The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[Kajira Callista]

This is going to be a longggggggggggggg 6 months!

 

[intothewoods]

Tried. Hasn't worked out for me yet. And in the interests of not sounding like a complete whiner, that's all I'm going to say on the matter.

You just need to play it cool. Play with whoever she introduces you to. Meet new people. Embrace new experiences. It'll work out eventually. You won't die a virgin.

 

[the captians wench]

This is *not* aimed to criticize you - or anyone, really... but I see this type of question so many, many times (including at least one thread on the Talk page currently).

Why do so many of us want to *define* our relationships, describe them, explain them? Why can't we just *enjoy* them? Is it possible that many "failed" relationships collapse *because* we're dissecting and analyzing them to death?

This is something that I work very hard to correct. Jounar tells me often that I think too much. I know I do, but I don't know why I do it.

I've learned to not read into things, or at least restrain myself and try not to. Usually Jounar says exactly what he means and his actions don't have any hidden meanings. Still even though I know this, I still have a hard time not analyzing what him crossing his toes means.

Because Mistress has ordered a journal entry and I don't know how to explain that they've stolen my heart without threatening the boundaries set up to protect the relationship between her and Sir.

I can feel for you.

As some one who has been in a relationship where there were other relationships involved, these feelings can be sticky. It only really caused big trouble once, but man was it huge, and ultimately that's when I decided it was best for my relationship with Jounar if I didn't have these outside relationships.

I know exactly the kind of love you mean, I'm sorry I can't help you discribe it.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

This is *not* aimed to criticize you - or anyone, really... but I see this type of question so many, many times (including at least one thread on the Talk page currently).

Why do so many of us want to *define* our relationships, describe them, explain them? Why can't we just *enjoy* them? Is it possible that many "failed" relationships collapse *because* we're dissecting and analyzing them to death?

Because Mistress has ordered a journal entry and I don't know how to explain that they've stolen my heart without threatening the boundaries set up to protect the relationship between her and Sir.

Ahh, I see. Conundrum.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Because Mistress has ordered a journal entry and I don't know how to explain that they've stolen my heart without threatening the boundaries set up to protect the relationship between her and Sir.

i wouldn't be overly concerned. Daddy and I are in the beginning stages of adding a third on some level. She is a wonderful woman who both Daddy and I are having fun with. She has concerns that sound like yours. I will tell you what I have told her. She does not have to be concerned at all, his and mine relationship is of our concern, not hers. It is rock solid and nothing and no one can damage it.

You can fall in love without being a threat to their relationship. Just always keep in your head what the boundaries are, and don't cross them.

 

[chy_girl]

Ahh, I see. Conundrum.

I was quite content to keep the whole damned mess in my own head. Unfortunately, or fortunately depending on the perspective, I have a very hard time telling her no on things like this and sticking with it. Especially when she uses the Mistress voice.

You can fall in love without being a threat to their relationship. Just always keep in your head what the boundaries are, and don't cross them.

Falling in love was never on the table, it was never supposed to be part of the deal. I'm afraid that I've already unintentionally crossed that boundary. I don't know if I'll be able to explain it better than 'not romantic but more than platonic' and that worries me. It's not often that I don't have the words for something and it's pissing me off.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: I'll return the collar before I hurt either of them.

 

[BiBunny]

Because Mistress has ordered a journal entry and I don't know how to explain that they've stolen my heart without threatening the boundaries set up to protect the relationship between her and Sir.

Oh, please, on the bolded part. Does their relationship suck so bad that it needs "protecting"? If yes, that's not your problem. If no, then what are they worried about?

Sorry, it's a soapbox of mine.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Falling in love was never on the table, it was never supposed to be part of the deal. I'm afraid that I've already unintentionally crossed that boundary. I don't know if I'll be able to explain it better than 'not romantic but more than platonic' and that worries me. It's not often that I don't have the words for something and it's pissing me off.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: I'll return the collar before I hurt either of them.

