The Art of Getting Lit Laid

[Hornymwtxn]

Myself and Carmina24 have been brainstorming about starting a thread where everyone can share ideas with each other and this is what we have come up with.

This is not intended as a how‐to guide used as a formulaic way to make a meaningful online friendship but as a place to share what has worked, what to avoid, how to start, with input from everyone that has had success or desires a meaningful passionate online romance.

Thread Intent
This space is for Lit members to share how their most meaningful online connections began—those first moments that grew into something real. Whether it was a clever opening line, a shared interest, or an unexpected spark in conversation, your experiences could inspire others who are here but struggling to find that same connection.

By sharing the best ways your own online relationships started, we can help fellow members see what works, what matters, and how to move from polite exchanges to genuine chemistry. The goal is simple: to turn chance encounters into lasting bonds, and to make Lit a place where more people find the passion and partnership they’re hoping for.

Addendum:
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We don’t claim to know more than anyone here. We just want to share what’s worked for us, what hasn’t, and all the adventures in between.

This is a space for swapping stories, comparing notes, and maybe laughing over the lessons we had to learn the hard way. We’re all here for the same reason — to connect, to learn, and maybe to turn a spark into something worth keeping.
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[Carmina24]

The Real Game

Gentlemen, come closer.
I’ll tell you a secret - though I’m not sure I should.

It’s not your body I want at first.
It’s your presence.
Your voice in the morning, your words at night.
The way you slip into my day until I can’t remember when you weren’t there.

We trade stories.
We laugh in the spaces between them.
We build a secret language only we can speak.
And then… you stop chasing.

That’s when I notice.
That’s when I want.

By the time I see the rest of you, it’s not curiosity - it’s hunger.
A slow-burn inferno that’s been building for days, weeks…
and when it breaks, it’s beautiful, ruinous, unforgettable.

Ladies - is it just me?

Men - here’s your lesson:
Woo her, but don’t rush her. Let the story write itself instead of skipping to the last page.
Be present in the small ways: the morning check-in, the shared joke, the question you actually listen to the answer of.
Make her feel seen, not just looked at.
Take your time as if you know the ending will be worth the wait.
Because it will be.
Slow is not passive - slow is deliberate.
It’s the difference between a match that flares and dies… and a fire that burns until she can’t sleep without its heat.
Don’t just want her body - earn her trust, her laughter, her anticipation.
And when she finally asks for more, it will be because she’s starving for you.

That’s the real game.

 

[softbird]

The Real Game

Gentlemen, come closer.
I’ll tell you a secret - though I’m not sure I should.

It’s not your body I want at first.
It’s your presence.
Your voice in the morning, your words at night.
The way you slip into my day until I can’t remember when you weren’t there.

We trade stories.
We laugh in the spaces between them.
We build a secret language only we can speak.
And then… you stop chasing.

That’s when I notice.
That’s when I want.

By the time I see the rest of you, it’s not curiosity - it’s hunger.
A slow-burn inferno that’s been building for days, weeks…
and when it breaks, it’s beautiful, ruinous, unforgettable.

Ladies - is it just me?

Men - here’s your lesson:
Woo her, but don’t rush her. Let the story write itself instead of skipping to the last page.
Be present in the small ways: the morning check-in, the shared joke, the question you actually listen to the answer of.
Make her feel seen, not just looked at.
Take your time as if you know the ending will be worth the wait.
Because it will be.
Slow is not passive - slow is deliberate.
It’s the difference between a match that flares and dies… and a fire that burns until she can’t sleep without its heat.
Don’t just want her body - earn her trust, her laughter, her anticipation.
And when she finally asks for more, it will be because she’s starving for you.

That’s the real game.

Finally.. boys.. please listen.. read, and read again

 

[Hornymwtxn]

The Real Game

Gentlemen, come closer.
I’ll tell you a secret - though I’m not sure I should.

It’s not your body I want at first.
It’s your presence.
Your voice in the morning, your words at night.
The way you slip into my day until I can’t remember when you weren’t there.

We trade stories.
We laugh in the spaces between them.
We build a secret language only we can speak.
And then… you stop chasing.

That’s when I notice.
That’s when I want.

By the time I see the rest of you, it’s not curiosity - it’s hunger.
A slow-burn inferno that’s been building for days, weeks…
and when it breaks, it’s beautiful, ruinous, unforgettable.

Ladies - is it just me?

Men - here’s your lesson:
Woo her, but don’t rush her. Let the story write itself instead of skipping to the last page.
Be present in the small ways: the morning check-in, the shared joke, the question you actually listen to the answer of.
Make her feel seen, not just looked at.
Take your time as if you know the ending will be worth the wait.
Because it will be.
Slow is not passive - slow is deliberate.
It’s the difference between a match that flares and dies… and a fire that burns until she can’t sleep without its heat.
Don’t just want her body - earn her trust, her laughter, her anticipation.
And when she finally asks for more, it will be because she’s starving for you.

