The first "Fifty Shades" divorce? Will he get alimony?

[LJ_Reloaded]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...-spice-love-life-THAT-book.html#ixzz2Bsws7Vn8

A high-powered City businesswoman is divorcing her husband after he refused to play along with the erotic themes in the raunchy blockbuster, Fifty Shades Of Grey.

The wife, a 41-year-old banker who earns more than £400,000 a year, bought the bestseller almost as soon as it was published last year, and decided to use it to pep up the couple's staid sex life.

But when her husband failed to respond to the novel's themes, which include bondage and S&M, she petitioned for divorce.

In the case, filed in the High Court this year, the wife refers to the book in her grounds for divorce, which blames the breakdown of the marriage on the husband's lack of sexual adventure.

The wife's solicitor, Amanda McAlister, one of Britain's leading matrimonial lawyers, says she believes the case is the first where the book has triggered a divorce.

The wife is arguing that her husband's 'boring attitude' to sex is evidence of 'unreasonable behaviour', one of the five grounds for divorce under English law.

 

[PennLady]

Well it sounds like the book is irrelevant, really, except that it may have sped up them finding out their different sex drives, or attitude toward sex or whatever. The guy blaming 50 Shades sounds like an easy way out, really.

That is weird.

 

[stickygirl]

English law is weird and you cannot be a barrister unless you can prove at least 3 types of sexual deviancy. I suppose the usual thing is stand this on its head: if it were a man demanding this from a disinterest wife, he'd be hung drawn and quartered for being a misogynistic bastard.
Had the high-powered exec woman really never heard of S&M until she read the book? I think not!
The only winners will be the lawyers $$$ I hope there are no kids involved

 

[PennLady]

The only winners will be the lawyers $$$ I hope there are no kids involved

I hope not, too, although it didn't sound like it. But perhaps they just weren't mentioned. I really think this has nothing to do with 50 Shades, per se. This guy just wasn't interested in the same thing his wife was, and perhaps things had just gotten stale between them. But if one badly-written book can be blamed for wrecking your marriage, then there were probably a lot of other problems at work.

 

[TxRad]

There is definitely a Loving Wives Plot Bunny or three hopping around in here.

 

[Cruel2BKind]

IF they were in their forties, you would think that they would have figured out their sexual differences by now.

 

[TxRad]

IF they were in their forties, you would think that they would have figured out their sexual differences by now.

They're rich and probably both workaholics so they only see each other during the holidays.

 

[Stella_Omega]

IF they were in their forties, you would think that they would have figured out their sexual differences by now.

For a lot of women, that's just when they start figuring out their sexuality.

Also, mid life crisis hits women as hard as it does men.

 

[PennLady]

IF they were in their forties, you would think that they would have figured out their sexual differences by now.

You'd think but you'd be wrong in a lot of cases. Like Stella said, some women are just figuring out what they want or like at that age.

And even in a marriage, people often don't talk about sex or sexuality or desire or whatever. Not like in the stories.

 

[stickygirl]

For a lot of women, that's just when they start figuring out their sexuality.

Also, mid life crisis hits women as hard as it does men.

I assume Stella, you're referring to their crisis hitting hard rather than any S&M thing

 

[stickygirl]

..... sorry - double post

 

[Cruel2BKind]

Hey, I'm only halfway there, gimme a break.

 

[MSTarot]

So.....rich English lady,sexy accent, makes good money, wanting to try kinky sex...and about to be single!

If I wasn't married... I think I might look into this.

Grin.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Well it sounds like the book is irrelevant, really, except that it may have sped up them finding out their different sex drives, or attitude toward sex or whatever. The guy blaming 50 Shades sounds like an easy way out, really.

That is weird.

Blame him. I am NOT surprised...

 

[Cruel2BKind]

English law is weird and you cannot be a barrister unless you can prove at least 3 types of sexual deviancy. I suppose the usual thing is stand this on its head: if it were a man demanding this from a disinterest wife, he'd be hung drawn and quartered for being a misogynistic bastard.
Had the high-powered exec woman really never heard of S&M until she read the book? I think not!
The only winners will be the lawyers $$$ I hope there are no kids involved

For a lot of women, that's just when they start figuring out their sexuality.

