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[Lilianna23]

I met a woman once who turned up her nose at McDonald's (not like I blamed her).


"I'm picky about what I put in my body," she told me.


I met a couple of her exes.


No, she isn't . . . .

I don't like McDonalds. But I do like other things...

 

[Lilianna23]

I was thinking more along the lines of having Zacapa Rum and Remy 1738 Cognac at our get together.

Tipsy Jeopardy!

 

[Lilianna23]

I think I figured it out.... it's Gitmo, for Literotica members....

 

[Lilianna23]

Waterbed??

Now THAT'S a category I could get in to!

 

[Lilianna23]

Yes, they are. I get it.

Hi, Mitt!

 

[Lilianna23]

If there's one thing I've learned from Lit it's that honesty is THE most important thing. I mean, it is in general tbh. Especially for me since I find it difficult to read subtext and subterfuge (flirting frightens me ).

Case in point. I've been chatting with someone for the past 3 weeks. Never expected anything to happen, said so right from the start. But the conversation got hot and heavy to the point where, we, last Sunday were scheduled to meet and have some fun. Now she had said ahead of time that it might not happen for genuine reasons. Well of course that was the case, which is fair enough. She even felt guilty telling me, I reassured her it wasn't her fault, and she said she was still into it. Unequivocally.

Now, two days of strained chats later and I'm asking her if we can discuss another attempt. We both seemed into it. Apparently not. TBH I had felt that something changed from Sunday. The convo, as I said, was strained. You can tell, those of us who chat online, when things change: the replies are a little more formal, a little less frequent.

It's frustrating really. I had said all along she has every right, at any point, to back out and say no. But all last week she was telling me that she wanted to do stuff, had fantasised about it, showed me pics, even asked me for a pic (you know what I mean!), in fact the meeting was her idea. It was amazing; completely unexpected and wonderful. Ok it didn't happen; that's, crushingly, life, right?

I don't think the conversation can really continue at this point. A bit like trying to put the genie back in the bottle. She has every right to refuse to meet and change her mind, but the point I'm trying to make is that you need to be honest. Every step of the way. Or folk get hurt and misunderstand things. Now I feel like I'm the bad guy, and I don't want that. I told her how I feel, and she has not responded since. Well, ok, you don't have to respond to people. That's your right. But honestly, ghosting is never cool. It's sad how things turn out, but again, you've got to be honest. It's shitty to say this, feels a little sexist even, but I feel a bit lead on. I don't know if there's anything else that's in play here; she doesn't have to tell me, but I could sense from Sunday evening that things had changed. Earlier that day, she was saying, "hey write a story about all the things we're going to do to each other, it will be really sexy for me to read." I started but quickly stopped because it felt, without anything having happened and having the meeting cancelled, that it was too intense. I don't think I'll be continuing.

In the immortal words of Jeremiah Springer: take care of yourselves, and each other.

I'm sorry that has happened to you, Quim. Do you think, however, you might be giving this person more power over you than she should have? There are nice, decent people here. There are also scoundrels. Maybe try to let the bad ones just melt out of your life and be available for the good ones that will come along. Just a thought.

 

[Boat1]

How was your mom's surgery, Boat?

They say it went well, thanks!
They replaced the ball, along with a couple inches of the bone, as the socket appeared to be in good shape.

 

[Lilianna23]

When next I see you, I'ma gonna eat your sandwich.

Is that "code" for something???

 

[Boat1]

Round TWO??? How many rounds were there???

Three!
My signal was given me problems with posting the burger pic...

 

[Boat1]

How many are you feeding???

We have a six man crew.

 

[Boat1]

And I could bring desserts! Cherry cheesecake bars I made the other day! Shortbread crust, cheesecake, homemade cherry pie filling, shortbread crumble on top.

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OMG!!!
That's EXACTLY the type of thing I was referring to when I said "This group could throw one helluva potluck! "

 

[nipplecaresser]

When next I see you, I'ma gonna eat your sandwich.

Is this one of those 'murrican euphemisms? Like 'eating cake?'

 

[Lilianna23]

Thank you MissK. She has her heart procedure in July and the hysterectomy in late August. She’s got a busy summer and I get the feeling I will also! .

Least I could do!

That's a lot of procedures in a short amount of time, H!

 

[Lilianna23]

Fingers crossed that doubling one of my meds will help because 2 month of steroids didn’t do it.
And I can’t get the next scan for a month, so we are just winging it!

