The creative Dom/me

[Rrrosyn]

Assuming you are in a long-term (perhaps married) relationship with your submissive... how do you keep the creativity and challenge flowing?

You're not always going to want to always be doing something "actively" with your submissive, but s/he is growing restless...

How creative can you be in with a submissive who needs challenges you are not quite up to? Orgasm denial and forced masturbation can only be so interesting for so long...

I think I might write a Dom/me-a-Day calendar. For when I just don't feel creative. What do you do?

 

[FungiUg]

Assuming you are in a long-term (perhaps married) relationship with your submissive... how do you keep the creativity and challenge flowing?

You're not always going to want to always be doing something "actively" with your submissive, but s/he is growing restless...

How creative can you be in with a submissive who needs challenges you are not quite up to? Orgasm denial and forced masturbation can only be so interesting for so long...

I think I might write a Dom/me-a-Day calendar. For when I just don't feel creative. What do you do?

Not having been in a long term D/s relationship, I can't help much. Except to say that any long term relationship has the problem of boredom. You have to keep putting effort into a relationship to keep it alive. But then, if it's someone you care about and enjoy, then that's not a chore.

The calendar sounds like a great idea! Be sure to post it for us, huh?

Remember that you can continue to explore fantasies and limits too - these will change with time and experience. Communication is the key to those.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Re: Re: The creative Dom/me

The calendar sounds like a great idea! Be sure to post it for us, huh?

I plan to share it. Was thinking envelopes, not calendar style.

Anyway, I agree with the communication. Always the number one in anything.

 

[Shadowsdream]

1. When the submissive has been away from the home for a few hours and returns...greet them with a firm slap to the face instead of a welcoming kiss.
No reason....just because...

 

[FungiUg]

1. When the submissive has been away from the home for a few hours and returns...greet them with a firm slap to the face instead of a welcoming kiss.
No reason....just because...

To show you care, of course.

 

[Shadowsdream]

To show you care, of course.

Actually it does show You care...enough to bring them to that sub space they were not even hoping for in that moment.
The first time I greeted My slave in that manner he was stunned and instantly dropped to his knees in anticipation for what would follow.
A simple surprise element takes one on a different journey even if the following games have been played before.

 

[Shadowsdream]

2. Sleeping in leather mitts...
So simple yet so effective...works well with a submissive that is kinked to bondage or (and) obedience. The mitts are restrictive as much emotionally as physically as a mild form of bondage. The submissive wakes in the morning still bound and the long term bondage creates a focused head space.

 

[FungiUg]

Actually it does show You care...enough to bring them to that sub space they were not even hoping for in that moment.
The first time I greeted My slave in that manner he was stunned and instantly dropped to his knees in anticipation for what would follow.
A simple surprise element takes one on a different journey even if the following games have been played before.

I don't use the slap technique, but I will take a very forceful kiss, holding the woman's head, and savagely almost biting her mouth. That can have very interesting side-effects!

 

[Shadowsdream]

3. Use the hair as an impromtu leash...pull down forcing the submissive to the floor (out of the blue) then with your arm slightly behind You force them to heel, walking in an expected direction and just as You feel their body try to out think Your move turn around into the direction You just came from. Stay silent, when You have reached the original location use Your foot to direct their forehead to the floor...step back and just gaze silently at them..after about 5 minutes...dismiss them from Your presence with no explanation.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Ohhhhhh, PLEASE continue! *smile* What a wonderful library addition this would make.....

Patiently waiting for more wonderful ideas...

~anelize

 

[Shadowsdream]

4. Create a list of chores that must be completed in a day...all inside of the home...do not make the list to complex or to large BECAUSE You will be making it more difficult by adding the clumsiness of the spreader bar...to increase this bondage it is always nice to tie the bar to their chair when giving them a computer task...add an extra strap around the chest and the waist and You have an immobile submissive that will not be bothering You for attention.

 

[Chicklet]

I think I might write a Dom/me-a-Day calendar. For when I just don't feel creative. What do you do?

Maybe we should start a Dom/me-a-Day thread right here, with one idea added each day. Just for fun, of course

 

[Shadowsdream]

5. Inform Your toy that he/she must keep the mouth open...all damn day...to show availability...not an easy task but one that keeps the mind focused and can be easily reminded with a quick hard crop attack when You pass, if the little beast has the audacity to forget!

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

This is genius...*grins*


I may have a few ideas after this weekend...

 

[Shadowsdream]

6. Rule of the day...the submissive is not allowed to raise the eyes above crotch level..each time this rule is broken they will be sent to the corner (immediately) for 30 minutes.

 

[Shadowsdream]

7. Naked submissive, hands bound behind the back, blindfolded and kneeling of a smattering or uncooked rice. They must listen to a 30 minute or 1 hour news program and report to the Dominant every news story reported during that period...each missed story earns an extra 30 minutes of kneeling.

 

[Rrrosyn]

1. When the submissive has been away from the home for a few hours and returns...greet them with a firm slap to the face instead of a welcoming kiss.
No reason....just because...

*nods* I agree. Now how do I do this with arthritic hands? (See how this can get complicated?)

 

[Rrrosyn]

Re: Re: The creative Dom/me

Maybe we should start a Dom/me-a-Day thread right here, with one idea added each day. Just for fun, of course

I think Shadowsdream just did.

 

[Rrrosyn]

This is genius...*grins*


I may have a few ideas after this weekend...

I am looking forward to them.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Shadowsdream, I hope you don't mind me adding...

8. Submissive's hands bound in front, arms exyended parallel to the ground. Hand the submissive a feather, and tell them they must hold that pose. Procede to go about your normal routine, occasionally reminding the submissive to keep their arms UP.

 

[FungiUg]

I guess mine are more sexually focussed, but then I don't do the full time subbie thing.

Every hour, on the hour, the submissive is to masturbate up to the point of orgasm, but is forbidden to cum. This is to continue for the entire day. At the end of the day, the submissive may be given permission to orgasm... if the submissive begs sufficiently.

For shorter periods of time (or if you are feeling particularly mean), every half hour works well also.

 

[Quint]

I guess mine are more sexually focussed, but then I don't do the full time subbie thing.

Every hour, on the hour, the submissive is to masturbate up to the point of orgasm, but is forbidden to cum. This is to continue for the entire day. At the end of the day, the submissive may be given permission to orgasm... if the submissive begs sufficiently.

For shorter periods of time (or if you are feeling particularly mean), every half hour works well also.

Wouldn't work for me, mostly because after about two hours of that, it would take me the rest of the hour to get up to the point of cumming! Not exactly conducive to the rest of the day. Sexy thought, though.

 

[FungiUg]

Wouldn't work for me, mostly because after about two hours of that, it would take me the rest of the hour to get up to the point of cumming! Not exactly conducive to the rest of the day. Sexy thought, though.

Everyone is different, which is something a good Dom/me will take into account. What works for one submissive won't work for another.

Er, and yes, it does rather take over the day!

 

[Richard49]

Re: Re: The creative Dom/me

Maybe we should start a Dom/me-a-Day thread right here, with one idea added each day. Just for fun, of course

Your assigned the responsiblity to make sure it is done

PS: Lovely ass

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

~This deserves a....BUMP~








i'm working on the Library and would love to have this thread FULL of ideas when i add it *grin*