The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[desertslave]

Yeah, traditional Chinese medicine. I am also a skeptic but alternative medicine has helped me in the past and the doc assures me me that his treatments are sound. So what the hell? Anything is better than this.

I'm not knocking the TCM, but as an alternative, I'll give a nod to endometrial ablation. It worked wonders for me. I won't get all detailed here, but if you ever want info send me a note.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

:cries:

Can't do much more than give you a great big ol' cyberhug, but you know you've always got all of those you want.

{{{{Mouse}}}}​

 

[Keroin]

I'm not knocking the TCM, but as an alternative, I'll give a nod to endometrial ablation. It worked wonders for me. I won't get all detailed here, but if you ever want info send me a note.

Thanks! Yeah, I actually just found out about a friend who had that done. I'll give TCM a try, if that doesn't work then at least it's good to know there is a Plan B.

I honestly didn't think I'd have to deal with any of this for a *few* more years. But, oh well, could be worse!

 

[kiwi_submissive]

Ha, thanks CP. Actually, as much as it sucks, I'm just thankful it wasn't something more serious. After almost non-stop bleeding for two months, and the aforementioned badger pain, I was getting pretty worried.

On the doc's advice, I am going to give TCM a try. Her brother is a practitioner and she says he's totally non-flaky and has had really good results with menopausal women. Here's hoping.

Good luck. Sometimes you get to the point that you will try anything to make the pain go away.

Not to be crude, but does the Universe really have to throw an angry ex-husband, a lawsuit, still-ramping up anti-anxiety/anti-depressant meds, a phone conference with his attorney (in the morning) -result of which may be either potential financial ruin or significantly impacted relationship w/ the kids, AND a period from hell at me - all at once?

:cries:

*hugs*

 

[desertslave]

Thanks! Yeah, I actually just found out about a friend who had that done. I'll give TCM a try, if that doesn't work then at least it's good to know there is a Plan B.

I honestly didn't think I'd have to deal with any of this for a *few* more years. But, oh well, could be worse!

I'm about a decade ahead. It's no fun. I'm seriously ready for all of the hormonal crap to be over with. I hate the mood swings and the hot flashes with a passion, and my libido has suddenly become manic depressive.

 

[seela]

Oh, capsaicin. Burn!

 

[YourCaptor]

Ha, thanks CP. Actually, as much as it sucks, I'm just thankful it wasn't something more serious. After almost non-stop bleeding for two months, and the aforementioned badger pain, I was getting pretty worried.

On the doc's advice, I am going to give TCM a try. Her brother is a practitioner and she says he's totally non-flaky and has had really good results with menopausal women. Here's hoping.

Yo K, I would also look into western meds. The following drop in hormones you'll experience is actually really bad for the brain. Basically several hormones turns out promote synaptic growth, which when lacking, leads to forgetfulness, confusions, and trouble focusing. At the moment you should be going through a hormone surge, so brain may be in overdrive. But it will drop to a permanent low level. However resulting symptoms can be alleviated with hormone replacement therapy. I hear its very simple, much like the pill. However its not yet common practice, I learned all this from one of my professors, who actually did work on this in Canada. Anyway, he highly recommends treatment.

 

[ultramarineblue]

Ultramarine blue skies for you in the forecast. Very good news.

One of my favorite colors. Thanks.

Not to be crude, but does the Universe really have to throw an angry ex-husband, a lawsuit, still-ramping up anti-anxiety/anti-depressant meds, a phone conference with his attorney (in the morning) -result of which may be either potential financial ruin or significantly impacted relationship w/ the kids, AND a period from hell at me - all at once?

:cries:

positive thoughts your way

 

[Cattypuss]

Not to be crude, but does the Universe really have to throw an angry ex-husband, a lawsuit, still-ramping up anti-anxiety/anti-depressant meds, a phone conference with his attorney (in the morning) -result of which may be either potential financial ruin or significantly impacted relationship w/ the kids, AND a period from hell at me - all at once?

:cries:

I have noticed that my periods are much more painful and a bit heavier when I've been very stressed in the week or two leading up to them.

Why is your ex angry?

 

[Keroin]

Yo K, I would also look into western meds. The following drop in hormones you'll experience is actually really bad for the brain. Basically several hormones turns out promote synaptic growth, which when lacking, leads to forgetfulness, confusions, and trouble focusing. At the moment you should be going through a hormone surge, so brain may be in overdrive. But it will drop to a permanent low level. However resulting symptoms can be alleviated with hormone replacement therapy. I hear its very simple, much like the pill. However its not yet common practice, I learned all this from one of my professors, who actually did work on this in Canada. Anyway, he highly recommends treatment.

