Territoriality....You belong to me now

[O'Mac]

Hello all. I'm relatively new to the forums and new to BDSM. Just wanted to know what some people's view of territoriality is when concerning a Sub/Dom relationship.

Myself, I find I'm a very territorial person, and I'm hoping to instill a sense of ownership in my Sub partner. The whole scene is fairly new to us both at the moment (moreso with myself), but even after a few sessions, I'm starting to come up with my own ideas and fantasies for us. For example, I want to start posting images of her tied and bound online. Parading her or even just showing her under my control to others seems to appeal to me quite a bit, though I'm not entirely sure why.

I think for me it's more a point of effectively saying: "Look at what I can do to her. She's mine and mine alone."

Are there others who feel the same way? Is there any particular need to "show-off" your sub?

 

[Netzach]

I love to show off my subs,

sometimes I brag, dress them up prettily, drag them around and humiliate them, but I love when someone's looking.

However, this has very little to do with territoriality in a "back off" way, more to do with "look at my ferrari, I would even let you have the keys if I like you and trust you enough..."

I'm a sharer, so long as my superb taste is acknowledged.

 

[Leolover711]

I love to show off my subs,

sometimes I brag, dress them up prettily, drag them around and humiliate them, but I love when someone's looking.

However, this has very little to do with territoriality in a "back off" way, more to do with "look at my ferrari, I would even let you have the keys if I like you and trust you enough..."

I'm a sharer, so long as my superb taste is acknowledged.

Gee Netzach, if I'm ever in Seattle and need to use a car, I'll give you a call! lol I'm with you, though... having My sub perfrom well for someone else's pleasure is quite complimentary.

I find many though can not deal with sharing. So be careful or you may lose your subbies.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I love to show off my subs,

sometimes I brag, dress them up prettily, drag them around and humiliate them, but I love when someone's looking.

However, this has very little to do with territoriality in a "back off" way, more to do with "look at my ferrari, I would even let you have the keys if I like you and trust you enough..."

I'm a sharer, so long as my superb taste is acknowledged.

I'm the same way.

 

[O'Mac]

I find many though can not deal with sharing. So be careful or you may lose your subbies.

That's pretty much how I feel about it. I was never a kid who shared his toys, and I certainly don't want to share my pet either. With time that may change, of course, but I'm more content with the idea of showing off what I have but only allowing people to look and not touch. I wouldn't say its a problem at the moment though, but I know I don't want her to lose interest in the long run either.

 

[Seduce]

Funny...... I would consider word "territoriality" more in co relation with animal than human behaviour.
With people I would say "possessiveness".
Am I wrong or is it just the difference between English and my mother language?

 

[serijules]

D is possessive...she doesn't like other people touching her stuff, as she says.

I like it, heh. It makes me feel proud to belong, and safe. She will borrow me to others, but the circumstances have to be just so, and only if it amuses or entertains her to do so. I only orgasm for her, and my cunt belongs to her and only her.

I am possessive of her too though...being in a poly relationship and a quite a few of our friends visit her for play dates, etc...sharing her is something I do often. A few people have developed "crushes" on her and I tend to get rather pissy over that. It's something I have to watch myself on, as I know my place and I know nothing will threaten that.

 

[Softouch911]

Territoriality would suggest the opposite of sharing .... it is "you're Mine and Mine alone."

Sharing suggests pride in her and in your "trophy" or even just a exhibitionist streak.

One thing I"m finding about D/s and BDSM is that it pays to know how all of these things that tend to overlap break down into little divisions -- in this case: territory; exhibition; sharing ... each a different attitude. I am very much into both possession and exhibition. Neither pita nor I are interested in sharing her.

 

[O'Mac]

Funny...... I would consider word "territoriality" more in co relation with animal than human behaviour.
With people I would say "possessiveness".
Am I wrong or is it just the difference between English and my mother language?

Territoriality does occur in humans, and is similar to the behaviour pattern in animals. It essentially means to claim and defend a particular domain or sphere of influence. I think in some ways possessiveness is a more politically-correct form of the same concept.

I think I'm with the same mindset as Softouch911. Possession and exhibitionism intrigues me, though personally, I find no interest in polyamory or whatnot. I really like the idea of driving other mad knowing that my Sub is for me only, and that while they can look, they can't touch.

Interesting. Thanks for the feedback!

 

[kerker_miester]

Funny...... I would consider word "territoriality" more in co relation with animal than human behaviour.
With people I would say "possessiveness".
Am I wrong or is it just the difference between English and my mother language?

I think possessiveness is the better term I was very possessive of my sub. I would have loved to share her picture but she did not want to. One word of warning if you show off your sub be carefull. I finnally showed off my sub to one Dom then three weeks later she left me. She did not leave me for him but she has told me that she planns to try to get together with him later this year.

 

[Quint]

T loves to show me off when he's of the mind to. It's when someone moves in without his intention that he gets territorial. He has to be in control of the environment at all times, or his hackles rise.

 

[Shadowsdream]

I show off My subs and slaves because I am a proud Owner. If I lose them to another Dom/me it will not be because I have shown them off but because My Domination was not enough or was too much for them. I have no fear or concern to show off and display and even share on My whim.

 

[SkyBluAngelEyes]

T loves to show me off when he's of the mind to. It's when someone moves in without his intention that he gets territorial. He has to be in control of the environment at all times, or his hackles rise.

As this was my late Master's ritual. Show me off, but nobody was to touch.

 

[O'Mac]

I show off My subs and slaves because I am a proud Owner. If I lose them to another Dom/me it will not be because I have shown them off but because My Domination was not enough or was too much for them. I have no fear or concern to show off and display and even share on My whim.

The problem is that I just have the one.

