The BDSM board scares me.

[TWB]

I dunno what it is, but it just seems mean. All of these rules, who does what, who can't yadayadayada.

I click to get on the general board and miss by one, and there I am, in the dark basement of lit. It kinda freaks me out. It is not the idea of bondage, pain/sex or domination/submission. It is just the mood of the place.

Does anyone else have this reaction?

Just to be clear, I am not making any nasty comment about the lifestyle.

 

[VeryBadGirl]

I know what you mean - I lurk there from time to time, not daring to post. There's a lot of interesting info there, but it's definitely a different mood.

Now, TWB, I don't remember saying you could go over there. Just what are we going to do about that?

 

[sexy-girl]

i like it ... infact i haven't looked over there since i've been back so maybe i should

you're right in that its different to the general board but its meant to be ... but the folks over there are very helpful and welcoming to people even not in their lifestyle ... im not into bondage but i do enjoy posting sometimes and reading the stuff over there just because i enjoy the intellectual sexual vibe of that section of lit and they are all very nice to me ... i know there is quite a few people who aren't into the lifestyle that post there more than me and enjoy that section of lit

its not meant to be fluffy over there ... a lot of the posters that post over there post on the GB also so they can get there fluff kicks from here

 

[TWB]

I know what you mean - I lurk there from time to time, not daring to post. There's a lot of interesting info there, but it's definitely a different mood.

Now, TWB, I don't remember saying you could go over there. Just what are we going to do about that?

If you spank me, please do it here.

 

[lovetoread]

We are not scary.

Honest.

 

[DéjàNu]

if BDSM interest you that much we can make a thread specialy for you!!! we sure would have fun to try all kind of things on you

 

[morninggirl5]

i like it ... infact i haven't looked over there since i've been back so maybe i should

you're right in that its different to the general board but its meant to be ... but the folks over there are very helpful and welcoming to people even not in their lifestyle ... im not into bondage but i do enjoy posting sometimes and reading the stuff over there just because i enjoy the intellectual sexual vibe of that section of lit and they are all very nice to me ... i know there is quite a few people who aren't into the lifestyle that post there more than me and enjoy that section of lit

its not meant to be fluffy over there ... a lot of the posters that post over there post on the GB also so they can get there fluff kicks from here

sexy-girl, it's not the same board it was before you left.


The "intellectual sexual vibe" is completely gone.


All good things must end, it seems.

 

[VeryBadGirl]

If you spank me, please do it here.

I see that you're ready. At least you got THAT part right.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[sexy-girl]

sexy-girl, it's not the same board it was before you left.


The "intellectual sexual vibe" is completely gone.


All good things must end, it seems.

i just checked it out now ... kind of depressing in a big way ... not saying that its all bad as i haven't read enough posts but what i've seen isn't the same and there seems a big hole missing because of someone not being there

bratcat it wasn't all about rules on there ... they did try and keep some rules and they closed some threads because they wanted to stop it becoming to much like the general board

 

[Guest]

I dunno what it is, but it just seems mean. All of these rules, who does what, who can't yadayadayada.

I click to get on the general board and miss by one, and there I am, in the dark basement of lit. It kinda freaks me out. It is not the idea of bondage, pain/sex or domination/submission. It is just the mood of the place.

Does anyone else have this reaction?

Just to be clear, I am not making any nasty comment about the lifestyle.

________

I confess, I used to be afraid at one time also.

But...

I would say, many on the BDSM are very focused. The rules are a fact of life between Dom and sub--it is hard to relate to that sometimes, especially for us 'vanilla-types' on the free-for-all GB here, LOL.

The moderators, also, tend to 'moderate' a little more--thread subjects must fit into, well, the culture.

Yeah, there are rules for them... to live by!

But I think it's fun to lurk (and occasionally participate). I believe there are some threads and posts, if you look 'hard' enough, that demonstrate deep passion about the culture(s), people and their partners. It is those that I find particularly interesting and intiguing.

 

[lavender]

 

[sunstruck]

I click to get on the general board and miss by one, and there I am, in the dark basement of lit.

LOL, that happened to me once. I wasn't scared, but I remember wondering what the hell had happened to all the thread titles. lol

 

[sexy-girl]

i agree with lavender in saying the tone of that section of literotica has nothing to do with the actual aspects of BDSM

they tried to create a section of literotica that was nothing like any other section of literotica but with people that post on all other sections of literotica ... to do that it needed guidance otherwise it never would of happened

for most of the time they did it ... and i think amazing credit should goto cymbidia risiaskye and writerdom for that

i guess right now its in a transition period and i dont know what will happen to that section of literotica maybe it will flower into something just as good or even more amazing than before


what i loved best about that section was hearing from people that knew what they were talking about and weren't just playing an online game ... maybe it will be a mixture of both now

 

[morninggirl5]

Lavender and sexy-girl, you both made some very good points.

There are more than a few holes in the fabric of what once was the BDSM board.


