The 'L' word...

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

Love.
What are your views on it...
And more importantly, do you believe it possible to love 2 people at once....
If so, and you can no longer go on doing that, for whatever reason, how do you choose when you can't fathom hurting either of them....when you'd rather live the rest of your life loveless and alone, then hurting someone you love.


Any views would be helpful.

 

[April]

Surprised no one else has responded, seeing as how we're a vocal bunch.

I know it's possible to love two people at the same time. I've done it for almost five years. But it was so emotionally draining for me, that I started to lose sense of who I was.

How do you choose? I wish I knew. Each situation is different. The reason I chose one over the other is most certainly not the reason another would use. In the end, it was the major contributing factor in a months long depression which still lurks in the back of my head.

 

[sallygirl]

Sure, you can love more than one person at once. It would be nice if you didn't have to choose, but I guess eventually it would have to be done.

How? (I've never been in this situation, so my thoughts are just theories.) No matter what, it's going to be a painful process. Maybe consider what's most important to you in life and figure out who can make you happier based on that. Of course the initial break with the other will be incredibly painful, but in the end it's in everyone's best interests. Right?

Good luck!

 

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

thank you to the both of you who took the effort to reply...I guess I'm just looking for an easy answer, and I know..I know...I'm not going to find one....

*sighs*

 

[Always]

i have no one to love

 

[stratocaster]

You cannot love two people at the same time, at least not in the same way or to the same degree. You have to ask yourself HOW you love each person, WHY you love each person and what you expect or anticipate you'll get back from that person.

Your happiness is key! "'cause if you aint happy...they aint happy!"

You have to be realistic about it. The heart can make you do stupid, crazy things that can cause you more anguish in the long term.

Be really, really , really honest with yourself and you'll make the correct choice.

Then again, what do I know?

Strats

 

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

One is old, one is new
one is everything you've ever wanted...
one is everything you've ever known
both could make you happy

the future with one is similar to your own plans
the future with the other would be harder

bother offer love

one is my soul mate
the other thinks he is...

Maybe I shouldn't be sharing this with the board...I dunno

 

[April]

You are me
I am you

You are where I was
I am where you might be

I have nothing to offer but the story of one who has suffered and made a choice.

Maybe the right choice,
Maybe the wrong choice
Who knows

 

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

Thanks April...

I mean, sure....having 2 wonderful men in your life isn't the worst thing that could happen to you..

but if I could change the past, I would...

It's not easy...

And I'm scared of making the wrong choice.....I'm more scared of hurting someone...

because I know how it feels...