The Grass Is Always Greener...

[montrealgirl]

If you are single, what do you miss most about being in a relationship?

If you have a partner, what do you miss most about being single?


I'm single, and I really don't miss having someone to sleep with at night...I get my bed all to myself, all the covers, no snoring to contend with...

But I really miss waking up in the morning and not having someone to wrap myself around or having someone to spoon up against me, breathing on the back of my neck for those first 10 minutes before I have to start the day.

What about you?

 

[okemos77]

Well I just got married in June, but my wife lives out in Michigan. So right now I live the bachelor life in NJ, meaning i get the bed all to myself, but i don't get the sleeping partner in the morning either.

So what do i miss about being single? Probably the thing i miss most is the possibility. Granted when i go out now, i do enjoy the fact that I'm hitched, as i don't have to worry anymore. It used to worry me a lot. i should have said that first. that shows the depth of my laziness, as i could change it by deleting it, but i keep typing.

ok then.

so yeah, i miss being with goats. fine, i said it.

 

[montrealgirl]

Well I just got married in June, but my wife lives out in Michigan. So right now I live the bachelor life in NJ, meaning i get the bed all to myself, but i don't get the sleeping partner in the morning either.

So what do i miss about being single? Probably the thing i miss most is the possibility. Granted when i go out now, i do enjoy the fact that I'm hitched, as i don't have to worry anymore. It used to worry me a lot. i should have said that first. that shows the depth of my laziness, as i could change it by deleting it, but i keep typing.

ok then.

so yeah, i miss being with goats. fine, i said it.

And I here I had you pegged as a sheep guy à la Gene Wilder...hmmmm....you think you know someone.....

 

[okemos77]

Sheep complain WAAAAAAAAAY too much. Goats on the other hand just seem to have been built for that task.

i'm serious.

seriously.

anyway, at least i don't have sex with cows. that's disgusting.

 

[montrealgirl]

I can't believe you told everyone about my love of cows out here in the open for all to see!!!....oh, wait, that was me who just confessed that....my bad.

 

[babydoll2u]

I miss....

~ having someone to confide my most intimate feelings and thoughts to...
~ having someone to hold me tight when I need to vent and/or cry
~ having someone to snuggle up/spoon with as we drift off to sleep
~ having someone to share life's daily happenings with

 

[montrealgirl]

~ having someone to confide my most intimate feelings and thoughts to...
~ having someone to hold me tight when I need to vent and/or cry
~ having someone to snuggle up/spoon with as we drift off to sleep
~ having someone to share life's daily happenings with

Thanks babydoll...I agree with you on all those points, although during my years in singledom I've learned to find other means of support so generally I'm okay with all that..but nothing beats a good partner that's for sure....of course, I am 100% on board about spooning...THAT, you can definetely not do on your own....

 

[babydoll2u]

Thanks babydoll...I agree with you on all those points, although during my years in singledom I've learned to find other means of support so generally I'm okay with all that..but nothing beats a good partner that's for sure....of course, I am 100% on board about spooning...THAT, you can definetely not do on your own....

that's for sure hun.... I love waking up and feeling his chest against my back... his legs wrapped around mine... his arm draped over me, hand cupping my breast... whew, I need to quit now.

 

[montrealgirl]

that's for sure hun.... I love waking up and feeling his chest against my back... his legs wrapped around mine... his arm draped over me, hand cupping my breast... whew, I need to quit now.

Oh yeah, and pushing your ass back into his hips to make a really nice tight fit...the feeling of the his breath on your neck...the shivers that you then get up and down your spine....okay, quitting now too!!!

 

[Sexystagemanager]

Oh yeah, and pushing your ass back into his hips to make a really nice tight fit...the feeling of the his breath on your neck...the shivers that you then get up and down your spine....okay, quitting now too!!!

Damn you two! lol...

 

[montrealgirl]

Damn you two! lol...

Who us?

