The boring bits of writing erotica

[SmilingLez]

Then how do the straight curious females get a chance to experiment?

With other straight curious females to the delight of their male counterparts

 

[FeldGasden]

With other straight curious females to the delight of their male counterparts

Is that how you all find out you're lesbians?

 

[SmilingLez]

Is that how you all find out you're lesbians?

The same way you found out you're straight

 

[FeldGasden]

The same way you found out you're straight

I always thought it's an attraction thing where you jut prefer women to men.

I did hear about a straight girl who found out she prefers girls when she ran off with a lesbian, leaving my friend in the dust.

 

[SmilingLez]

I always thought it's an attraction thing where you jut prefer women to men.

I did hear about a straight girl who found out she prefers girls when she ran off with a lesbian, leaving my friend in the dust.

Isn't that what straight is? Just an attraction thing where you prefer someone of the opposite sex?

I've known several lesbians who "found" out that they preferred dudes and they ended up getting marrying and leaving their ex-girlfriends in the dust

 

[DeMont]

@THBGato et al,
Thank you very much for your insights and opinions.Although I have been at the "writing" thing for a long time I have tended, in the main, to specialise in "short fiction mostly using the third model from my diagram, i.e. quick escalation, dramatic climax and quick de-escalation. While this may be fine for a periodical short, a competition entry, such as my entry in the 2025 Halloween contest, or a commercial/industrial operations guide I find the structuring of longer pieces to be somewhat of a challenge.

As a clarification, I tend to define a "stroker" as a short piece of erotica that is designed to help the reader get off quickly and, if they wish, quietly. Short intro, fast and hard action, fast finish.

Anything longer, or more involved than that, i.e. developing plot/character/s or background etc. is not a "stroker". Just so you know where my mind is at but then again I have only just begun writing for lit a little while ago this year and I still have much to learn about the crafting of "erotica" in writing.

Many thanks again.
Deepest respects,
D.

 

[TheNovelist2000]

Gee, you've got it all figured out and I don;t have a clue what you;re talking about. I have no idea if I write stroker, yapper or slow burn. Whatever will I do??

How about not yapping so much? Get to the point.

 

[TheNovelist2000]

And how does each make you feel?

If a story yaps, it’s frustrating. Yesterday, I was reading a BDSM story about someone inheriting a sex slave from his uncle, and it spent more time on the will and funeral logistics than on either the slave or the master. I’m sure it will pick up once I trudge through the boring bits—but do I really have to slog through all of that? Couldn’t it start like this instead?

“So… is this real?” Luke said, staring at the will. “My uncle left YOU for me? YOU?” He could hardly believe that this willowy woman in her tight A-line skirt was giving him all this attention—let alone believe all the absurd claims she was making.

This must be a joke, he thought, letting out a small, nervous chuckle. “Is it a joke?”

The secretary shook her head, calm and expressionless. Luke became even more convinced this had to be some kind of prank.

“If you don’t believe me,” she said, “go ahead. Give me an order.”

“An order?” He straightened up, suddenly more serious. “What kind?”

“Anything,” she said, still expressionless.

Luke waited for some sign—a smirk, a laugh, anything—that this was all a joke. But she didn’t react.

“Go on,” she urged again, and this time, he noticed the tiniest hint of a smile.

He hesitated, then said, “Put a finger up your nose.” He waited, half-expecting her to laugh.

But she didn’t.

Instead, she lifted her hand slowly, as if considering it carefully… and then, with the utmost seriousness, slid a finger up her nose.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Sometimes the dialogue is the point.

I've written a fair few stories where the characters talk to each other and reveal their characters, which explains why they end up in the sexual situations they do. Some readers love that, and say how they love the realistic dialogue making the characters seem so real when they have plentiful filthy sex.

Other readers bluntly tell me the talking is boring and there was too much of it around the OK sex scenes.

I reckon it comes down to whether you find talking about sex erotic, or only get aroused once there's actual rumpy-pumpy happening.

 

[TheNovelist2000]

Sometimes the dialogue is the point.

I've written a fair few stories where the characters talk to each other and reveal their characters, which explains why they end up in the sexual situations they do. Some readers love that, and say how they love the realistic dialogue making the characters seem so real when they have plentiful filthy sex.

Other readers bluntly tell me the talking is boring and there was too much of it around the OK sex scenes.

I reckon it comes down to whether you find talking about sex erotic, or only get aroused once there's actual rumpy-pumpy happening.

I agree. I am just against info dumps. They are hella boring.

 

[pink_silk_glove]

How about not yapping so much? Get to the point.

Fuck off. (eyeroll)

 

[sirhugs]

Sometimes the dialogue is the point.

I've written a fair few stories where the characters talk to each other and reveal their characters, which explains why they end up in the sexual situations they do. Some readers love that, and say how they love the realistic dialogue making the characters seem so real when they have plentiful filthy sex.

Other readers bluntly tell me the talking is boring and there was too much of it around the OK sex scenes.

I reckon it comes down to whether you find talking about sex erotic, or only get aroused once there's actual rumpy-pumpy happening.

I find that dialogue makes stories flow better, and breaks up big blocks of text that are awkward to read on screen. In addition, since real people talk before, after, and even during sex, this adds a patina of reality to the fiction.

 

[iwatchus]

Sometimes the dialogue is the point.

I've written a fair few stories where the characters talk to each other and reveal their characters, which explains why they end up in the sexual situations they do. Some readers love that, and say how they love the realistic dialogue making the characters seem so real when they have plentiful filthy sex.

Other readers bluntly tell me the talking is boring and there was too much of it around the OK sex scenes.

I reckon it comes down to whether you find talking about sex erotic, or only get aroused once there's actual rumpy-pumpy happening.

I guess I am definitely in the talk can be erotic side of things. There is another discussion about how hard it can be to keep descriptions of the act itself interesting. But dialogue has endless variations. I use a lot of dialogue in most of my stories and I don't think I have gotten any complaints about too much. I did have a now word comment on an early story that just said "boring", so maybe that was it. I do get plenty of criticism about how I write my dialog, but i think that is all well founded.

 

[DeMont]

One of the enjoyable things about this forum is learning about all the different ways different authors approach the subject of writing erotica. I can't dispute your perspective. It's not mine, exactly, but it's not wrong.

@SimonDoom,
Exactly my thinking my dear colleague, and yes, things may get a little fractious along the way (Did y'hear the one about the Republican and the Democrat...?) but at anytime that you meet and compare opinions and ideas that's always a risk.

I have, since starting writing for Lit earlier this year (despite being a member since 2019) have learned some valuable lessons that I have been able to apply in "Non-Lit" writing so, in retrospect, this arrangement we have here is an extremely helpful and positive environment.

That's my honest opinion in a nutshell.
Respectfully,
D.