The Art of Getting Lit Laid

[Carmina24]

From the Desk of Mistress Mischief Maker

Currently drowning (gracefully, I hope) under a flood of responsibilities at work - the kind that keep me from causing my usual delightful chaos here.

But please know that I think of all my friends here with so much fondness.

May you find what you’re searching for -
whether it’s a spark of mischief,
a kindred spirit to share your words with,
a muse to awaken your imagination,
or simply a quiet corner where you feel seen.

I’ll still be popping in now and then -
and who knows, perhaps soon I’ll be flooding the thread again.

Until then, stay curious, stay kind, and keep your hearts a little mischievous.

Always here, even when quiet.
- Mistress Mischief Maker

 

[Carmina24]

Meanwhile, I do hope we make progress of our Climax University curriculum

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Meanwhile, I do hope we make progress of our Climax University curriculum

I think I will get the "She Comes first" e-book.

Probably will never get the chance to put it into action so that is why I haven't bought it already

 

[jacfox]

I think I will get the "She Comes first" e-book.

Probably will never get the chance to put it into action so that is why I haven't bought it already

Never say never!

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Not sure if I have posted this one before. Anyway if so here it is again lol
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Desire, mind on fire
Body aching and back arching
Toes curling sending signals deep
Into the ripples of your brain
Muscles tense, body parts super sensitive
Breathing quickening, losing control
Your body twitches, moans and squeals of delight pierce the air
The edge is breached
Surprising you ever time how good it feels to lose control to these primal urges
Body collapses in a heap a smile crosses your lips, tension has been freed worries forgotten

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Some lit relationships will inevitably go bad. Instead of ghosting I propose the following as a better way to handle those situations.

Instead of ghosting I propose this as a better way......
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"I will not initiate any more private conversations with you.

I however will always respond to any message you send my way, so the decision will be yours and yours alone if you do in fact want to have any private conversations with me in the future."

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[jacfox]

Some lit relationships will inevitably go bad. Instead of ghosting I propose the following as a better way to handle those situations.

Instead of ghosting I propose this as a better way......
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"I will not initiate any more private conversations with you.

I however will always respond to any message you send my way, so the decision will be yours and yours alone if you do in fact want to have any private conversations with me in the future."

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That's an interesting inversion of some of the Youtube stuff Carmina posted the other day, where the guy suggested that when you're ghosted a postive way to prevent that being a way of being controlled is to say something like 'I'm not going to chase you. If you want/when you're ready to talk, I'll answer when you do'. I guess some will ghost because they don't like confrontation, not always because they seek control or to punish, but your suggestion is a good way to approach either being ghosted, or cooling something off instead of being a ghoster.

 

[jacfox]

At the risk of sounding far too serious, maybe the first unit in the Climax Unlimited University curriculum should be, 'Use Your Words'

 

[The_Quiet_Man]

From the Desk of Mistress Mischief Maker

Currently drowning (gracefully, I hope) under a flood of responsibilities at work - the kind that keep me from causing my usual delightful chaos here.

But please know that I think of all my friends here with so much fondness.

May you find what you’re searching for -
whether it’s a spark of mischief,
a kindred spirit to share your words with,
a muse to awaken your imagination,
or simply a quiet corner where you feel seen.

I’ll still be popping in now and then -
and who knows, perhaps soon I’ll be flooding the thread again.

Until then, stay curious, stay kind, and keep your hearts a little mischievous.

Always here, even when quiet.
- Mistress Mischief Maker

I hope all is going well at work! Come back soon, though!

 

[Carmina24]

I hope all is going well at work! Come back soon, though!

I'm always here...just a bit quiet. Don't worry, I create a storm soon lol

 

[subdudeme13]

I'm always here...just a bit quiet. Don't worry, I create a storm soon lol

Priorities!

 

[Carmina24]

Buried (but still thinking of you all)

Somewhere beneath a mountain of deadlines, emails, and coffee cups…
I’m buried - but not gone.

Even under all the work, my thoughts wander to this little corner of Lit and the friends who make it glow.

Wherever you are, may your day be filled with laughter, mischief, and just the right amount of chaos to keep things interesting.

I’ll be popping in when I can - until then, know that you’re thought of fondly, and missed dearly.

- Mistress Mischief Maker

 

[jacfox]

Talking of mischief...

With Halloween raising its delightful mischievous head in three weeks, does anyone have spooky tales of sexual misdemeanors and adventures, either IRL or here on Lit? I've nothing to offer from my own experience, but I bet some of you out there have something to share and set the shivers a-tingle...

