The End

[BiBunny]

Ok, so I'm posting this while I'm still in the disbelief stage, so if it doesn't make much sense, I apologize. This morning a couple of minutes after 9:00, while I was still asleep, Master called me. Groggily, I answered the phone, only to hear what sounded like the voice of a stranger. He blandly informed me that he had come to a point where he had to make "a choice," and the choice was not me.

I've always known that he had another girl. It was never a big deal to me. Apparently, she never knew about me. I spent Wednesday night, all day Thursday, and Friday morning with him. I knew she'd be down there for the weekend. I guess she found out somehow and had him call me and break it off immediately. I'm devastated beyond belief. It's not a huge surprise, as part of me always knew that the other shoe would drop one day. What hurts is the total lack of consideration for my feelings. I mean...a phone call? And I got no explanation, either. Just a "I didn't want to do this over the phone, but I have to make a choice, and it's not you." My only response was, "I know." I've always known that when it came down to it, it wouldn't be me. I asked him if we could talk sometime, and he hung up on me. Real mature, huh?

I sat down, gathered my thoughts, and composed a rational-sounding email. At the beginning of the email, I said that while I never thought I'd do something like this in an email, after what had just transpired, I didn't think I owed it to him to say it to his face, since he obviously couldn't look me in the eyes and tell me to get lost, either. I won't go into the particulars because even as I look at this now, it sounds like some kind of high school drama. I did tell him, however, that I thought he at least owed me an explanation, if nothing else.

It hurts. I'm not even going to lie. I was just posting here last night about how wonderful he is and how much I love him. Friday morning, he just kissed me goodbye like always, and nothing was wrong. What really hurts more than the actual rejection is that my feelings were never even taken into consideration. He was backed into a corner and sacrificed my feelings to save his ass. I have lost all respect for him for that. Besides, what kind of dominant allows his girlfriend to tell him what to do? I doubt this is the last I'll hear from him. I'll update if there's more.

I'm sorry for the melodramatic post. I'm just terribly upset. I'm not looking for sympathy or anything, but some support would be nice. Thanks, everyone.

 

[Betticus]

Dr. Betticus recommends a warm chocolate chip cookie and a glass of cold milk and a cuddle.

That really sucks!

 

[EuroMaster247]

The actions of your so called Dom really do suck. Not the way an obviously respectful young sub should be treated.
It's always darkest before the dawn but don't worry the light will shine for you.
Take care, you're in my thoughts

EM247

 

[Netzach]

Seriously uncool behavior AND lacks any points for at least being suave if you're going to be an ass.

You know you deserve better, who wouldn't?

 

[callinectes]

Bunny, I am so sorry. We were just talking a few days ago about different little things you could do to help relieve his stress from working so much. Now I just want to smack him upside the head for you! I'm sorry you are hurting and that he treated you so poorly, there was no excuse for him breaking it off in such a fashion.

Big hugs. We are here for you.

 

[neonflux]

Goddess Bunny!

I went through something very, very similar in June - break-up over the phone, completely unexpected, 2 days before my birthday - he went back to his ex. I definitely understand what you mean by not understanding how he could have done it so cruely and with so little respect. It was a cowardly act on his part, rather than a true reflection of how he views you, I think. And you are not being overly dramatic. My thoughts are with you.

Neon

P.S., Please feel free to PM me should the mood strike. And be gentle and kind to yourself.

 

[Auraka6669]

That sucks. But in the end, perhaps this is a mixed blessing? The longer you are with someone, the more attached you get. So having it end now rather than later is perhaps a good thing. The glass is half full and what nots.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Hope things improve from here for you. My thoughts are you are better off without him, not because he let his girlfriend tell him what to do (perhaps they had an agreement about not involving others and she was exercising her rights), but the fact he obviously is a liar and cheater if she was unaware of your existence. No-one needs a Dom who can't be honest.

Catalina

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Ohhh Bunny my heart goes out to you.

Please make this about his failings and don't direct any negativity towards yourself.

Nurture , nurture and more nurture.

IF You need an extra 'ear' with full respect towards your privacy and total discretion don't hesitate to pm me.

 

[cati]

Bi-Bunny I'm really sorry for the way you are feeling. I'm thinking "he" knows he's a jerk and cowardly for these actions. If he was alone with you I bet he wouldn't/couldn't tell you he wanted to call it quits and chose to hide behind the phone instead...and keeping safe distance. How much easier it was for him to do that. Gawd I hate that....sighs heavily.
Know that you have friends here who are always willing to listen and offer support. HUGS...

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I am sorry to hear that take solace in your friends and faith...

One will come alone who will do you right...

I got dumped via a downloadable file once... ('nilla relationship) so I do understand...

My heart and some prayers go out your way.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I am sorry to hear that take solace in your friends and faith...

One will come alone who will do you right...

I got dumped via a downloadable file once... ('nilla relationship) so I do understand...