For anyone reading here who is interested in BDSM the reality, use this link to find some good info http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=73517 I'm sure you could PM one of the original contributors to the thread and they'll direct you to more info or try to answer your questions.

 

[J.B.]

its not meant to be fluffy over there ... a lot of the posters that post over there post on the GB also so they can get there fluff kicks from here

*cough*

 

[Never]

1. It isn't the dark basement of Lit. That's the Playground.

2. I've posted to the BDSM board since its inception and never gotten in trouble of any sort. They’re generally a very flexible and forgiving bunch as long as you remain polite.

3. Being afraid of the BDSM board is just a tad... silly. Isn’t it?

 

[modest mouse]

The BDSM board has sucked from day one. It was constricted by its mods and those who frequented it and never developed.

Threads were erased, posts were deleted; all in the name of maintaining some imposed sense of decency. It was juvenile and unexpectedly weak.

Both Cym and Risia are respected by myself but proved to be terrible mods. overly sensitive and far too willing to bend what is generally considered a mostly hands-off rule of the mods in other forums and other boards. I, persoanlly, didnt think they separated themselves from their mod duties.

WriterDom has never been a freind of mine but he did seem to try initially but was forced out. For some good reasons and general apathy somehow mixed with a leaning towards unnecessary conflict.

The mods are in no way entirely responsible for the crappiness of that forum but have played some part in its current and past incarnation.

Before the separate forum much info was kicked around Lit and a regular group seemed to respond to those with questions. A sense of decency was usually the case.

BDSM got its own little place. Thats cool. It tanked and exists as some dead ship in a tumultuous ocean.

Yes, maybe I am too harsh. Think what you may but its my take on the thing.

I wouldnt much care except it sets a precedent for what could be a 'homosexual', 'incest', 'sex interest of your choice' forum. It has a negative impact on the development or possibility of other focused forums.

 

[sexy-girl]

*cough*

lol i wasn't saying there is anything bad with fluff ... i post as much fluff as anyone if not more


MM i get what you're saying but the BDSM forum was always going to need a lot more moderating than most other forums because of what they wanted it to be ... and by they i mean the posters that were posting there ... not just the mods

i guess its a matter of taste and choice if you agree with what they wanted it to be or not

 

[TWB]

1. It isn't the dark basement of Lit. That's the Playground.

Um, you may be right, but I think of the Playground as being ultra fluff, but many people have unvented dryers in their basement, and so maybe it is the same thing.

2. I've posted to the BDSM board since its inception and never gotten in trouble of any sort. They’re generally a very flexible and forgiving bunch as long as you remain polite.

I am glad for you.

3. Being afraid of the BDSM board is just a tad... silly. Isn’t it?

Yes. It was a bit tongue in cheek, as was my "basement" description.

 

[TWB]

Let's get this straight - the mood of the BDSM board has absolutely nothing, and I mean nothing to do with the lifestyle. Bratcat's ridiculous and vindictive comment that it's because BDSM is all about rules is uneducated, reactionary and inaccurate.

The BDSM board is going through a stage. Many of the regular posters are not around anymore. In my opinion, the board has been overrun with many people who are not truly experienced in the lifestyle or the sexual preference and who are experimenting online, away from real life. I also believe problems have arisen as we have individuals with notions about BDSM that are very different from the notions that I have, not only of BDSM play but also of the lifestyle.

Do not equate the tone of that board with the sexual aspect of BDSM or the lifestyle. If you cannot delineate the two then do not try to speak of BDSM in any type of educated manner.

Wasn't someone looking for a fight with you on another thread? I didn't think it was this one.

 

[Marxist]

The BDSM board has sucked from day one. It was constricted by its mods and those who frequented it and never developed.

Threads were erased, posts were deleted; all in the name of maintaining some imposed sense of decency. It was juvenile and unexpectedly weak.

Both Cym and Risia are respected by myself but proved to be terrible mods. overly sensitive and far too willing to bend what is generally considered a mostly hands-off rule of the mods in other forums and other boards. I, persoanlly, didnt think they separated themselves from their mod duties.

WriterDom has never been a freind of mine but he did seem to try initially but was forced out. For some good reasons and general apathy somehow mixed with a leaning towards unnecessary conflict.

The mods are in no way entirely responsible for the crappiness of that forum but have played some part in its current and past incarnation.

Before the separate forum much info was kicked around Lit and a regular group seemed to respond to those with questions. A sense of decency was usually the case.

BDSM got its own little place. Thats cool. It tanked and exists as some dead ship in a tumultuous ocean.

Yes, maybe I am too harsh. Think what you may but its my take on the thing.

I wouldnt much care except it sets a precedent for what could be a 'homosexual', 'incest', 'sex interest of your choice' forum. It has a negative impact on the development or possibility of other focused forums.

Mouse, I'd hug you if you weren't a fag.

Mo Ritmo!

And double-triple dittos on everything!

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[lovetoread]

Wasn't someone looking for a fight with you on another thread? I didn't think it was this one.

Were you being a bit snide there?