 

[Hornymwtxn]

While modern technology is great and all what if anything do you wish modern technology hasn’t eliminated?

With all the security cameras and ringbell cameras being so common nowadays I regret that I can't gather up some dog poop in a brown paper bag, place that on a specific neighbor's porch, light that bag on fire, ring the doorbell, and run off.

It's just a nonsexual fantasy I have. Both the prank and actually being able to run.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Talking of mischief...

With Halloween raising its delightful mischievous head in three weeks, does anyone have spooky tales of sexual misdemeanors and adventures, either IRL or here on Lit? I've nothing to offer from my own experience, but I bet some of you out there have something to share and set the shivers a-tingle...

I've got nothing either but I wouldn't object to some gals dressing up like Elvira and sharing their selfies.

 

[Carmina24]

Hi guys, just popped in to say hello, and to ask a question. Have you ever been ghosted? How did you handle it? The first days seem to be the hardest, aren't they?

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Hi guys, just popped in to say hello, and to ask a question. Have you ever been ghosted? How did you handle it? The first days seem to be the hardest, aren't they?

I have, well more me just thinking I was being ghosted.

A lot of the time life and things just prevented them from responding in a timely matter.

They are likely thinking of you frequently, if not constantly, and just don't have the opportunity to converse.

Or they only have a minute or two and want to respond but want to have more than just a couple of responses so they put it off until they can devote more time

 

[Carmina24]

I have, well more me just thinking I was being ghosted.

A lot of the time life and things just prevented them from responding in a timely matter.

They are likely thinking of you frequently, if not constantly, and just don't have the opportunity to converse.

Or they only have a minute or two and want to respond but want to have more than just a couple of responses so they put it off until they can devote more time

Thank you @Hornymwtxn I certainly hope that is the case

 

[elizaloo]

I have, well more me just thinking I was being ghosted.

A lot of the time life and things just prevented them from responding in a timely matter.

They are likely thinking of you frequently, if not constantly, and just don't have the opportunity to converse.

Or they only have a minute or two and want to respond but want to have more than just a couple of responses so they put it off until they can devote more time

New to the thread, but I needed to see/hear these words today.

I'm unrelentingly impatient, and I jump to the most dramatic reason for silence too quickly - and it's usually unfounded.

I've been around the block more than a few times here in the last 20 years; camping friends, lunch meet-ups, chat buddies, lovers, FWBs and even a husband, but each new chat opens a potential door that I am tempted to rush through. I do need to slow down and savor the 'getting to know you' stage, even if it doesn't coalesce as quickly as I'd like. Time will show what is meant to be.

That said, I have been ghosted, and it's disheartening because I invest much of myself in a chat - I'm blunt and very open about who I am as I cannot be doxxed. My whole life is on Lit and everyone I know - knows I write erotica and have a non-monogamous marriage. I'm particular about who I choose to chat with and approach each as a potential opportunity....and then to be abruptly dropped, blocked..what have you, can be traumatic. Unfortunately, it never does get easier to be cast aside, even in a silly online fLITation.

 

[jacfox]

New to the thread, but I needed to see/hear these words today.

I'm unrelentingly impatient, and I jump to the most dramatic reason for silence too quickly - and it's usually unfounded.

I've been around the block more than a few times here in the last 20 years; camping friends, lunch meet-ups, chat buddies, lovers, FWBs and even a husband, but each new chat opens a potential door that I am tempted to rush through. I do need to slow down and savor the 'getting to know you' stage, even if it doesn't coalesce as quickly as I'd like. Time will show what is meant to be.

That said, I have been ghosted, and it's disheartening because I invest much of myself in a chat - I'm blunt and very open about who I am as I cannot be doxxed. My whole life is on Lit and everyone I know - knows I write erotica and have a non-monogamous marriage. I'm particular about who I choose to chat with and approach each as a potential opportunity....and then to be abruptly dropped, blocked..what have you, can be traumatic. Unfortunately, it never does get easier to be cast aside, even in a silly online fLITation.

I can understand all those feelings. When you wear your heart on your sleeve, or invest yourself heavily in anything, you need a lot of confidence in the other person to not be sensitive to any hint of being disregarded or taken lightly. And if you are dumped it must be gut wrenching. You'll always find a sympathetic/empathetic ear here!

With the odd poem thrown in

 

[Hornymwtxn]

New to the thread, but I needed to see/hear these words today.