That’s the real game.

Wise words Carmina!

I love how you take simple truths and meld them with passion much the same way musicians and songwriters create magic!

Looking forward to reading all the comments and viewpoints in this thread!

 

[MindYaBitness]

And when she finally asks for more, it will be because she’s starving for you.

That’s the real game.

It's the patience it takes for a man to let you get to that point, that is a rare thing. By the time I'm asking for a pic from you, my body is in flames

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I have a love of music and just sharing links to my favorite songs with others has had great success for me.

 

[Matt7195]

Worth the time to build the anticipation. Love the feeling of building to the point of desire.

 

[softbird]

I think there is a seduction that only the well chosen word can achieve. The spaces in between each message is where desire is forged. So, the words you send off must have some kind of resonance..words must ferment, brew, simmer…

 

[Matt7195]

I think there is a seduction that only the well chosen word can achieve. The spaces in between each message is where desire is forged. So, the words you send off must have some kind of resonance..words must ferment, brew, simmer…

Definitely the best when the anticipation of what may come next makes the heart leap and your body feel warm, knowing more is on the way. Crafting each scene, each touch, each feeling as if your souls are connecting.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I will share something, a failure that I didn't know was a failure.

I consider myself an easy going guy and always asked permission before sharing pics.

But it was pointed out to me that the mere asking for that permission changes the direction and dynamic of the conversation and the other person feels pressured to say yes to the sharing just to be nice and not hurt your feelings.

Lesson learned: don't ask for permission in due time they will ask!

 

[softbird]

I will share something, a failure that I didn't know was a failure.

I consider myself an easy going guy and always asked permission before sharing pics.

But it was pointed out to me that the mere asking for that permission changes the direction and dynamic of the conversation and the other person feels pressured to say yes to the sharing just to be nice and not hurt your feelings.

Lesson learned: don't ask for permission in due time they will ask!

Yes!!!

 

[Glamguy7]

The Real Game

Gentlemen, come closer.
I’ll tell you a secret - though I’m not sure I should.

It’s not your body I want at first.
It’s your presence.
Your voice in the morning, your words at night.
The way you slip into my day until I can’t remember when you weren’t there.

We trade stories.
We laugh in the spaces between them.
We build a secret language only we can speak.
And then… you stop chasing.

That’s when I notice.
That’s when I want.

By the time I see the rest of you, it’s not curiosity - it’s hunger.
A slow-burn inferno that’s been building for days, weeks…
and when it breaks, it’s beautiful, ruinous, unforgettable.

Ladies - is it just me?

Men - here’s your lesson:
Woo her, but don’t rush her. Let the story write itself instead of skipping to the last page.
Be present in the small ways: the morning check-in, the shared joke, the question you actually listen to the answer of.
Make her feel seen, not just looked at.
Take your time as if you know the ending will be worth the wait.
Because it will be.
Slow is not passive - slow is deliberate.
It’s the difference between a match that flares and dies… and a fire that burns until she can’t sleep without its heat.
Don’t just want her body - earn her trust, her laughter, her anticipation.
And when she finally asks for more, it will be because she’s starving for you.

That’s the real game.

Authenticity matters! Knowing yourself is critical, being at comfort with yourself is important. Following a "formula" with an intention to finding a partner in the least time possible, is often a losing project. Contrary to what well meaning "Dating experts" preach, it is not a "GAME" - at the end of the day it is two humans connecting - so both the light-merry-happy-naughty & shadow aspects will come to play - having an open mind is critical.

Don't be too fast to judge, but put yourself in the other person's shoes, this allows you to connect in ways no other "book" or "Guru" will teach you. Don't start with an "end goal" in mind, explore and enjoy the journey...be a good listener first, that is when the other person starts opening up. When he or she does that, respect and value the process. Not every man or woman you connect with, will match and that is ok. Take it as a learning process. In today's hyperconnected world with the hordes of social media and community spaces, people are getting more lonelier than ever. Have you ever pondered -Why??

Bring tenderness to the mix, laugh a bit, share in somebody's pain a bit, lend a supporting hand, catch a glimpse of something about the other person, nobody else had and express that to them, give the other person a reason to smile and feel good about themselves. That is where the true magic happens! Don't focus just on the short term gains, but give precedence to the "value" you can bring to the mix. You will be surprised at what you will find. Far too many hearts are aching in today's world - It is not the "Orgasm" or "Excitement" that people truly look for - at the core it is the deeper yearning to be "Seen", "Accepted", "Valued", "Loved" and "Treasured". Do that and you will attract too many people than you can handle...!! This has been my learning, which I extend to all others here. Take it slow, remember the humble turtle. Be Human! And Humanity will remember you. That is a promise!!