Also, mid life crisis hits women as hard as it does men.

Blame him. I am NOT surprised...

Okay LJ... Bear with me. The first quote is dissecting the unfairness and misogyny of the situation. Then Stella agreed that it was the woman's fault. You are the one picking and choosing to try and push your insane misandry conspiracy theory.

 

[3113]

The wife is arguing that her husband's 'boring attitude' to sex is evidence of 'unreasonable behaviour', one of the five grounds for divorce under English law.

I wonder why English law requires any grounds for divorce other than "one or both of the people involved wants it." I mean, if she wants to divorce him, why does she need a reason other than that she's not happy?

The best thing about this story is that it assures us storytellers that we're still the most powerful beings on the planet. Any fantasy of "Eden" (perfect love and chemistry) we tell is the one some man or woman is going to want and be willing to do anything to get. Be it divorce their spouse or leave their family to visit Tibet. This even knowing that the story was totally made up and is a fiction. Ah, the smell of power in the morning....

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Okay LJ... Bear with me. The first quote is dissecting the unfairness and misogyny of the situation. Then Stella agreed that it was the woman's fault. You are the one picking and choosing to try and push your insane misandry conspiracy theory.

Learn to read. I was criticizing PennLady's response, which was the first one out of the gate. Not the others. I am not surprised that there has to be at least one here who blames the husband. The only insanity here is your poor reading skills.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

I wonder why English law requires any grounds for divorce other than "one or both of the people involved wants it." I mean, if she wants to divorce him, why does she need a reason other than that she's not happy?

^^^ This, totally. One has to wonder... will he ask for alimony, or is he cutting and running because of the alleged impotency issue?

 

[TxRad]

Learn to read. I was criticizing PennLady's response, which was the first one out of the gate. Not the others. I am not surprised that there has to be at least one here who blames the husband. The only insanity here is your poor reading skills.

Maybe you need to learn to read. She didn't blame the husband for anything. She pointed out that he was blaming the story.

 

[PennLady]

Maybe you need to learn to read. She didn't blame the husband for anything. She pointed out that he was blaming the story.

Thank you. No, I wasn't blaming the husband. The article said:

Ms McAlister said the husband's response was to blame Fifty Shades Of Grey: 'He went ballistic when he found out the name of the book she was reading and told her, “It's all because you have been reading that bloody book.” '

(emphasis mine)

=3113I wonder why English law requires any grounds for divorce other than "one or both of the people involved wants it." I mean, if she wants to divorce him, why does she need a reason other than that she's not happy?

I don't know much about US divorce laws or requirements, but I think you need some kind of reason for a divorce. The easiest seems to be "irreconcilable differences," which would cover a lot of ground.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Ms McAlister said the husband's response was to blame Fifty Shades Of Grey:

Believing the wife's story over the husband's by default. Believing her story that he blamed the book. The wife is blaming her husband for this, and PennLady is believing the wife. By default, if this is even he said/she said, she gets believed and it's all the husband's fault. Stop me where I am wrong please.

 

[PennLady]

What I said was:

Well it sounds like the book is irrelevant, really, except that it may have sped up them finding out their different sex drives, or attitude toward sex or whatever. The guy blaming 50 Shades sounds like an easy way out, really.

I'm not blaming anyone. All I'm saying is that this came up, and their responses to the book showed their differences regarding sex, or sex in marriage, or whatever. If it hadn't been this, it would have been something else -- another book, a magazine article, anything. It just happened to be this.

I'm only going by what's there, and what's there is a quote by the wife's lawyer on what the husband said. If he didn't say it, then she shouldn't have made otu that he did. Also, the husband hasn't given much of a story. According to the article, he's agreed to admit the unreasonable behavior.

But the final point: I'm not "blaming" either party here.

 

[RjThoughts]

For a lot of women, that's just when they start figuring out their sexuality.

Also, mid life crisis hits women as hard as it does men.

Male midlife crisis: Buys a Corvette and he's found to be boring.
Female: Buys 50 Shades and discovers husband is boring.