Please feel free to add you own two cents...I'm really interested to hear what the married ppl have to say....

 

[BadBombshellBabe]

~ having someone to confide my most intimate feelings and thoughts to...
~ having someone to hold me tight when I need to vent and/or cry
~ having someone to snuggle up/spoon with as we drift off to sleep
~ having someone to share life's daily happenings with

and then there are those of us that ARE married and still miss the the things you just listed...some of the time, at least.

what do i miss about being single?

~ flirting and playing the fun game of cat and mouse, the anticipation...variety!

yes, we are still able to flirt and have fun with others when we're married, but it's just not quite the same knowing that it won't lead to anything.

 

[Sexystagemanager]

Who us?

Please feel free to add you own two cents...I'm really interested to hear what the married ppl have to say....

Lol... y'all sound like me... that's all... getting me all sappy and romantic at the moment...

 

[montrealgirl]

and then there are those of us that ARE married and still miss the the things you just listed...some of the time, at least.

what do i miss about being single?

~ flirting and playing the fun game of cat and mouse, the anticipation...variety!

yes, we are still able to flirt and have fun with others when we're married, but it's just not quite the same knowing that it won't lead to anything.

Very interesting...its funny that when we are single we can't wait to finally meet the "right" person...but then long for the chase when married...I was the exact same way when I was with someone...EVERYONE I met was way sexier when I wasn't available.

Thanks for sharing...

 

[montrealgirl]

Lol... y'all sound like me... that's all... getting me all sappy and romantic at the moment...

Sorry, sometimes I can't help it...especially when I first wake up in the morning alone....which is when I thought of this thread

 

[Seb2002]

The only thing I miss.....well, see.....I like to be nice with the ladies....I'm known to be a very sweet guy.....problem is....my girlfriend is a lil' bit jealous. She says she wasn't like that before meeting me, so I assume that she really loves me.......Anyways, I can flirt around (nothing serious, you know) when I'm at a party when she's there and she won't say anything.......until we wake up the next day and she will confess to me.....It makes me feel guilty everytime, even though all I do is making some girls laugh and have a good time....I do spend more time with my girl though, don't get me wrong here.....Other than that, I can't complain. I love her to death and can't imagine living without her and hurting her emotionnaly or physically....Hope it answers your question MG

 

[tolyk]

If you are single, what do you miss most about being in a relationship?
I'm single, and I really don't miss having someone to sleep with at night...I get my bed all to myself, all the covers, no snoring to contend with...

But I really miss waking up in the morning and not having someone to wrap myself around or having someone to spoon up against me, breathing on the back of my neck for those first 10 minutes before I have to start the day.

What about you?

I'm single, and I really do miss sleeping beside someone, but more so the cuddling as you fall asleep, not the actual sleep part. I miss hugging, kissing, holding hands, giving erotic massages..... I miss a lot, especially physical things. I miss the emotional and mental ones as well, just harder to explain. Like.. I miss the feeling I get whenever I look at her..

 

[montrealgirl]

The only thing I miss.....well, see.....I like to be nice with the ladies....I'm known to be a very sweet guy.....problem is....my girlfriend is a lil' bit jealous. She says she wasn't like that before meeting me, so I assume that she really loves me.......Anyways, I can flirt around (nothing serious, you know) when I'm at a party when she's there and she won't say anything.......until we wake up the next day and she will confess to me.....It makes me feel guilty everytime, even though all I do is making some girls laugh and have a good time....I do spend more time with my girl though, don't get me wrong here.....Other than that, I can't complain. I love her to death and can't imagine living without her and hurting her emotionnaly or physically....Hope it answers your question MG

Interesting....there does seem to be a common theme here among the "taken" ones....that of not acting upon, but meeting/flirting/talking to new people....

I honestly thought that the biggest thing ppl would miss is personal space/free time/full privacy/the ability to make the decisions that are best for you and you only....huh....those are the things that I think I would miss...