Seriously though, one is all I really want. Our bedroom roles are just one aspect out of many that we have in our relationship and I'm not really looking to getting anyone else (though now that you mentioned it....). Basically, I'm hoping that even with this lifestyle change we'll both stay close to each other.

Even if that does mean I get to show her off.

 

[TigerClaw]

I have stated from the begining I will not share.

Have no use nor desire for a Poly for myself. I am possessive. It is nice to feel like you can protect your woman. Better yet to want to. Just be sure you have someone who respects that in your life.

 

[Marquis]

T loves to show me off when he's of the mind to. It's when someone moves in without his intention that he gets territorial. He has to be in control of the environment at all times, or his hackles rise.

I'm the same way.

I'd like to get to the Netzach "check out my Ferrari" philosophy, but I know what a fucking asshole I am and I wouldn't trust others to be different. If someone let me use their sub, I doubt I'd have the respect to just take what I've been offered and be happy with it. I'd always want to make it personal somehow, get the sub to give me something (if nothing more than a bashful glance) that her PYL never intended.

 

[Quint]

I'm the same way.

I'd like to get to the Netzach "check out my Ferrari" philosophy, but I know what a fucking asshole I am and I wouldn't trust others to be different. If someone let me use their sub, I doubt I'd have the respect to just take what I've been offered and be happy with it. I'd always want to make it personal somehow, get the sub to give me something (if nothing more than a bashful glance) that her PYL never intended.

Eeyup.

And Hawaii was sounding so tempting too...

 

[Leolover711]

Territoriality does occur in humans, and is similar to the behaviour pattern in animals. It essentially means to claim and defend a particular domain or sphere of influence. I think in some ways possessiveness is a more politically-correct form of the same concept.

I think I'm with the same mindset as Softouch911. Possession and exhibitionism intrigues me, though personally, I find no interest in polyamory or whatnot. I really like the idea of driving other mad knowing that my Sub is for me only, and that while they can look, they can't touch.

Interesting. Thanks for the feedback!

So if I piss on on MY sub, I am an territorial, animalistic, human that desires to possess His sub? LOL

 

[Leolover711]

I'm the same way.

I'd like to get to the Netzach "check out my Ferrari" philosophy, but I know what a fucking asshole I am and I wouldn't trust others to be different. If someone let me use their sub, I doubt I'd have the respect to just take what I've been offered and be happy with it. I'd always want to make it personal somehow, get the sub to give me something (if nothing more than a bashful glance) that her PYL never intended.

Marquis, the thing I have come to respect and like about you is that while you may be an asshole ( I am not calling you one, you self pronounce that), you are very honest. Note to Self, never ever let Marquis share My subs.

 

[Netzach]

I'm the same way.

I'd like to get to the Netzach "check out my Ferrari" philosophy, but I know what a fucking asshole I am and I wouldn't trust others to be different. If someone let me use their sub, I doubt I'd have the respect to just take what I've been offered and be happy with it. I'd always want to make it personal somehow, get the sub to give me something (if nothing more than a bashful glance) that her PYL never intended.

My tendencies in that direction have been overridden by the extremely generous and trusting people who have lent me their loved ones as crash-test dummies over the years. Without good faith and good will I would not know how to do a lot of the things I do well. It is enlightened self-interest at times to be a polite borrower and not leave coffee cups in the back of the ferrari.

 

[graceanne]

Funny...... I would consider word "territoriality" more in co relation with animal than human behaviour.
With people I would say "possessiveness".
Am I wrong or is it just the difference between English and my mother language?

Most humans are territorial, whether they consider it to be that or not. They're just territorial about different things. For instance, my mother is extreemly territorial about her kitchen. You move anything, you die. My sister is territorial about her children. Men tend to be territorial about vehicles, garages, and women.

As for me, I don't share well, and neither does Kenny. So we're territorial about eachother. But K does like me to wear low cut shirts when we go out, and things like that. He also likes it when I sing. I dont' know if it's a matter of him liking to hear my voice, or that it gets us attention. *shrugs* I'll have to ask him, lol.

 

[Marquis]

My tendencies in that direction have been overridden by the extremely generous and trusting people who have lent me their loved ones as crash-test dummies over the years. Without good faith and good will I would not know how to do a lot of the things I do well. It is enlightened self-interest at times to be a polite borrower and not leave coffee cups in the back of the ferrari.

Capice.

 

[h_i_s]

I think for me it's more a point of effectively saying: "Look at what I can do to her. She's mine and mine alone."

Are there others who feel the same way? Is there any particular need to "show-off" your sub?

i know that my Master takes great pride in His ownership of me, and has told me more than on just one occasion that i am His most prized possessions of which He is very proud to own.

He takes great pleasure in showing me off a bit, as well as simply enjoying looking at, inspecting, observing, and watching me Himself. He doesn't parade me naked, but does enjoy dressing me in clothing which He has shopped for & chosen Himself. Many times the clothing which He chooses involve the lowest of all low rise type hip hugging jeans, paired with backless halter type shirts, and very high heeled open toed shoes. At home, i'm usually free to choose what i wear on a daily basis. Prior to our going out for an evening, He chooses to tell me which outfit He has decided i will wear.

Other than that, He does enjoy posing me, & then photographing me. Most times those photos are reserved for His enjoyment alone and are not shared with others, except for the few occasions when He has chosen a favorite photo which He directs me to use as my current avatar here at Literotica.

 

[Betticus]

I think I've mentioned this aspect of behaviour several times in the past. No one touches what is mine! Don't parade them for others amusement either.

Just me though, your mileage may vary.

 

[Her sissy slave]

territory and possessiveness

i do not know about male Dom/female sub-slave

but as a guy slave?
i crave to be Owned and be possessed(s?).
i simply melt when She says You are mine!
but it's just me.

thanks