Well, this is true. How about romonic? Or plamantic? Maybe you should be honest and say you don't have words for it. That's kind of cool, actually.

And you're gonna have to slap that heart of yours around for violating the deal!

 

[chy_girl]

Oh, please, on the bolded part. Does their relationship suck so bad that it needs "protecting"? If yes, that's not your problem. If no, then what are they worried about?

Sorry, it's a soapbox of mine.

No, it doesn't suck so bad that it needs "protecting" but this is new for everyone involved, not just me. And call me fucked up, but there are certain boundaries I won't touch with a ten foot pole - that's one of them. I refuse to be a catalyst for an issue if it's at all within my control.

I've hurt enough people by loving them - I won't add these two to the list.

 

[BiBunny]

No, it doesn't suck so bad that it needs "protecting" but this is new for everyone involved, not just me. And call me fucked up, but there are certain boundaries I won't touch with a ten foot pole - that's one of them. I refuse to be a catalyst for an issue if it's at all within my control.

I've hurt enough people by loving them - I won't add these two to the list.

If they can't handle it, they've got no business trying to do the couple-owning-a-slave thing, anyway.

 

[rida]

*snip*
Falling in love was never on the table, it was never supposed to be part of the deal. I'm afraid that I've already unintentionally crossed that boundary. I don't know if I'll be able to explain it better than 'not romantic but more than platonic' and that worries me. It's not often that I don't have the words for something and it's pissing me off.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: I'll return the collar before I hurt either of them.

Let's face it, the "no falling in love" rule is a rule doomed from the beginning.
If there is not risk of "love" feelings ever emerging, you don't need the rule, and if you need the rule, it is because love will happen.

That being said, you should just write how you feel, honestly, without the fear of crossing boundaries or stepping over toes. The reason I'm saying this is because she gave you the assignment and your responsibility is to be honest and open with her/them.

From what you have written so far, you are not having a hidden agenda to take her place. If she feels threatened, is their responsibility to work on it. It should not be your job to protect their relationship.

But I totally with you with the being pissed because you cannot find the words to express what you feel. Don't worry, they will come.

 

[chy_girl]

Well, this is true. How about romonic? Or plamantic? Maybe you should be honest and say you don't have words for it. That's kind of cool, actually.

And you're gonna have to slap that heart of yours around for violating the deal!

*sigh*
You realize that if you hadn't been the recipient of many long winded pm's that crack up there would deserve a one finger salute. I suppose it can slide though. As for the coolness... we shall see if they agree with you.

And I've been slapping heart and mind around most of the day. That certainly shouldn't be a surprise.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

*sigh*
You realize that if you hadn't been the recipient of many long winded pm's...

And what goes around, comes around, baby.

 

[chy_girl]

And what goes around, comes around, baby.

*snort*
Then you have a lot of catching up to do.

 

[graceanne]

*sigh*
You realize that if you hadn't been the recipient of many long winded pm's that crack up there would deserve a one finger salute.

Why let that stop you?

 

[chy_girl]

Why let that stop you?

Because he really has earned a free pass this one time. Just this one time.

 

[graceanne]

Because he really has earned a free pass this one time. Just this one time.

Bummer.

 

[chy_girl]

Bummer.

Don't give up hope just yet, I'm sure he'll have plenty of chances in the coming days.

 

[graceanne]

Don't give up hope just yet, I'm sure he'll have plenty of chances in the coming days.

Yay!

 

[chy_girl]

Yay!

LOL....

 

[graceanne]

LOL....

Yes, I'm that bored.

 

[bobsgirl]

It's tiresome, having to straddle two worlds.

 

[chy_girl]

Yes, I'm that bored.

I understand that one.

 

[BiBunny]

Please, God, let me get through this wedding bullshit without killing somebody.

 

[Bi_Kitty]

Please, God, let me get through this wedding bullshit without killing somebody.

If anyone let it be your grandmother.