I do hope that works for you. Have you tried it before? Be careful.

 

[Quimpossibility]

Sucks dude.

I might be coming at this from a different perspective, so take this with a grain of salt as they say. I went to a university where men out numbered women 3 or 4 to 1. That's probably easily the case here as well.

Oh for sure. It must be!

What I see here very often reminds me of interactions during my university days. I may be somewhat jaded in this respect, so again this is just my perspective.

I agree. It gets a little cringeworthy. If i'm honest.

When men outnumber women it gives the women a lot of potential choices. My guess is you are probably going to run into a fair bit of the sort of stuff you describe here. If are looking for something more serious than just some flirty entertainment, it may take a lot of time to meet those people. Don't forget, for many here that on line flirting may be all they're looking for.

Well the convo evolved unexpectedly. I never ever anticipated anything. It started quite inoccuously about a forum technical thing actually.

My advice is to just accept this for what it is, and enjoy it anyway. You can be aware of the potential outcomes, and choose not worry if things don't work out.

I did but the convo has become strained and that never implies a positive outcome. Think i'd rather walk away with good vibes than continue an awkward online chat.

Look, it's cool. It happens. Lit is a place primarily of fantasies, I think.

There are a lot of good people here. Sometimes it's just hard to connect with them. Hang in there!

I don't think she's a bad person, but I do think people ought be open with thoughts/feels - especially when it comes to an actual meeting. I guess for some people that's difficult. Sometimes wires get crossed. It's a learning curve.

I don't think i've met anyone on Lit I would say isn't a good or nice person. Although there was one lady in the chat rooms once whsose profile said they were into roleplay without roles (or something). When I asked them what they meant i got the shortest of shrifts "are you an idiot?", "google is your friend!" Lol.... well you certainly aren't. Pffft, said I.

Onwards and upwards. Thanks

 

[Lilianna23]

According to the city budget, maintaining Intercourse is expensive.

They must not be doing it right!

 

[Quimpossibility]

Why do employers think they can ask for the earth and then pay peanuts???

I'll take Capitalism for £50 please bob!

 

[Noor]

I do hope that works for you. Have you tried it before? Be careful.

I’ve been on once a day since I had the initial reaction in November but never twice. It should have kept this from happening and it didn’t, steroids should have brought it down but after almost two months it hasn’t, so after checking blood work to make sure I can tolerate it, I’m trying it twice a day. Instead of just once.
I need this resolved and off this Ned entirely so I can try one that could throw me into remission but reacts with this drug. It’s kind of frustrating.
I took the second one about 90 mins ago and so far so good.

 

[Lilianna23]

I would love some chicken chip cookies... I really like mine and if I make a batch down the hatch they go

Try making a batch and freezing dough balls. I did that a lot for my husband as he would eat them as fast as I could bake them.. Just portion the dough as you would for individual cookies on a parchment paper covered cookie sheet. Slide the cookie sheet into the freezer until the balls are frozen. Then store them in a freezer bag. When you want, you can just take out a couple and bake them. Fresh CCC!

 

[Lilianna23]

I made a strawberry one once...it was good

I bet peach would be yummy in your tummy

Peach would be awesome! And maybe cherry? I'm allergic to bananas and strawberries.

 

[lliicckkss]

Try making a batch and freezing dough balls. I did that a lot for my husband as he would eat them as fast as I could bake them.. Just portion the dough as you would for individual cookies on a parchment paper covered cookie sheet. Slide the cookie sheet into the freezer until the balls are frozen. Then store them in a freezer bag. When you want, you can just take out a couple and bake them. Fresh CCC!

i dont eat sweets so chicken chip cookies sounds right up my alley

 

[Lilianna23]

Chicken.....chip.... Look ok I can appreciate a savory biscuit....but umm how can I trust a chicken chip? That sounds like it comes from an even shadier place in the bird than the infamous chicken nugget.

You must not be fluent in MissK!

 

[Lilianna23]

Dang it....chocolate chip....I should have just said m and m

I knew exactly what you meant! I'm fluent in MissK!

 

[lliicckkss]

haha i knew what ment , but definitely still like the chicken chip idea regardless haha

 

[Lilianna23]

They say it went well, thanks!
They replaced the ball, along with a couple inches of the bone, as the socket appeared to be in good shape.

I'm glad to hear that. Now, she will get to do the hard/fun part. PT! She needs to be as compliant as she can. The more she WILL do, the more she CAN do!