Thank You for Everything...

[Mskey]

Have you ever been in a position where you know whatever choice you make is going to be the wrong one?

Yeah, well that was me just a week or so ago. I realized that a friend of mine was becoming involved in a bit more then casual online flirtation with a person on this board who I respected a great deal. I knew this persons position concerning honesty from the people they became involved with and I knew too that my friend wasn't being at all honest.
I spoke with my friend and told him he should tell the poster in question the truth, tell them before things went to far and it was impossible to come clean without cutting a deep wound. He said he would but that he wanted to in his own way. He also asked if I could please keep the truth to myself until he found his moment. Well this is a very old friend. Someone I've known all my life. Someone who has been there in my darkest hours to stand by me and support me and so, I agreed.

He drug his feet something terrible, always waiting for the right moment to say something that was going to hurt no matter when he said it. Well he finally came clean and now,quite rightfully, the poster he was lying to thinks I'm a first class shit for keeping the truth to myself when I could have spared them alot of heartache by just opening my mouth. They've cut themselves off from me, for which I don't blame them one bit. In this persons eyes I commited an unforgiveable offense by disregarding the sorority of womanhood to uphold a promise to a friend.

Like I said I was screwed no matter what I did and so I chose the longstanding friendship over the new one.

I would like to publicly apologize to this poster, tho they most likely will never read my apology. I only wish that I could have spared them the pain they went through without turning on another friend, but I didn't see anyway I could.

At any rate it has never been my policy to make enemies, or to have people feel as if they have to put me on ignore so as not to see my postings. I know that this is what this person plans to do, and I don't want to ruin this place for her or to tarnish it in anyway by being here. So that said, I want to respectfully withdraw my posting on these forums. I will continue to read and be touched by your posts. I will continue to gain insight, laughter, from what I read, but out of respect for this person I will no longer post.

I never wanted for you to be hurt, not by any of this and if there was anyway for me to take it away I would, but in the end if I was asked again to chose between honoring my promise to HIM , or protecting you I would still not be able to turn my back to him.

Thanks to all of you for everything!

 

[Missingmeds]

Mskey,

This person is blaming you for someone else's screw up. Don't leave because of that. Let them put you on ignore and that way they don't have to see your posts.

They made the decision to accept what this person said they were. That isn't your fault. It also isn't your fault that you didn't say anything. Because chances are good that you wouldn't have been believed anyway.

So let them put you on ignore. Just don't deprieve the rest of us of your company because of one person.

 

[Bobmi357]

Mskey,
I am going to agree with MissingMeds about this. This isn't worth leaving the boards over.

However, I do hope you've learned not to get involved. The person that thinks you're a first class shit is off base. Its not your job to run around warning her not to get involved with people. And in the case of you knowing both parties, ITS DEFINITELY NOT YOUR JOB TO GET INVOLVED.

You did far more than I would have by telling the other person to come clean. People don't learn from their mistakes unless they get hurt by them. And butting into relationships is a sure fire way for a 3rd party to get hurt by two people.

 

[phoenix1224]

I totally agree with Missingmeds... You made a promise to a friend... And a promise is a promise... (A person is only as good as their word)

Your long-time friend screwed up... HE'S the one that lied... And HE'S the one that decided to continue with that lie even when you called him on it...

As for your Lit friend... She's angry with you because you didn't side with a fellow WOMAN?... What the fuck's up with that?

If she was ever a real friend, she'll realize that this was between the two of THEM and that you shouldn't have been put in the middle... She should be grateful that YOU got him to finally tell her the truth...

You did all you could do given the situation... Just let her put you on 'ignore' and post all you want...

 

[Missingmeds]

I tried to answer your last pm but it says your box is full and I am getting short on time so I will just say that I really don't want you to quit posting. What happened is between the two of them and you were unlucky enough to get caught in the middle. That makes it easy to blame you for someone not doing what they should have and checking things out to the fullest.

As to this trip, it has been months in the making and it was put off once for things beyond my control. That won't happen today and this is one of those trips that could have far reaching implications in more directions than one.

I have been looking forward to it for a while. I want to be there. I will be there.