trademark, though in Texas I don't exactly stand out that much lol. Then again, how many cowgirls do you see with a pride necklace on?
Jeans are my favorite attire. I wear them almost exclusively.

Yeah, the things I am physically attracted to are the eyes and smile. Bodies don't really matter to me. I've been both fat and skinny, and find both attractive. Currently I'm horizontally and vertically challened. Doing something about my horizontal issue though lol. I'm going mountain biking this weekend and am going off all my meds! I don't need most of them anymore! Woohoo! I'm excited about being OUT in Austin...

Maddy... I figured you were girly heehee. It's obvious so far. Keep being trendy. It looks good on ya

Don't worry about just responding to my posts. Feel free to write whatever you like about LGBT issues. Rambling is good. I like rambling. LOL...

 

[MaddyBaby]

Mountain BIKING!!!!! DUSTY! WE MUST GO TOGETHER!!! hehehe... *drives to Dusty's house* YAY. Hm... I am taking my bike out tomorrow! Weeeee...


I think I'll keep being girly... I like baseball caps, though. LOL

 

[DustyWolfe]

Maddy,
Come on over this weekend if you want to. We can biking Provided I don't get hit in the head with another bike rack lol.
This weekend is your only chance to get to go with me girly. I'm outta here Friday afternoon. 7 days and counting.

Dusty

 

[Natalie Nessus]

I think this is wonderful

How would I descrive myself?

I am thin, and French of Aergian father so I am dark. I am a writer of love, I see myself as a writer of romance but it is a story of women.

I am nothing special but my preference is women so I am a lesbian

so be it

 

[DustyWolfe]

More ramblings
I went to pick up some buffalo wings from my favorite restaurant earlier today because my
roommate and I are in the middle of finals. I forgot my student ID for the college discount and
they called the manager over and she said not to worry about it. Mind you that my gaydar is
majorly going off when she is talking to me. She was cute. I even said that to my roommate lol.

I get home and the order is wrong so I call and say something about it to the manager and she
tells me to come back so she can make good on it. I had kept quiet and kind of hung back when
the food was ordered the first time so I am not sure the manager had noticed whether I was gay
or not. I’m sure her gaydar would have been going off, especially if she had noticed the glint of
rainbow colors from under my collar. I had changed clothes before going back in to get the food
so now my pride necklace is obvious.

She tells me the food will be ready in about 5 minutes and smile and thank her then go and sit
down. A few minutes later she comes over and hands me her business card with a note that we
can have two free appetizers on the next visit. Then a few minutes later brings the food out to
me. She gives us extra food even. Instead of giving us 12 wings she gives us 24...

The point of my ramblings is... Do members of the gay and lesbian community do little things to
help each other out? I can’t help but wonder if had I been anyone else would I have gotten the
free appetizers or is it just the gay community at work.
I promise I wasn’t flirting!!! Heck, I don’t even know how to flirt, though I must admit she was
really cute.

 

[seXieleXie]

it's weird how much bisexuality is eroticized in american culture. it's a common fantasy for men. for women it's seen as "less offensive" than being a lesbian. i've been told by people that i'm not a bisexual, i'm really: 1)confused 2)a lesbian but scared to admit it 3)straight but frustraited with men or 4)sick. people also seem to think bi women have their choice of both genders. that is far from true. it is frustraiting how many lesbians look down on bisexual women. they feel like the bi women will just toy around with them and then leave them for a man because it's "easier." even men are insecure about it, despite their fantasies.
it's not about gender to me. while i'm obviously not gender blind, it is unimportant to my ability to love. it's not about sex for me. it's about loving people with minds and hearts and souls that match mine.

 

[MaddyBaby]

Lexie! You are so right. For me, it's whoever I have feelings for or am attracted to! Gender doesn't matter.. Honestly, though... I could see myself sticking with women, but that doesn't mean that I'll never fall for another guy again. Bi people do get a bad wrap, but there are some out there who give us the bad name. I know one or two. I wish that we weren't looked down upon... but.. sometimes I wish I could just call myself a Lesbian. Ugh. I am going to stop rambling now. LOL

Mads

 

[DustyWolfe]

Sexielexie,
I can understand what you are saying totally. People just don't understand bisexuality. It's easier for them to comprehend someone being straight or gay because they only go with one gender. They see someone who would be with either as unstable. I do know a few lesbians that dislike bi women. It's like they see them as competition almost.
I also know what you mean about it not being for the sex. It's the person that you fall in love with, not their gender!