YC, do you have more information on this or can you point me to reputable, scientific sources? I'd like to learn more. Thanks.

 

[gypsy*seer]

I think I just need a good cry...
(and a vacation)

 

[cfuhrer]

I think I just need a good cry...
(and a vacation)

It's soothing, and balancing, and restorative and in its own way, restful.
Vacation's are nice, too.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

I think I just need a good cry...
(and a vacation)

 

[YourCaptor]

YC, do you have more information on this or can you point me to reputable, scientific sources? I'd like to learn more. Thanks.

I think the major work on the topic is this.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed?term=sherwin and henry, 2008

Except some asshole has decided to own this knowledge.

Here is lots of related work.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/pmid/17980408/citedby/?tool=pubmed

However it looks like most of the articles you would be interested in are yet to be released.

I would ask the doctor about it, chances are the doc may need to consult a specialist about it.

This is also not like the old long term hormone treatment that has been discontinued, this would be a preventative short term, but time critical thing.

 

[Keroin]

I think the major work on the topic is this.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed?term=sherwin and henry, 2008

Except some asshole has decided to own this knowledge.

Here is lots of related work.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/pmid/17980408/citedby/?tool=pubmed

However it looks like most of the articles you would be interested in are yet to be released.

I would ask the doctor about it, chances are the doc may need to consult a specialist about it.

This is also not like the old long term hormone treatment that has been discontinued, this would be a preventative short term, but time critical thing.

Awesome. Thanks SO much YC.

 

[Keroin]

So...publishing. Such a learning curve.

Had two of the Big Six interested. One just disappeared off the radar (not unheard of, apparently). The other said, "Love it! But it's too similar to a series we've already published. So...sorry."

Thank goodness for thick rhino skin and dogged optimism.

Choices now are smaller publisher or indie e-publishing. Two years ago I would not have even considered the latter but times have sure changed. Now, based on the research I've done, e-publishing is looking like the better option. It will be a longer, harder road but at least we will have some control over our destiny.

And a veteran (published & award winning) writer friend of mine chimed in on this latest rejection with a very inspiring note today:

"Another thought on that rejection, which I'm sure has occurred to you: If you'd been there first, you would have had a deal. That's almost assured from the tone of his remarks. So you should feel encouraged and uplifted. There are good rejections and bad ones. Then there are wonderful rejections--if any rejection can be deemed thus--and yours fell into that category. You're doing something right. Keep going."

Man I really needed to hear that today.

/frustrated writer's rant

 

[Stella_Omega]

Keroin, sometimes it's worth it to re-submit to the same publisher. It all depends on who picks it up out of the slushpile.

Also, http://ebooks.dreamwidth.org/73300.html

 

[graceanne]

Well...I have just learned that I am peri-menopausal, at the age of 42.

yay

I don't give a damn about the loss of eggs, (never wanted them to begin with), but, good Cod, I could do without this badger in my uterus*.






*I do not actually have a badger in my uterus, it just feels that way.

I'm sorry. On the bright side, as soon as you get through all this you won't have to have periods anymore. In my family we don't go through menopause until our sixties.

 

[Keroin]

Keroin, sometimes it's worth it to re-submit to the same publisher. It all depends on who picks it up out of the slushpile.

Also, http://ebooks.dreamwidth.org/73300.html

Thanks Stella! I should clarify, we were never in the slush pile. We signed with a major agent, so we had one huge foot in the door already.

It's just so tough out there. 99% of manuscripts get rejected. Sad truth.

The thing I think we have in our favour, if we e-pub, is that we've already made the cut. We've already been accepted by one of the most prestigious literary agents in the US and we've already had really great comments from some of the Big Six publishers. None of the rejections had anything to do with the quality of the writing or the story...so that says something. the manuscript has been through numerous rounds of edits and rewrites; I know it's ready.

It'll still going to be a grind but hopefully we can rise above the sea of crap in the e-pub world.

Hopefully.

Thanks also for the link! I will definitely read over everything. The e-pub world is changing at lightspeed. Every day.

ETA: It has been sent to the UK, too. So we may get back something positive there. I'm just preparing for the worst.

 

[Keroin]

I'm sorry. On the bright side, as soon as you get through all this you won't have to have periods anymore.

Oh, I'm definitely looking forward to that part. I just know from my friends that this phase can go on for years and years!

In my family we don't go through menopause until our sixties.

Blerg!

 

[cfuhrer]

So...publishing. Such a learning curve.