My heart and some prayers go out your way.

i am truly sorry this happend to you. what a coward way of breaking it off. a Dom has a responsibility to help ease the transition after a break up IMHO. when you submit you give your heart, mind, body and soul, so when a D/s relationship is over, the submissive is left feeling vulnerable and that Dom has a responsibility to make sure she is alright, to hold her, to re-assure her that the break up was not her fault, to answer questions, or feelings of not being good enough....or whatever but this guy is obviously a coward. as Master said take solace in your friends and faith, it sounds like you've got a pretty good support group right here. make sure to take care of yourself and don't let yourself fall into a depression you can't get out of. talk about it to whoever and you will get through it. the hurt will fade and you will find the One that is right for you and who will treat you with the respect that this guy did not. hugs to you.

~rose~

 

[DVS]

Actually, your thread title is wrong. It's not the end...it's the beginning.

Forget about that loser and move on. Think of all the possibilities out there. Shop around, flirt with the sexy hunks, think kinky thoughts and be happy. He's now stuck with "her" and you have the whole world in front of you.

Who do you think is better off?

 

[FurryFury]

Bi Bunny, I'm so sorry to hear what he did. I know you are hurting right now. You've gotten some great advice on this thread though and support.

*HUGS*

Fury

 

[Xelebes]

This is the end my friend
My only friend, the end.

oontz oontz oontz

 

[shy slave]

catalina and DVS have both said what I would have written.

Break-ups are always hell.

But a man who is too cowardly to face you is not worth any more of your time.
Desdemona once put this in a thread I had when something similar happened to me.

I know it hurts, but go get yourself another. He's just a man and they're making more of them every single day. Wallow a little, but don't allow yourself to feel like a victim for long. The best thing to do is get out and be with other people so you can heal. I know from past experience what I'm talking about. There are others here who have also been down this road. Best wishes.

It made me laugh at the time and it seemed impossible to follow, but she was right.

A better man is out there, and you will find him

 

[BiBunny]

I just wanted to thank everyone who's posted for your kind words and thoughts. I also basically agree with the character assessment of him. (Wow, that was bad syntax.) Anyway, I've nothing new to update now except that I think I feel even worse now than I did before. My girlfriend has been taking care of me all day. I hope that I do have the opportunity to talk him because I think it will make me feel better. Oh, well, if nothing else, I sent him the email and said my piece. That may just have to do. Thanks again, everyone.

 

[myinnerslut]

im so sorry. what an awful thing for him to do

 

[MasterPhoenix]

IF he is worth shit, then you will get that chance...

Sorry for being so blunt, ubt well, thats Me.

As Doms, we spend so much energy helping to mold our subs into that which we desire, that we owe it to them to help them ease the transition out of the relationship, IMO.

you got friends in Me & My lil rose.

 

[BeachGurl2]

I'm so sorry, Bunny. It truly sucks. When I got dumped this summer, he didn't even bother to call, just stopped answering my calls or emails. Took a month before he would actually face me with it all. Makes it much harder to get closure when you don't know the whys of it all. But you are much better off now, even if it doesn't feel like it right this minute. Pamper yourself, recoup, then regroup and move forward. You deserve better, sweetie.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Bunny...

{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}

Just because

 

[chris9]

Bunny *hugs and huggles*
If this continues we should start a club...
You're in my thoughts, if you need to bitch/rant/whatever, need someone to listen, please pm me.

 

[_prudence_]

Breakups suck, I don't know you, but I've been there myself (dumped over the phone) and I feel for you.

This woman is obviously not enough for him or he wouldn't have been involved with you at the same time. He also lies to her, and now she knows it. Doomed relationship IMHO.

Chin up hon x

 

[lne_iii]

Sorry to hear about what happened to you...
But not to sound like a parrot...

You're probably better off this way, if you knew it was coming, and if it was going to happen anyway.

I know it hurts, it always does.
This is a hard thing to go through for sure.
But, and I know this will sound difficult/crazy/impossible...

Try to move on.
He doesn't sound like he's worth your time.

Giving my regards,
LNE

 

[BiBunny]

I have an update. I woke up this morning around 4:30, not able to sleep. I decided to check my email just in case he'd answered me. He had. He apologized for the phone call and said that she'd more or less "made" him do it. He also said he'd been struggling to make a decision about who to choose, anyway. I'm not sure that I buy that. I honestly believe that if she hadn't caught him, he'd have carried on like everything was fine. My feelings were what was sacrificed to save his ass.

Still, I answered and told him that I thought we needed to have a conversation about this. I told him that I only wanted him to be happy, whether it's with me or not. I also said that I hoped he'd made the right decision for himself and not just taken the path of least resistance because he'd been backed into a corner.

I didn't know what else to say. When I look in the mirror, there are still bruises on my breasts and stomach and thighs from the time I spent with him last week. My collar lays on my dresser, like it's taunting me. Well, I guess it isn't my collar anymore. I swear, this is the hardest thing I've ever done. The hardest part about it is that I'm so used to running to him when something's wrong. Now I can't do that. I guess I just don't know what to do right now. Thanks, everyone, for listening and being so supportive.