 

[Carmina24]

Authenticity matters! Knowing yourself is critical, being at comfort with yourself is important. Following a "formula" with an intention to finding a partner in the least time possible, is often a losing project. Contrary to what well meaning "Dating experts" preach, it is not a "GAME" - at the end of the day it is two humans connecting - so both the light-merry-happy-naughty & shadow aspects will come to play - having an open mind is critical.

Don't be too fast to judge, but put yourself in the other person's shoes, this allows you to connect in ways no other "book" or "Guru" will teach you. Don't start with an "end goal" in mind, explore and enjoy the journey...be a good listener first, that is when the other person starts opening up. When he or she does that, respect and value the process. Not every man or woman you connect with, will match and that is ok. Take it as a learning process. In today's hyperconnected world with the hordes of social media and community spaces, people are getting more lonelier than ever. Have you ever pondered -Why??

Bring tenderness to the mix, laugh a bit, share in somebody's pain a bit, lend a supporting hand, catch a glimpse of something about the other person, nobody else had and express that to them, give the other person a reason to smile and feel good about themselves. That is where the true magic happens! Don't focus just on the short term gains, but give precedence to the "value" you can bring to the mix. You will be surprised at what you will find. Far too many hearts are aching in today's world - It is not the "Orgasm" or "Excitement" that people truly look for - at the core it is the deeper yearning to be "Seen", "Accepted", "Valued", "Loved" and "Treasured". Do that and you will attract too many people that you can handle...!! This has been my learning, which I extend to all others here. Take it slow, remember the humble turtle. Be Human! And Humanity will remember you. That is a promise!!

Appreciate your thoughts, thank you for sharing! You will find in my post that "game" is much more than the word implies.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Authenticity matters! Knowing yourself is critical, being at comfort with yourself is important. Following a "formula" with an intention to finding a partner in the least time possible, is often a losing project. Contrary to what well meaning "Dating experts" preach, it is not a "GAME" - at the end of the day it is two humans connecting - so both the light-merry-happy-naughty & shadow aspects will come to play - having an open mind is critical.

Don't be too fast to judge, but put yourself in the other person's shoes, this allows you to connect in ways no other "book" or "Guru" will teach you. Don't start with an "end goal" in mind, explore and enjoy the journey...be a good listener first, that is when the other person starts opening up. When he or she does that, respect and value the process. Not every man or woman you connect with, will match and that is ok. Take it as a learning process. In today's hyperconnected world with the hordes of social media and community spaces, people are getting more lonelier than ever. Have you ever pondered -Why??

Bring tenderness to the mix, laugh a bit, share in somebody's pain a bit, lend a supporting hand, catch a glimpse of something about the other person, nobody else had and express that to them, give the other person a reason to smile and feel good about themselves. That is where the true magic happens! Don't focus just on the short term gains, but give precedence to the "value" you can bring to the mix. You will be surprised at what you will find. Far too many hearts are aching in today's world - It is not the "Orgasm" or "Excitement" that people truly look for - at the core it is the deeper yearning to be "Seen", "Accepted", "Valued", "Loved" and "Treasured". Do that and you will attract too many people that you can handle...!! This has been my learning, which I extend to all others here. Take it slow, remember the humble turtle. Be Human! And Humanity will remember you. That is a promise!!

Awesome post glamguy! So many things you speak of has been my learning curve too.

Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

The thing that has been so difficult for me is to not focus on the destination and just enjoying the ride.

 

[fullservice65]

What works for me? Being genuine -- and not mentioning that I just got out of prison.

 

[Carmina24]

What works for me? Being genuine -- and not mentioning that I just got out of prison.

You’re right - being genuine matters most, and sometimes that means choosing when and how to share certain things. Everyone has chapters they’re not proud of, but those chapters don’t erase the rest of who you are.

The right person will want to know the whole story eventually - but letting them see your best, truest self first gives the connection a chance to grow strong enough to hold it.

 

[fullservice65]

You’re right - being genuine matters most, and sometimes that means choosing when and how to share certain things. Everyone has chapters they’re not proud of, but those chapters don’t erase the rest of who you are.

The right person will want to know the whole story eventually - but letting them see your best, truest self first gives the connection a chance to grow strong enough to hold it.

I hope so. I'm aching to tell the whole story of how I had to leave the country. After running guns in Spain, they were sure to know my background and arrest me. So I fled to northern Africa. If only Ilsa had come with me, things may have turned out differently. But, you know, the problems of three people don't amount to a hill of beans in this world.

