the first date - giving her a rose ?

[DuckLover]

god no, not a carnation, she'll think you're cheap! (Unless they are not so common where you are; in the US they are like a cheap filler ingredient.) A nice calla lily might be good though.

I'm with Peachykeen on this one. I've had bad luck with carnations; they never seem to send a good message. A nice alternative might be Lust Engine's idea of a mixed bouquet, though that should probably wait until a later date. (It'd make a great gift if you're invited to her place for dinner though!)

When I'm in doubt about something, I always try to consult an expert, so here's a radical thought: Ask the florist! Explain the situation and seek advice. Then follow it. (That's the point of consulting an EXPERT rather than the average person.) You should definitely set some parameters-- ie cost, no carnations. I wouldn't even mention the rose idea to the florist initially. Get their impression first, THEN perhaps ask about a (colored?) rose.

And definitely keep LE's comment about the cost of roses at Valentine's in mind. I've already told my gf not to expect them; I love her enough to spend my money on her more efficiently!

Good luck!

 

[NASCARaddicted]

well, today (for the first time) I talked to her on the phone !

And what can I say: what a lovely voice she has !!!!!!!!!!!

We chatted for 45 minutes, about all kinds of stuff. I also asked her about her tattoo (the blue rose) and she told me, she really likes roses. The fact that the rose is blue has no special meaning. But she told me, that she doesn't like red roses .......

And yes, I also thought about asking a florist, so I guess I will do that tomorrow.

 

[NASCARaddicted]

oh, by the way:

she also told me, that she loves stuffed toy animals. Since she has no boyfriend, she uses stuffed animals, if she wants to cuddle. She has lots of them. And she told me that she loves dragons .....

So maybe a small stuffed dragon (a Beanbag ?) would be even better then a rose. Plus: I think a Beanbag would fit easily in the pocket of my jacket ....

Oh damn, I just checked: I remembered this one dragon movie, "Reign of Fire". Last week, it was in our local cinema, but I can't find it neither in this week, nor in next week ..... but then, I saw that the movie just got a 5.9 out of 10, according to imdb.com ......

 

[Willing and Unsure]

Oh damn, I just checked: I remembered this one dragon movie, "Reign of Fire". Last week, it was in our local cinema, but I can't find it neither in this week, nor in next week ..... but then, I saw that the movie just got a 5.9 out of 10, according to imdb.com ......

Reign of Fire is a good movie, as long as you dont over analyze it while you're watching it. It's also out on video now. And the other thing, if it were me that was to be seeing a movie on a date, I wouldnt want to see that one (I dont think it'd be that good of a date movie).

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

In terms of giving her something, I would avoid it for the first date. On the second or third dates, give her something small and simple that you believe she would appreciate. If you are unsure, try dark chocolate. (It seems to work every time. ) Make sure that you use gift wrap.


Best of luck. You sound like a wonderful, thoughtful guy.

JS768

MMMM, Joe, wanna go out??? PLAIN CHOCOLATE IS MY FAVOURITE!


-kym- Thinking how wonderful some men are!

 

[lilpriss]

Here's a novel idea, why don't you take her out to lunch the day BEFORE Valentine's day? It'll be less stressful, and then y'all can decide if you'd like to go out for dinner the next night?

 

[NASCARaddicted]

o.k. a small update and some comments ....


Thanks for your advices, but you shouldn't focus that much on Valentines day. I just mentioned V Day because it was so close to a it would have been a nice coincidence .... but for me, the V Day has no real special meaning. If you look at it: Isn't V Day a day for the flower and chocolate industry ? I mean, if you want to tell/show your boyfriend/girlfriend how much love them, you don't need a special day. I swear, if it becomes true, and I and Mirjam will become a couple, I will tell her every day how much I love her ....
Also: Currently, she is facing her final exams of her professional training (I teased her and called her "secretary", but it's a little bit more then just that). Her first exam in on friday, so I guess, the day before V Day wouldn't be too good for a first date ..... I guess I will aim towards Saturday ....

as for the "Reign of Fire" movie ... I just noticed: A small cinema in my town showes it. But then, I think it would be a better idea of the girl selects the movie (in case we are going to a cinema - so far we haven't decided us yet)

as for the rose itself .... I think I will cancel that. I mean, she told me how much she loves dragons and stuffed animals. So today, I went to a toystore and looked for a stuffed dragon. They only had one: a keyring holder. But I think it fits. It's a small friendly dragon called Tabaluga (maybe someone know it: there is a modern german fairytale about a Dragon called "Tabaluga"). It's about 5 inches tall, so it's easy to hide it in my pocket and give it to her at the right time. And since it's so small, it doesn't look overdone .....

I'll keep you updated. Either I will talk to her on the phone later today or tomorrow ....

 

[Belilica]

I'm in agreeance here- A single white rose