 

[babydoll2u]

Oh yeah, and pushing your ass back into his hips to make a really nice tight fit...the feeling of the his breath on your neck...the shivers that you then get up and down your spine....okay, quitting now too!!!

ayep, that's what I'm talkin' about, lol...

 

[montrealgirl]

I'm single, and I really do miss sleeping beside someone, but more so the cuddling as you fall asleep, not the actual sleep part. I miss hugging, kissing, holding hands, giving erotic massages..... I miss a lot, especially physical things. I miss the emotional and mental ones as well, just harder to explain. Like.. I miss the feeling I get whenever I look at her..

Thanks for posting Tolyk (nice new av by the way, although I really liked the old one too)

You and I seem to be on the same page here...I mean, for sure, there are a lot of things that you get out of a relationship that you don't when you are single...but if you spend even a short period of time falling asleep/waking up with someone, you really miss it when its gone...I haven't lived with a guy for 7 years and one month...that's a hell of a lot of mornings....

 

[babydoll2u]

and then there are those of us that ARE married and still miss the the things you just listed...some of the time, at least.

what do i miss about being single?

~ flirting and playing the fun game of cat and mouse, the anticipation...variety!

yes, we are still able to flirt and have fun with others when we're married, but it's just not quite the same knowing that it won't lead to anything.

hun I know exactly how you feel... I'm newly divorced, but for the last 2 years of my marriage, I missed all the things I listed... including sex

 

[tolyk]

Thanks for posting Tolyk (nice new av by the way, although I really liked the old one too)

You and I seem to be on the same page here...I mean, for sure, there are a lot of things that you get out of a relationship that you don't when you are single...but if you spend even a short period of time falling asleep/waking up with someone, you really miss it when its gone...I haven't lived with a guy for 7 years and one month...that's a hell of a lot of mornings....

Thanks, though this is my fallback AV.. It's the only really tasteful one I have.. I've been using it since I joined up here (especially after the guys at the Author's Hangout asked me to stop using cock AVs)

Yeah.. I was married for 3 and a half years.. now I find sleeping in a bed larger than a single uncomfortable/lonely.. I mean.. I'm just so used to being pressed up against someone.

 

[Seb2002]

I honestly thought that the biggest thing ppl would miss is personal space/free time/full privacy/the ability to make the decisions that are best for you and you only....huh....those are the things that I think I would miss...

Well, see that would only happen with someone that would follow you around like a pet and asking you 10,000 questions after coming back from work or a party. Fortunately for me, my girl isn't lke that. If I would tell her to stay home, she would, but I'm not like that.....I'm happy to be with her and everywhere I go, I bring her with me.....unless she feels otherwise.....We don't have the same job either so therefore not the same days off, so I still have some time to myslef.....Maybe that will change, but I doubt it.....

 

[montrealgirl]

Well, see that would only happen with someone that would follow you around like a pet and asking you 10,000 questions after coming back from work or a party. Fortunately for me, my girl isn't lke that. If I would tell her to stay home, she would, but I'm not like that.....I'm happy to be with her and everywhere I go, I bring her with me.....unless she feels otherwise.....We don't have the same job either so therefore not the same days off, so I still have some time to myslef.....Maybe that will change, but I doubt it.....

Maybe...but I am someone who loves and needs a lot of alone time...I'm so used to it that I have a really hard time giving it up...time to do the the things I want to do whether it be chatting on Lit, reading a book, exercising, going to a movie (yes, I really enjoy going to the movies by myself)...for me, it just isn't the same doing these things with someone else around...I am guessing that if I ever live with someone again, it would have to be someone as independent as me...but honestly, I love coming home to my own apartment, my own furniture, my own bed, my own food, I drive my own car, pay my own bills etc...I miss sharing, but not sure what it would be like to share everything

 

[Seb2002]

Yeah I see what you mean.....