 

[Carmina24]

Myself and Carmina24 have been brainstorming about starting a thread where everyone can share ideas with each other and this is what we have come up with.

This is not intended as a how‐to guide used as a formulaic way to make a meaningful online friendship but as a place to share what has worked, what to avoid, how to start, with input from everyone that has had success or desires a meaningful passionate online romance.

Thread Intent
This space is for Lit members to share how their most meaningful online connections began—those first moments that grew into something real. Whether it was a clever opening line, a shared interest, or an unexpected spark in conversation, your experiences could inspire others who are here but struggling to find that same connection.

By sharing the best ways your own online relationships started, we can help fellow members see what works, what matters, and how to move from polite exchanges to genuine chemistry. The goal is simple: to turn chance encounters into lasting bonds, and to make Lit a place where more people find the passion and partnership they’re hoping for.

We don’t claim to know more than anyone here. We just want to share what’s worked for us, what hasn’t, and all the adventures in between.

This is a space for swapping stories, comparing notes, and maybe laughing over the lessons we had to learn the hard way. We’re all here for the same reason — to connect, to learn, and maybe to turn a spark into something worth keeping.

 

[firefox27eros]

Most importantly, if you want to connect with someone/someones here, at least give them the opportunity to connect with you!

In other words, read the profile of the person you like, read many profiles carefully and see who they are, what they like and don't like how can you connect with them!

The next step - quite a lot of women's profiles include this clause, so that you have a profile with at least the most important things and interests you want to share or that ones can be useful for someone who tries to connect with you!

If there's a thread you want to comment on, do so, if someone has posted or shared something nice or useful, don't be sorry to let them know and don't be shy to react on it!

And yes, maybe someone will find you or reply to your message based on it!

It happened to me and I am very grateful that she found me!

Have a lovely day all of you!

 

[Carmina24]

Most importantly, if you want to connect with someone/someones here, at least give them the opportunity to connect with you!

In other words, read the profile of the person you like, read many profiles carefully and see who they are, what they like and don't like how can you connect with them!

The next step - quite a lot of women's profiles include this clause, so that you have a profile with at least the most important things and interests you want to share or that ones can be useful for someone who tries to connect with you!

If there's a thread you want to comment on, do so, if someone has posted or shared something nice or useful, don't be sorry to let them know and don't be shy to react on it!

And yes, maybe someone will find you or reply to your message based on it!

It happened to me and I am very grateful that she found me!

Have a lovely day all of you!

I love this - you’re absolutely right that connection starts with showing up.
Reading someone’s profile, finding those little sparks of common ground, and actually responding when something moves you - it’s such a simple thing, but it changes everything.

I’ve found that the magic often happens in those small gestures… a thoughtful comment, a genuine reaction, even a quick hello that shows you’ve taken the time to see the person.

Thank you for sharing your story - proof that when we put ourselves out there, we make it possible for the right person to find us too.

 

[firefox27eros]

I’ve found that the magic often happens in those small gestures… a thoughtful comment, a genuine reaction, even a quick hello that shows you’ve taken the time to see the person.

Thank you for sharing your story - proof that when we put ourselves out there,

Thank you for your kind and wise words, @Carmina24 .

we make it possible for the right person to find us too.

Yes, I absolutely agree with you and this is the law of attraction and this is why I encourage ladies to react on what they really like and also draw their boundaries as well and in this case maybe they will attract the right person as well!

 

[Cm_gogo]

Thank you for this thread, very insightfull.. One question, are all woman the same? Some might just want a quick roleplay and not interested in small talk...

 

[BDA73]

Like in real life. There is not right way for all connections..but what I will say is to be yourself. Defiantley varies by person..on one hand it could be a simple hello or thank you..another its about a recent trip...some ventured from a community thread with a question..

Understanding who or what the other person reading your messages wants is key.

 

[Carmina24]

Thank you for your kind and wise words, @Carmina24 .

Yes, I absolutely agree with you and this is the law of attraction and this is why I encourage ladies to react on what they really like and also draw their boundaries as well and in this case maybe they will attract the right person as well!

Yes! Attraction isn’t just about chemistry, it’s about clarity.
Knowing what draws you in, showing it openly, and holding your boundaries… that’s when the real magic happens.
It’s how we recognize each other — like a signal only the right person can see.

 

[Carmina24]

Thank you for this thread, very insightfull.. One question, are all woman the same? Some might just want a quick roleplay and not interested in small talk...

Not quite - I think that’s the beauty of this space.
We’re all coming from different angles, experiences, and styles, and that’s what makes the conversations here so rich.
Everyone’s welcome to chime in, whether they see it the same way or not - that mix is what keeps it interesting.