I'm unrelentingly impatient, and I jump to the most dramatic reason for silence too quickly - and it's usually unfounded.

I've been around the block more than a few times here in the last 20 years; camping friends, lunch meet-ups, chat buddies, lovers, FWBs and even a husband, but each new chat opens a potential door that I am tempted to rush through. I do need to slow down and savor the 'getting to know you' stage, even if it doesn't coalesce as quickly as I'd like. Time will show what is meant to be.

That said, I have been ghosted, and it's disheartening because I invest much of myself in a chat - I'm blunt and very open about who I am as I cannot be doxxed. My whole life is on Lit and everyone I know - knows I write erotica and have a non-monogamous marriage. I'm particular about who I choose to chat with and approach each as a potential opportunity....and then to be abruptly dropped, blocked..what have you, can be traumatic. Unfortunately, it never does get easier to be cast aside, even in a silly online fLITation.

Welcome to the thread! Hope you stick around!

I am really impatient as well and I am retired and have too much time on my hands so I know people have really busy lives but I still get impatient and jump to conclusions.

Sometimes even the most logical person can let their emotions override their logical self.

 

[Carmina24]

New to the thread, but I needed to see/hear these words today.

I'm unrelentingly impatient, and I jump to the most dramatic reason for silence too quickly - and it's usually unfounded.

I've been around the block more than a few times here in the last 20 years; camping friends, lunch meet-ups, chat buddies, lovers, FWBs and even a husband, but each new chat opens a potential door that I am tempted to rush through. I do need to slow down and savor the 'getting to know you' stage, even if it doesn't coalesce as quickly as I'd like. Time will show what is meant to be.

That said, I have been ghosted, and it's disheartening because I invest much of myself in a chat - I'm blunt and very open about who I am as I cannot be doxxed. My whole life is on Lit and everyone I know - knows I write erotica and have a non-monogamous marriage. I'm particular about who I choose to chat with and approach each as a potential opportunity....and then to be abruptly dropped, blocked..what have you, can be traumatic. Unfortunately, it never does get easier to be cast aside, even in a silly online fLITation.

I hear you...I feel you.
Indeed, to some people, it does seem easier to drop or block people they meet online. Or say they have to prioritize "real life." But are we not real, too? When the connection has reached a state when we have crossed that line of being real, when it is no longer superficial and the feelings run deep, then I become part of "real life" too.

 

[Carmina24]

Refresh

You tell yourself you’re fine.
You’ve said all you could, haven’t you?
You close the app,
swear you’ll stop checking.
You even set the phone face-down
like an act of surrender.

But then -
a whisper of hope flickers in your chest.
Maybe this time.
Maybe now.

So you open it again.
Refresh.
Wait.
Nothing.

Just the same stillness staring back,
a digital silence that somehow aches louder
than any words he could have said.

You start to wonder how long
a heart can hover between faith and giving up -
how many times it can hit refresh
before it stops expecting to be seen.

And still,
you do it again.
Because maybe -
just maybe -
the next time,
he’ll remember
you’re waiting.

 

[jason28053]

Refresh

You tell yourself you’re fine.
You’ve said all you could, haven’t you?
You close the app,
swear you’ll stop checking.
You even set the phone face-down
like an act of surrender.

But then -
a whisper of hope flickers in your chest.
Maybe this time.
Maybe now.

So you open it again.
Refresh.
Wait.
Nothing.

Just the same stillness staring back,
a digital silence that somehow aches louder
than any words he could have said.

You start to wonder how long
a heart can hover between faith and giving up -
how many times it can hit refresh
before it stops expecting to be seen.

And still,
you do it again.
Because maybe -
just maybe -
the next time,
he’ll remember
you’re waiting.

 

[elizaloo]

I hear you...I feel you.
Indeed, to some people, it does seem easier to drop or block people they meet online. Or say they have to prioritize "real life." But are we not real, too? When the connection has reached a state when we have crossed that line of being real, when it is no longer superficial and the feelings run deep, then I become part of "real life" too.

Thank you - you summed it up very well - we DO become part of their Real Life and deserve to be treated as such. Just because you won't run into me at the grocery store doesn't mean that I can be discarded inappropriately.

A simple 'Things have changed on my end, I appreciate the time we've spent together, but I have to bow out due to circumstances' is sufficient. I've had more than few life-changes myself, but unless you show yourself to be rude or inconsiderate, I would still be polite in ending things. Ghosting is never appropriate, most especially when feelings have been discussed.