The Clitoris; a journey to the unknown planet.

[FlamingoBlue]

Until I was in college, I was clueless that a woman had a clitoris and that it was some how related to sexual pleasure. I figured that if I had an orgasm, so would she. But then, that was 1961.

Thankfully, men today are, hopefully, more informed about the female anatomy and women are more willing to tell men what feels good. (Women, you are telling the guys about what you like, aren't you)?

The very best book that I ever read about women and sex was Sherri Hite's "Survey on Female Sexuality". If you are a guy and you haven't read it, read it, asap.

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[Shy Tall Guy]

Well I got bumped offline just as I posted a reply, so here goes again.

Until I was in college, I was clueless that a woman had a clitoris and that it was some how related to sexual pleasure. I figured that if I had an orgasm, so would she. But then, that was 1961.

Thankfully, men today are, hopefully, more informed about the female anatomy and women are more willing to tell men what feels good. (Women, you are telling the guys about what you like, aren't you)?

I've not had good luck with women telling what they want or even what feels good - hence my search for a woman who is comfortable communicating such info.

As for my being informed; neither school nor parents were helpful in that regard (in the latter case I had absolutely no input).

The very best book that I ever read about women and sex was Sherri Hite's "Survey on Female Sexuality". If you are a guy and you haven't read it, read it, asap.

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I have heard of this book but have not read it - the title makes it sound like a stat study rather than something that would help me give a woman better sexual gratification.

STG

 

[bluntforcemama]

OMG! Blue, you poor poor man! Damn, that sucks. I'm beginning to wonder how old a man was when he realized that there was a spot on a female that would drive her wild.

Now, STG... you need to find a woman who knows exactly what she wants and isn't afraid to voice it! (Of course you know that) So how does one go about making a woman tell them what they want in bed?

 

[doctor_insanus]

Well... growing up in the time that I did (late 80s-early 90s), it didn't take long to realize that women had a "special place" that would drive them wild. Besides, I read about it... a lot!

So... by the time I finally got the chance to find it, I knew exactly what I was looking for!

Knowledge is power.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Now, STG... you need to find a woman who knows exactly what she wants and isn't afraid to voice it! (Of course you know that) So how does one go about making a woman tell them what they want in bed?

I think finding someone who is comfortable with her sexuality is a good start - which is one reason why I am here.

Beyond that, good communication is key.

STG

 

[atastetoarouse]

Heaven..........

STG......

Hope you find that special woman...... Of course, there are many here (Myst and others) that can tell you everything about this.

Myself; I have found that there is absolutely nothing more sexually gratifying than to orally explore my lover..... It is wild finding her clit, arousing it, and then sending her on a roller coaster ride! Better for her than the Iron Wolf at Great America!!

But beware; be prepared to hand on.... On she starts convulsing, your hearing goes as her thighs crush against your head (say what?), and her hips are going every which way!!

Yee Haw!!

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: Heaven..........

STG......

Hope you find that special woman...... Of course, there are many here (Myst and others) that can tell you everything about this.

Well I am not totally ignorant of the particulars - my point was that for the most part the women that I have been with did not communicate their needs well - verbally. OTOH, when they did orgasm there was no mistaking the physical signs - which I found quite a turn on; for me there is nothing that turns me on more than bringing a woman to orgasm. The problem is that I had to discover what was good for them with very little verbal feedback - sometimes very little physical feedback - until orgasm.

But beware; be prepared to hand on.... On she starts convulsing, your hearing goes as her thighs crush against your head (say what?), and her hips are going every which way!!

Yee Haw!!

While every woman is different, the uncontrollable muscle spasms are fun to watch - like I said, a huge turn on.

STG

 

[sexy-girl]

women should tell guys what they should do and what feels good and what doesnt


lisa and i still tell eachother how things feel and stuff even though we're both girls


also finding the clitoris is half the journy also have to know what to do when get there the girl should tell you that part

 

[Guru]

 

[Latina]

A guy who knows how to pleasue my clit is great, but if a guy knows his way around a G-spot, well...it takes a LOT longer, but once that floodgate opens, it is a COMPLETELY different kind of orgasm, and MUCH more intense. The right combination of fingers and tongue, in the right sequence, in the right way, at the right pressure, at the right pace, for the right duration, building-up my excitement at the right tempo...AND, once the orgasms start, I can just keep coming as much, as often, and for as long as I want unto exhaustion. So few guys know or seem to care how to do this, and even those who do (like you know who) don't always succeed. It is HEAVENLY when it happens. I think it's because it's so rare that makes it so special; if it was just another everyday occurrence, it wouldn't seem so intense and so special.

-- Latina

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Sherri Hite's Survey on Female Sexuality

contains a wonderful chapter with comments from women about clitoral stmulation. It amounts to 50 women telling a guy, or gal (as the case may be), about how to stimulate the clitoris. However, the book is never a substitute for asking your partner what she likes.

Guys, this is one time that it really pays to ask directions. And, ladies, this is one time that you should be happy to help out your "lost" man.

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