the Affair

[CorsetLvr]

Actually, I reacted to the other lady's remarks. But thanks for clearing that up. You're worried about double standards. Aren't we all, or we should be. Humanity has an awful track record on the issue of equity (fairness for most people). We foolish mortals tend to think of ourselves first. Comes from our earlier stages of evolution. Hopefully, more people shall evolve to accept that the law for man should be the law for woman and vice versa. Otherwise, to quote Malcolm McDowell from "Caligula", "Mother Isis won't be pleased."

Again, I have nothing against 3-sums. My comment was more based on the simple fact that most men have unreasonable expectation about 3-sums. They expect to be the center of attention. The reality of that is that very few men are able to keep up with two aroused women. A real 3-sum is not a scene from a porno movie. There are no "cuts" and no fluffers. Sometimes two women want some time to theirselves and not have a man trying to dive into the middle of everything that is happening. An experienced man knows that there are times to sit back and enjoy the action. The ladies will let him know when it is time to get involved.

In addition, if a man is constantly trying to force his partner into a 3-sum, she is just going to push back. Taking a more low key, supportive approach is going to usually be a lot more effective in getting where you want to be. This is a need that a bisexual person feels that has nothing to do with their relationship with a partner. Why does it have to be a situation where one person gets something and other has to get something in return. When was generosity and support of your partner based on getting payment in kind? If I give my partner a massage does that mean that it unfair unless I get one in return? There is a name for receiving payment for sexual favors. I didn't think this was what we were talking about.

That was all I was trying to say.

 

[sirhugs]

Again, I have nothing against 3-sums. My comment was more based on the simple fact that most men have unreasonable expectation about 3-sums. They expect to be the center of attention. The reality of that is that very few men are able to keep up with two aroused women. A real 3-sum is not a scene from a porno movie. There are no "cuts" and no fluffers. Sometimes two women want some time to theirselves and not have a man trying to dive into the middle of everything that is happening. An experienced man knows that there are times to sit back and enjoy the action. The ladies will let him know when it is time to get involved.

In addition, if a man is constantly trying to force his partner into a 3-sum, she is just going to push back. Taking a more low key, supportive approach is going to usually be a lot more effective in getting where you want to be. This is a need that a bisexual person feels that has nothing to do with their relationship with a partner. Why does it have to be a situation where one person gets something and other has to get something in return. When was generosity and support of your partner based on getting payment in kind? If I give my partner a massage does that mean that it unfair unless I get one in return? There is a name for receiving payment for sexual favors. I didn't think this was what we were talking about.

That was all I was trying to say.

actually, in MY dream threesome, i'd mostly wanna watch

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Again, I have nothing against 3-sums. My comment was more based on the simple fact that most men have unreasonable expectation about 3-sums. They expect to be the center of attention. The reality of that is that very few men are able to keep up with two aroused women. A real 3-sum is not a scene from a porno movie. There are no "cuts" and no fluffers. Sometimes two women want some time to theirselves and not have a man trying to dive into the middle of everything that is happening. An experienced man knows that there are times to sit back and enjoy the action. The ladies will let him know when it is time to get involved.

In addition, if a man is constantly trying to force his partner into a 3-sum, she is just going to push back. Taking a more low key, supportive approach is going to usually be a lot more effective in getting where you want to be. This is a need that a bisexual person feels that has nothing to do with their relationship with a partner. Why does it have to be a situation where one person gets something and other has to get something in return. When was generosity and support of your partner based on getting payment in kind? If I give my partner a massage does that mean that it unfair unless I get one in return? There is a name for receiving payment for sexual favors. I didn't think this was what we were talking about.

That was all I was trying to say.

I was simply addressing the question of whether or not the man is worried about having a double standard imposed on him. I think that is Chris's point as well. Again, if you don't want the guy involved, it would be wise to make it clear that it's not that you're trying to make him be monogamous when you're not. Just a bit of advice. I tend to differ on the something for nothing issue, but I understand your take on it.

The main thing is not the threesome or the requital, however. Whatever your view on that, you would presumably agree that you should specify that you're not expecting him to be "faithful" when you're not. Especially if he's not welcome to the threesome. He has needs too, and might want someone else to take care of that while you're with her. The need for variety is as valid as the need for a same-sex exploration. If I had sex with another man, for instance, and didn't want my girlfriend to join in (why I wouldn't, I can't imagine), I would try to encourage her to have sex with someone else while I'm busy. I wouldn't expect her to wait at home while I had my bi fun. Just putting the shoe on the other foot for an example.

I'm not accusing you of anything or trying to be mean. I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt, in fact.

 

[jeninflorida]

well it seems that Mr Anonymous has moved to email, so far have received five emails from him telling me how bad of a person i am for my last story!

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

well it seems that Mr Anonymous has moved to email, so far have received five emails from him telling me how bad of a person i am for my last story!

Ain't that typical? Seriously, don't let it phase you. I've read a few of your stories and you're pretty neat.