Had two of the Big Six interested. One just disappeared off the radar (not unheard of, apparently). The other said, "Love it! But it's too similar to a series we've already published. So...sorry."

Thank goodness for thick rhino skin and dogged optimism.

Choices now are smaller publisher or indie e-publishing. Two years ago I would not have even considered the latter but times have sure changed. Now, based on the research I've done, e-publishing is looking like the better option. It will be a longer, harder road but at least we will have some control over our destiny.

And a veteran (published & award winning) writer friend of mine chimed in on this latest rejection with a very inspiring note today:

"Another thought on that rejection, which I'm sure has occurred to you: If you'd been there first, you would have had a deal. That's almost assured from the tone of his remarks. So you should feel encouraged and uplifted. There are good rejections and bad ones. Then there are wonderful rejections--if any rejection can be deemed thus--and yours fell into that category. You're doing something right. Keep going."

Man I really needed to hear that today.

/frustrated writer's rant

Lucky you!
I don't know that I could ever have enough confidence in my work to actually try and publish it.

Keroin, sometimes it's worth it to re-submit to the same publisher. It all depends on who picks it up out of the slushpile.

Also, http://ebooks.dreamwidth.org/73300.html

Also, there is a radio host named Clark Howard who has a guide to epublishing on his website, too. You might find a nugget or two there.

Okay. Back to proofreading the work of someone actually ballsy enough to put his shit out there for the world to see.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Lucky you!
I don't know that I could ever have enough confidence in my work to actually try and publish it.



Also, there is a radio host named Clark Howard who has a guide to epublishing on his website, too. You might find a nugget or two there.

Okay. Back to proofreading the work of someone actually ballsy enough to put his shit out there for the world to see.

Right? I am trying real hard to not take on editing. it's fun and satisfying and it's kinda the exact opposite of writing my own stuff. And I AM ballsy put my work out there -- but I'm not producing the work to be put.

 

[gypsy*seer]

It's soothing, and balancing, and restorative and in its own way, restful.
Vacation's are nice, too.

Thanks, amigos.

Maybe it's just a full-moons-a-comin', out-of-state-holiday-tourist-traffic, waaay-to-under-paid-for-the-realm-I-oversee blues....

(did I mention I abhor concrete-jungle rush hour traffic?)

(oh....and spiders)

 

[gypsy*seer]

Right? I am trying real hard to not take on editing. it's fun and satisfying and it's kinda the exact opposite of writing my own stuff. And I AM ballsy put my work out there -- but I'm not producing the work to be put.

Editing, to me, stimulating when I have nothing going from pen to paper.
(kind of like "lurking" on the boards!)

I haven't really produced anything palpable in about 3 years!

Yes, I said "pen to paper" - who else still uses that medium?

 

[intothewoods]

I keep trying to post but something keeps coming up to distract me!

Anyway - Keroin, I would hate to see you not get good care, so I will just offer my opinion that there isn't a lot of hard evidence to support TCM in most areas. Like accupuncture has been shown to have some positive effect with chronic pain relief, but most claims are not supported by the evidence. It does feel great though! Anyway, I digress. If it were me, I would make sure I had a good doctor and push for whatever is supported by evidence -- as in clinical trials, etc. I was trying to find some good articles from the skeptical community on this but I haven't been able to dig deep enough. I did find this explanation of chi to be telling.

I will try and find more when I have more time. I have a cool video about the theory of homeopathy.

So...publishing. Such a learning curve.

Had two of the Big Six interested. One just disappeared off the radar (not unheard of, apparently). The other said, "Love it! But it's too similar to a series we've already published. So...sorry."

Thank goodness for thick rhino skin and dogged optimism.

Choices now are smaller publisher or indie e-publishing. Two years ago I would not have even considered the latter but times have sure changed. Now, based on the research I've done, e-publishing is looking like the better option. It will be a longer, harder road but at least we will have some control over our destiny.

And a veteran (published & award winning) writer friend of mine chimed in on this latest rejection with a very inspiring note today:

"Another thought on that rejection, which I'm sure has occurred to you: If you'd been there first, you would have had a deal. That's almost assured from the tone of his remarks. So you should feel encouraged and uplifted. There are good rejections and bad ones. Then there are wonderful rejections--if any rejection can be deemed thus--and yours fell into that category. You're doing something right. Keep going."

Man I really needed to hear that today.

/frustrated writer's rant

What a nice note from your friend, first of all.

On e-publishing -- It really is a changing world. I've been hearing a lot about this in other areas as well. I actually think it's potentially pretty cool.