 

[DustyWolfe]

Maddy... I hate to break this to you... But.... You're a lesbian.
There, does that make it any easier? Hmm.. Ok.. lets see. Your a lesbian with bisexual tendencies? There ya go. Your a lesbian now...

Dusty

 

[spectral]

Being bi

I hope y'all don't mind a post from the "other side"...

it's weird how much bisexuality is eroticized in american culture.

Well, female bisexuality. Male bisexuality is, as far as I can tell, invisible. At least, people like to ignore it. In any case, people don't really get hot over it.

it's a common fantasy for men. for women it's seen as "less offensive" than being a lesbian. i've been told by people that i'm not a bisexual, i'm really: 1)confused 2)a lesbian but scared to admit it 3)straight but frustraited with men or 4)sick. people also seem to think bi women have their choice of both genders. that is far from true. it is frustraiting how many lesbians look down on bisexual women. they feel like the bi women will just toy around with them and then leave them for a man because it's "easier." even men are insecure about it, despite their fantasies.
it's not about gender to me. while i'm obviously not gender blind, it is unimportant to my ability to love. it's not about sex for me. it's about loving people with minds and hearts and souls that match mine.

Have you had these problems mostly with the "lesbian community" or people in general? I've been lucky, I guess, never really encountered much nonsense. But then, I'm not really part of the queer community, even though it seems like practically all my friends are bi...

spectral

 

[StormySkies]

it's weird how much bisexuality is eroticized in american culture. it's a common fantasy for men. for women it's seen as "less offensive" than being a lesbian. i've been told by people that i'm not a bisexual, i'm really: 1)confused 2)a lesbian but scared to admit it 3)straight but frustraited with men or 4)sick. people also seem to think bi women have their choice of both genders. that is far from true. it is frustraiting how many lesbians look down on bisexual women. they feel like the bi women will just toy around with them and then leave them for a man because it's "easier." even men are insecure about it, despite their fantasies.
it's not about gender to me. while i'm obviously not gender blind, it is unimportant to my ability to love. it's not about sex for me. it's about loving people with minds and hearts and souls that match mine.

Hiya all....I hope you dont mind someone new jumping in. I am in Michigan. And I guess would be considered bisexual. Although I know without a doubt that if something ever happened between hubby and me I would never date another man again. So I dont know what lable I would put on me...

I can agree with alot of what Lexie said in her post. I have also been called everything inbetween. From not knowing what I wanted and was actually straight just confused...To being a fence sitter. LOL...

I hope me jumping in and posting was okay...

Amy

 

[DustyWolfe]

Hiya all....I hope you dont mind someone new jumping in. I am in Michigan. And I guess would be considered bisexual. Although I know without a doubt that if something ever happened between hubby and me I would never date another man again. So I dont know what lable I would put on me...

I can agree with alot of what Lexie said in her post. I have also been called everything inbetween. From not knowing what I wanted and was actually straight just confused...To being a fence sitter. LOL...

I hope me jumping in and posting was okay...

Amy

Hey, anyone is welcome to post on this thread. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us Amy.


I think it is a shame that members of a community that love women equally should treat bisexual women like that. We're all about love and what feels right. Some women like to be with both and as a lesbian community we should embrace the bisexual women.
Get a grip people

btw Amy, I love your quote!

 

[DustyWolfe]

Re: Being bi

I hope y'all don't mind a post from the "other side"...

Well, female bisexuality. Male bisexuality is, as far as I can tell, invisible. At least, people like to ignore it. In any case, people don't really get hot over it.

Have you had these problems mostly with the "lesbian community" or people in general? I've been lucky, I guess, never really encountered much nonsense. But then, I'm not really part of the queer community, even though it seems like practically all my friends are bi...
spectral

Spectral,
Thanks for posting, it's good to hear from a bi male for some perspective. I am really sorry.. I did not ignore your post. I just didn't see it for some wierd reason.

When I was first coming out I came out as bi and it was hard. Alot of lesbians gave me a really hard time. Though, there were others that openly accepted me and helped me to find my way through my sexuality and I eventually learned that I was a lesbian.

Dusty

 

[Natalie Nessus]

There is nothing mixed up about a woman who loves women, who wants to have sex with them, or who identifies as a lesbian. It is society that is mixed up because it punishes people for not conforming to its gender stereotypes

 

[DustyWolfe]

I couldn't have come up with something more perfect to say if I tried. Thank you for the quote Nessus.

 

[april-wine]

Do we need a label to love?
Does your heart need a tag?
Open your mind, your heart will follow.....